FU Failure but I'm learning 1/29

[thedude]

Last night I was at my dining hall job and I decided to talk to the Indian chick that works the shift before me.

I say hello, we introduce ourselves and when I mention that I actually go to school here(not some weird townie) her eyes light up.

So I believe things are going well, I ask her about her job(serving food to people) then I use what I read in Mystery's book about providing feelings, I say something like this

Me: Your job is interesting, as you go throughout the day meeting so many different people. You see who is sad or happy and the differences between them all.

Something like that and she is saying"ya" and smiling the whole time.

She asks me my major, I tell her then ask her, she's computer science and I decide to try the same again...

Me: When your programming you start from nothing and slowly build it up bit by bit, hammering out the bugs until you've finished something really cool and it's so satisfying.

I say something like that(I can't remember the exact words and It needs improvement too) but she is nodding and agreeing the entire time. Then I make a joke about programmers banging their heads against walls because, well programming.

So in my head I'm like, this is going great! Time to get the number <lol

Bad idea. I say we should grab coffee sometime and she agrees, I then ask "How do I keep in touch with you?"

She asks do I have facebook. I know that this usually means it sucks.

Should I just go along with it or it doesn't really matter since it's fucked anyway?

I say "aaaah sure", she understands and it gets kind of awkward when she pulls out her phone. I give her my number. We banter a little bit more about her shitty android phone. Afterwards I have a feeling it's done and I was right, never got a text.

I think I need to add stories(build attraction), negs/false disqualifiers(show funny disinterest into my interactions next. Then I'll start seeing some awesome results.

 

[Mystique]

Hey man, you gotta chill. You're making progress, you don't have to title all your field reports as FUs (fuck ups). Good luck on your journey to mastery

 

[thedude]

I've been on this forum since I joined college.

I don't have any excuse for still sucking. Especially when Richard and Tool got good in 3 months....

 

[Smurf]

I've been on this forum since I joined college.

I don't have any excuse for still sucking. Especially when Richard and Tool got good in 3 months....

Hey dude, it's all good. I've been on these boards since sophomore year of high school and still suck

It all comes down to how much action you're taking honestly. I decided I'm gonna' take more action so I can get good now. Try setting some approach goals for yourself. Go out everyday and approach at least two girls. Just go to the grocery store and start up a conversation. Get used to it. And seriously, unless you seriously FUCKED UP, it's just a FR. I don't see anywhere where you seriously screwed yourself over. Just keep at it man, let's get better together.

Jake.

 

[Richard]

Buddy,

I will tell you this; a lot of times you talk about gaming women you make it sound very forced. You may, or may not have noticed that everyone who gets great with women starts by playing to their strengths; what are the things in seduction you do naturally? You've talked to me enough to know that I'm naturally funny/humorous, and I'm quick witted with sexual remarks/puns/etc. and you'll notice that in all of my FRs or LRs I mostly use my humor and sexual nature because it's already smooth.

You've read enough articles, and seen enough techniques and tips to know that some of them have stood out to you. Maybe you read an article on body language and you have that AHA moment and realize that you've been reading body language your entire life then you know body language is something to incorporate into your game.

Figure out what you do naturally and use it. Play to your strengths at first, then when girls become consistent start to fix your weaknesses.

-Richard

 

[thedude]

Buddy,

I will tell you this; a lot of times you talk about gaming women you make it sound very forced. You may, or may not have noticed that everyone who gets great with women starts by playing to their strengths; what are the things in seduction you do naturally? You've talked to me enough to know that I'm naturally funny/humorous, and I'm quick witted with sexual remarks/puns/etc. and you'll notice that in all of my FRs or LRs I mostly use my humor and sexual nature because it's already smooth.

You've read enough articles, and seen enough techniques and tips to know that some of them have stood out to you. Maybe you read an article on body language and you have that AHA moment and realize that you've been reading body language your entire life then you know body language is something to incorporate into your game.

Figure out what you do naturally and use it. Play to your strengths at first, then when girls become consistent start to fix your weaknesses.

-Richard

You know Richard I've been thinking a lot about this and I have to say not much or at least none that I can think of easily has ever come naturally to me in pickup.

From starting conversations to knowing what to say, it has always been tough...

One thing I have is a sharp sarcastic humor but I've never been good at making it sexual. It gets me into the door(I've have three dates within the past 3 days) but I can't close(I didn't get laid on any of them).

I've been reading about patterns and giving strong emotions to women, perhaps this how I'll fill the holes in my game.