Hey guys,
So I met this girl several months ago on a dating app and we have been FB's ever since. We've been on like 7 dates together, and have had sex like 6 times. It was pretty steamy/intimate sex and the most recent dates were getting pretty nice (e.g. nice restaurants, jazz clubs). I have only ever seen her at most once per week, and we text infrequently--only to set up dates. Last night we went to the jazz club, went back to her place, smoked, and had sex. What happened next is the topic of this post:
"So what are we?"
This is the question I was dreading to hear from her. Things had been great--casual sex with no strings attached. She mentioned that early in our relationship she was still dating around, but now it was just me.
A disclosure: I got out of a long term relationship about 7 months ago and have not had a girlfriend since. Started practicing pickup about 2 months ago.
Currently I have one other FB and go on 1-2 other dates per week in addition to night game 2-3 times per week. Therefore, I'm pretty entrenched in the pickup game and I am not ready to be exclusive with anyone.
She's disappointed and also surprised by my response. I ask her if there was anything that I did to lead her on. She suggests maybe it was how nice the dates were and that I was inviting her to concerts. She also just suggests that we have been seeing each other for a while, so what's the next step? Where do we go from here?
How to keep a FB satisfied?
I wound up leaving this girl's apartment with the feeling that we probably won't be seeing each other again. I feel like this is best as things are now a little too complicated with emotions to have a casual relationship.
On my way home I read a GC article about how to keep FB's casual, but it mainly focused on choosing the right type of girl: someone confident enough to deter female friends asking "so is he your bf or what?" and someone who is low drama.
I think this girl was low drama, but perhaps a little lacking in the confidence department. However, I would like to know how to keep a casual relationship long-term with ANY type of girl.
How to not lead a FB on?
I stuck to the one date per week and infrequent texting rules, but I still got the impression that she felt led on! What happened???
Here are some of my ideas:
Does anyone else have any other ideas? This FB lasted about 2 months, but I would like to have FB's for YEARS that is possible with ANY type of girl.
Cheers,
BigS
So I met this girl several months ago on a dating app and we have been FB's ever since. We've been on like 7 dates together, and have had sex like 6 times. It was pretty steamy/intimate sex and the most recent dates were getting pretty nice (e.g. nice restaurants, jazz clubs). I have only ever seen her at most once per week, and we text infrequently--only to set up dates. Last night we went to the jazz club, went back to her place, smoked, and had sex. What happened next is the topic of this post:
"So what are we?"
This is the question I was dreading to hear from her. Things had been great--casual sex with no strings attached. She mentioned that early in our relationship she was still dating around, but now it was just me.
A disclosure: I got out of a long term relationship about 7 months ago and have not had a girlfriend since. Started practicing pickup about 2 months ago.
Currently I have one other FB and go on 1-2 other dates per week in addition to night game 2-3 times per week. Therefore, I'm pretty entrenched in the pickup game and I am not ready to be exclusive with anyone.
She's disappointed and also surprised by my response. I ask her if there was anything that I did to lead her on. She suggests maybe it was how nice the dates were and that I was inviting her to concerts. She also just suggests that we have been seeing each other for a while, so what's the next step? Where do we go from here?
How to keep a FB satisfied?
I wound up leaving this girl's apartment with the feeling that we probably won't be seeing each other again. I feel like this is best as things are now a little too complicated with emotions to have a casual relationship.
On my way home I read a GC article about how to keep FB's casual, but it mainly focused on choosing the right type of girl: someone confident enough to deter female friends asking "so is he your bf or what?" and someone who is low drama.
I think this girl was low drama, but perhaps a little lacking in the confidence department. However, I would like to know how to keep a casual relationship long-term with ANY type of girl.
How to not lead a FB on?
I stuck to the one date per week and infrequent texting rules, but I still got the impression that she felt led on! What happened???
Here are some of my ideas:
- 1. I took her on too nice of dates.
2. I took her on too many dates at all. Should have gone straight to sex more often.
3. Sex was too intimate/too much nonverbal communication of intimacy.
4. I should go from one date per week to two dates per month.
Does anyone else have any other ideas? This FB lasted about 2 months, but I would like to have FB's for YEARS that is possible with ANY type of girl.
Cheers,
BigS
