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Morning brothers,
I have an observation/question. I've been in social circle dynamics quite often now and I have been the recipient of some female technique I don't know how to respond to. The reasoning why I informed you about social circle above is because it has happened 3 times this year and I think I am missing something.
What are these girls doing to you, Alcaeus?
-They walk/move/adjust their body into my air space and move their face one inch from my face.
When I walk into somewhere new, like a room or elevator, a female friend who I am on good terms with walks into my bubble and sticks her face one inch from my face and holds it there for 1 second (It feels like 10 minutes). It's a lot of sexual and sometimes social pressure and my mind has gone blank on all three occasions because the magnitude of sexual tension that was instantly generated knocked the mental wind out of me and I go blank.
I'm not sure what it is exactly, but it is a powerful technique. The first two times I moved my head back, because I am a little bitch that can't handle the tension.
The third time I held in there and I actually brought my head closer and then we were to the point, where our foreheads were resting on each others. In that moment I wanted to kiss her but chose not to because I was scared she might reject me (I know, this does sound like an approach window but let me finish). The thing is, all 3 times, there were other people around and I am not sure if she is using me for social value.
Don't get me wrong, I have been around the block a couple times and know how to pull the trigger when a girl is alone with me, it's situations like this that I struggle with.
Female Utilty of this technique (Things I think these girls are using the face tension for)
-Screen out the dominant men from the not so dominant man. Who is willing to kiss her in public with people watching.
-Social ladder climbing. She can raise tension so high to get me in the mood to kiss and then when I go for it, she backs up and gives me a surprised and or skeptical look. This is my biggest fear, because she throws me under the bus and then a mutual friend is there to confirm and back her up that I am thirsty.
-Escalation Window. Similar to #1 but a more in your face form that communicates we have chemistry but you are missing subtler, hints.
-Just for laughs. To throw me off guard and see how I react o.0
About point 3. Since I miss the kiss escalation window, does that mean she auto reject me? I, myself feel like auto rejecting, because as petty and silly as this seem, she is fucking with my social value and I don't want to tarnish it for a social circle girl I can replace with a girl outside my circle.
This is all speculation so I would love for others to share their thoughts
All I know is when these girls do it to me, I see them in a new light, and then I feel myself slowly begin to chase them mentally at first, because I can't stop thinking about the event, and then we all know when mental investment happens, it bleeds into other forms of chasing too.
All in all, I want to try it out myself, but I feel like I am playing with something dangerous, because what if the girl misses the escalation window and then auto rejects to project her own ego.
Let me hear your thoughts, Gents
-Alcay
I have an observation/question. I've been in social circle dynamics quite often now and I have been the recipient of some female technique I don't know how to respond to. The reasoning why I informed you about social circle above is because it has happened 3 times this year and I think I am missing something.
What are these girls doing to you, Alcaeus?
-They walk/move/adjust their body into my air space and move their face one inch from my face.
When I walk into somewhere new, like a room or elevator, a female friend who I am on good terms with walks into my bubble and sticks her face one inch from my face and holds it there for 1 second (It feels like 10 minutes). It's a lot of sexual and sometimes social pressure and my mind has gone blank on all three occasions because the magnitude of sexual tension that was instantly generated knocked the mental wind out of me and I go blank.
I'm not sure what it is exactly, but it is a powerful technique. The first two times I moved my head back, because I am a little bitch that can't handle the tension.
The third time I held in there and I actually brought my head closer and then we were to the point, where our foreheads were resting on each others. In that moment I wanted to kiss her but chose not to because I was scared she might reject me (I know, this does sound like an approach window but let me finish). The thing is, all 3 times, there were other people around and I am not sure if she is using me for social value.
Don't get me wrong, I have been around the block a couple times and know how to pull the trigger when a girl is alone with me, it's situations like this that I struggle with.
Female Utilty of this technique (Things I think these girls are using the face tension for)
-Screen out the dominant men from the not so dominant man. Who is willing to kiss her in public with people watching.
-Social ladder climbing. She can raise tension so high to get me in the mood to kiss and then when I go for it, she backs up and gives me a surprised and or skeptical look. This is my biggest fear, because she throws me under the bus and then a mutual friend is there to confirm and back her up that I am thirsty.
-Escalation Window. Similar to #1 but a more in your face form that communicates we have chemistry but you are missing subtler, hints.
-Just for laughs. To throw me off guard and see how I react o.0
About point 3. Since I miss the kiss escalation window, does that mean she auto reject me? I, myself feel like auto rejecting, because as petty and silly as this seem, she is fucking with my social value and I don't want to tarnish it for a social circle girl I can replace with a girl outside my circle.
This is all speculation so I would love for others to share their thoughts
All I know is when these girls do it to me, I see them in a new light, and then I feel myself slowly begin to chase them mentally at first, because I can't stop thinking about the event, and then we all know when mental investment happens, it bleeds into other forms of chasing too.
All in all, I want to try it out myself, but I feel like I am playing with something dangerous, because what if the girl misses the escalation window and then auto rejects to project her own ego.
Let me hear your thoughts, Gents
-Alcay
