BACKGROUND
I arrive to this new city late in the afternoon. I need to sleep: I set the alarm at around 11:00 pm, get dressed and go out.
I had to force myself to go out and I am totally "in my head".
On the first approach I almost hope she won't follow me as I'm no in a social mood, but she does.
FIRST BAR
I'm brand new here, so I can't "lead the way". I tell her to bring us to some bar, she chooses which one.
She takes some money out but she was very open saying she's bumming off places to sleep from friends, so even with a not so good salary I'm order of magnitudes better off and take care of it.
All great at the bar: we bond very well. Actually maybe even too well as this will now set expectations quite high for the following time.
We sit in front of each other, no chance of touching but I don't feel it's a big issue at all at this point.
SECOND CLUB
I follow her again for directions, not great, but hard to lead when you know shit all about the place. I tell her to slow down by grabbing her and she apologies for running.
I'm quite tired.
She wants to pay but I put down 10 euros and tell her to chip in with just 1: again I feel it's for the best once I know fully well how financially wrecked she is.
Here we don't bond so much, the music is louder and much more distractions around.
She dances a couple of times, I don't.
We are physically closer though sitting side by side: I kino a bit with her hair and her shoulders.
I am still upbeat and happy, but I feel it's a step back from the first bar: there's no forward momentum, it's a bit of a feeling with crested.
Yet I somehow think the night might be young, she said it's been "such a long time she hasn't partied, she needs it", but...
FAILED PULL
... She suddenly says she has to go as she needs to get up early.
This is the first time I propose to leave to my place. Several times before I pulled a girl after she had already said she had to leave, but it was different when it happened successfully: there was already a much higher physical connection as we had already kissed most of the times and/or kinoed substantially (in spite this website suggests not to kiss/get physical).
We leave together but I don't manage to convince her to follow -and of course, if you need convincing, you haven't laid a proper foundation earlier on-.
WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE?
I thought:
-I should have danced with her to switch from bonding to fun times ;
-Should have kept talking and bonding ;
-Should have gotten more physical ;
-Should have gone for the kiss (was wary of this as way too many times I went too early for the kiss)
....
I arrive to this new city late in the afternoon. I need to sleep: I set the alarm at around 11:00 pm, get dressed and go out.
I had to force myself to go out and I am totally "in my head".
On the first approach I almost hope she won't follow me as I'm no in a social mood, but she does.
FIRST BAR
I'm brand new here, so I can't "lead the way". I tell her to bring us to some bar, she chooses which one.
She takes some money out but she was very open saying she's bumming off places to sleep from friends, so even with a not so good salary I'm order of magnitudes better off and take care of it.
All great at the bar: we bond very well. Actually maybe even too well as this will now set expectations quite high for the following time.
We sit in front of each other, no chance of touching but I don't feel it's a big issue at all at this point.
SECOND CLUB
I follow her again for directions, not great, but hard to lead when you know shit all about the place. I tell her to slow down by grabbing her and she apologies for running.
I'm quite tired.
She wants to pay but I put down 10 euros and tell her to chip in with just 1: again I feel it's for the best once I know fully well how financially wrecked she is.
Here we don't bond so much, the music is louder and much more distractions around.
She dances a couple of times, I don't.
We are physically closer though sitting side by side: I kino a bit with her hair and her shoulders.
I am still upbeat and happy, but I feel it's a step back from the first bar: there's no forward momentum, it's a bit of a feeling with crested.
Yet I somehow think the night might be young, she said it's been "such a long time she hasn't partied, she needs it", but...
FAILED PULL
... She suddenly says she has to go as she needs to get up early.
This is the first time I propose to leave to my place. Several times before I pulled a girl after she had already said she had to leave, but it was different when it happened successfully: there was already a much higher physical connection as we had already kissed most of the times and/or kinoed substantially (in spite this website suggests not to kiss/get physical).
We leave together but I don't manage to convince her to follow -and of course, if you need convincing, you haven't laid a proper foundation earlier on-.
WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE?
I thought:
-I should have danced with her to switch from bonding to fun times ;
-Should have kept talking and bonding ;
-Should have gotten more physical ;
-Should have gone for the kiss (was wary of this as way too many times I went too early for the kiss)
....
