Its approximately 1:30 pm on a Sunday. I am sitting in a coffee shop studying by the window with my back to the wall so girls can see me as they walk by and as soon as they come into the shop. After I am there for about half an hour, a blond girl walks in and sits beside me on my left. I am not interested in this girl and I'm pretty sure she only sits there due to lack of seating. I only mention her because she will be important later.
About 10 minutes later, in my peripheral vision I notice a tall, slender girl walk in and get in line for coffee. After she grabs her drink, she takes the seat perpendicular to me on my right side, but not before saying hi to the blonde on my left. She then proceeds to prep her area to study. She hasn't looked at me yet, as far as I can tell. Once she sits down, I notice that she is a really cute redhead.
I continue to work, "oblivious" to her presence, and she begins to study. Within a few minutes, her head turns in my direction and she looks at my bag, then my shirt and finally my face. Then she quickly turns her head back towards her studies. I'm still typing and reading on my laptop. A couple minutes later, she looks down at my shoes and my pants and then begins to scan the floor where my feet are. She then moves her hair behind her shoulders, sits back in her chair and periodically messes with her hair. She keeps her eyes focused on her book during this. All of this, I can see in my peripheral vision.
I know. I know. You're probably thinking "That's a green light bro. Go for it!". Yeah well my brain was thinking that too. Only my brain was fighting with all my thoughts giving me rational explanations for what she was doing. So she messes about with her hair for a few more minutes(not constantly, about every 30 seconds or so) while I am still at war in my brain. Finally she stops, leans forward in her chair again, puts her hands on her face and continues to look at her book.
Just like that, I know the moment is gone. It has happened before. And just like on many of those such occasions, I seem to find my courage once I know its over. Like there is no pressure anymore. So a few minutes later I grow some miniature testes(at which point she actually looks kinda stressed about whatever she is studying), place my hand on her forearm and open her:
*She recoils a little bit at my touch and sits up in her chair with a worried(anxious maybe) look on her face.*
Me: Hey, I couldn't help but notice you here. I think you are really cute. I'm HotGuy19.
Her: *She smiles as she realizes I am complimenting her*
Thank you. I'm Redhead142
Me: Its lovely to meet you Redhead142.
*She goes for a handshake and I try to turn it into a handclasp but it ends up somewhere in the middle(maybe I should try forcing it more? Idk).
Me: So what are you working on over there? Looks like some pretty intense math.
Her: I'm working on my CFP. It's the Certified Financial Planner exam. I work at (already forgot the company).
Me: Ooo…interesting. That also explains why you seemed so stressed earlier( I should have asked why she was interested in the CFP here, as opposed to bringing up negative emotions).
Her: Yeah, it's been a lot of hard work.
Me: Well, all the most worthwhile things in life require a lot of work.
Her: So true…so do you work in the area?(god I hate this question)
Me: Alright, don't freak out…I work at Company456.
Her: Haha. You and half the city. What do you do there?(I hate this one too)
Me: (I can't remember how I explained what I do. Let's just say it was less than compelling. I do tech work/troubleshooting network issues, etc. and I always have trouble explaining what it is exactly I do in a way that sounds relatable or fun.)
Her: Oh that's cool.
Me: Yeah, I enjoy it quite a bit…you wanna hang out some time? (I didn't go for the number on a high point. I just sorta asked)
Her: *Smiles* I'm really busy right now. I'm finding it hard to make time for a social life.
Me: Well, I'm pretty busy too. I'm sure there is an open spot somewhere in your schedule.
Her: I don't know.
Me: How about this. We exchange numbers, I'll shoot you a message, and if you're not into it you don't have to respond(I feel as if I screwed something up here)
Her: Ok.
*We exchange contact info and she sends me a message*
Me: What's that you're hiding around your neck? Is that a brass necklace?
Her: Oh its just a cheap necklace I got from a gift shop.
Me: (Don't remember what I said here)
Her: I should probably get back to studying though. (Dang, I'm supposed to end the interaction)
Me: Yeah, you better get to it.
**I continue studying there for another half hour.
**I sent her a typical good will text a couple hours later, to which she never responded.
I should also mention my eye contact wasn't the best during this interaction. Her lips were in desperate need of some chapstick and I probably looked at them about every 20 seconds or so. I seem to be an expert in finding irrelevant flaws to look at during an interaction. I also failed to touch her or move closer to her. I essentially failed to do anything sexual whatsoever.
Be vicious commenters. I can take it.
Goals for the week:
" Focus on good eye contact.
" Figure out what you should say when women ask you about where you work
" Approach at least 1 woman/day spontaneously
I discovered girls chase about a year ago and have since lost my virginity and had sex one other time. However, they both feel like flukes. In the past few months I have been getting more and more attention from girls due to changes in clothes, walk, grooming etc. but have been consistently failing to close and capitalize on approach invitations.
Thanks for taking a look.
About 10 minutes later, in my peripheral vision I notice a tall, slender girl walk in and get in line for coffee. After she grabs her drink, she takes the seat perpendicular to me on my right side, but not before saying hi to the blonde on my left. She then proceeds to prep her area to study. She hasn't looked at me yet, as far as I can tell. Once she sits down, I notice that she is a really cute redhead.
I continue to work, "oblivious" to her presence, and she begins to study. Within a few minutes, her head turns in my direction and she looks at my bag, then my shirt and finally my face. Then she quickly turns her head back towards her studies. I'm still typing and reading on my laptop. A couple minutes later, she looks down at my shoes and my pants and then begins to scan the floor where my feet are. She then moves her hair behind her shoulders, sits back in her chair and periodically messes with her hair. She keeps her eyes focused on her book during this. All of this, I can see in my peripheral vision.
I know. I know. You're probably thinking "That's a green light bro. Go for it!". Yeah well my brain was thinking that too. Only my brain was fighting with all my thoughts giving me rational explanations for what she was doing. So she messes about with her hair for a few more minutes(not constantly, about every 30 seconds or so) while I am still at war in my brain. Finally she stops, leans forward in her chair again, puts her hands on her face and continues to look at her book.
Just like that, I know the moment is gone. It has happened before. And just like on many of those such occasions, I seem to find my courage once I know its over. Like there is no pressure anymore. So a few minutes later I grow some miniature testes(at which point she actually looks kinda stressed about whatever she is studying), place my hand on her forearm and open her:
*She recoils a little bit at my touch and sits up in her chair with a worried(anxious maybe) look on her face.*
Me: Hey, I couldn't help but notice you here. I think you are really cute. I'm HotGuy19.
Her: *She smiles as she realizes I am complimenting her*
Thank you. I'm Redhead142
Me: Its lovely to meet you Redhead142.
*She goes for a handshake and I try to turn it into a handclasp but it ends up somewhere in the middle(maybe I should try forcing it more? Idk).
Me: So what are you working on over there? Looks like some pretty intense math.
Her: I'm working on my CFP. It's the Certified Financial Planner exam. I work at (already forgot the company).
Me: Ooo…interesting. That also explains why you seemed so stressed earlier( I should have asked why she was interested in the CFP here, as opposed to bringing up negative emotions).
Her: Yeah, it's been a lot of hard work.
Me: Well, all the most worthwhile things in life require a lot of work.
Her: So true…so do you work in the area?(god I hate this question)
Me: Alright, don't freak out…I work at Company456.
Her: Haha. You and half the city. What do you do there?(I hate this one too)
Me: (I can't remember how I explained what I do. Let's just say it was less than compelling. I do tech work/troubleshooting network issues, etc. and I always have trouble explaining what it is exactly I do in a way that sounds relatable or fun.)
Her: Oh that's cool.
Me: Yeah, I enjoy it quite a bit…you wanna hang out some time? (I didn't go for the number on a high point. I just sorta asked)
Her: *Smiles* I'm really busy right now. I'm finding it hard to make time for a social life.
Me: Well, I'm pretty busy too. I'm sure there is an open spot somewhere in your schedule.
Her: I don't know.
Me: How about this. We exchange numbers, I'll shoot you a message, and if you're not into it you don't have to respond(I feel as if I screwed something up here)
Her: Ok.
*We exchange contact info and she sends me a message*
Me: What's that you're hiding around your neck? Is that a brass necklace?
Her: Oh its just a cheap necklace I got from a gift shop.
Me: (Don't remember what I said here)
Her: I should probably get back to studying though. (Dang, I'm supposed to end the interaction)
Me: Yeah, you better get to it.
**I continue studying there for another half hour.
**I sent her a typical good will text a couple hours later, to which she never responded.
I should also mention my eye contact wasn't the best during this interaction. Her lips were in desperate need of some chapstick and I probably looked at them about every 20 seconds or so. I seem to be an expert in finding irrelevant flaws to look at during an interaction. I also failed to touch her or move closer to her. I essentially failed to do anything sexual whatsoever.
Be vicious commenters. I can take it.
Goals for the week:
" Focus on good eye contact.
" Figure out what you should say when women ask you about where you work
" Approach at least 1 woman/day spontaneously
I discovered girls chase about a year ago and have since lost my virginity and had sex one other time. However, they both feel like flukes. In the past few months I have been getting more and more attention from girls due to changes in clothes, walk, grooming etc. but have been consistently failing to close and capitalize on approach invitations.
Thanks for taking a look.
