Shit, I don't have experience with this personally but you can tell a girl to stick a finger in your ass while she's giving you a blowjob or something. Or maybe get a girl to screw you with a dildo or something since you're not attracted to men. I don't know how you can get the latter in a one night stand though, you'll probably need a friends with benefits or some type of relationship for that. Since I have no personal experience with this I don't know the implications of that in a relationship, and the amount of shit testing or dominance testing you'll encounter. I imagine if you're sexual enough and have that dominant, sexual frame and you find the right girl, it should be fine in a relationship or something and she'd might even expect you to be a little uh sexually adventurous. Maybe you're sexually fluid and might be attracted to ladies with an, um, extra part like ladyboys, some of them look just like regular girls. IDK what that urge means but don't be afraid to ask yourself tough questions, honest answers and always remain true to yourself (sounds a little corny) but I think that's important nonetheless. Having a strong sense of self and purpose is very important to achieving all types of goals and achievements and having purpose is attractive to women. There's nothing like a guy who is dominant and knows what he wants out of life and will not put her on a pedestal. Are you doing like a nofap thing?