Hey all!
Not totally sure what to focus on other than fundamentals. I have the confidence to approach anyone, but triggering sexual interest is just not happening. The reception is always warm, I tease them, get to know basics, try to hint at some of my cooler points, but once I'm asking them out, it seems like they're a bit surprised things led to that.
Let me know if you notice any clues from the following interactions! Also, any details I could add to help diagnose better?
At the gym (as usual) ran into 3 (4) previous girls and had a new one chat me up. I have the contact of 1 who seems warm, the pair where I asked out the not single one, then 1 whose basically a gym bro (tomboy who got engaged a week ago).
The first was glad I wasn't moving away (long story) and had a very warm facial expression with me, I had initiated with touching her shoulder from the side and at some point she touched back. I've asked her out a couple times over text, but she hasn't bitten, didn't spend a ton of time with her, but chatted and made eye contact a couple times throughout the workout (she'd smile/wave first).
With the pair, they were on hip thrust machines, which I needed for my last exercise lol. I'd chat a bit in between their sets, but felt awkward for me to be there with them hip thrusting. The single one seemed warm, but due to the strangeness, I went over to the gym bro chick once I saw her. We chatted for a while, then the pair moved on and I finished my workout.
I rounded back to fill up my bottle and a cute, new worker started talking to me about my workout and her approach to lifting. She stayed for a while and I teased a bit, but I bowed out first for whatever reason (probably should've checked if she was single).
Chatted with the tomboy a while (with the pair just 10 yards away lol), then said bye. The single girl of the pair had removed some layers and looked amazing now, so I went over and said, "You look fantastic! Where were these clothes last time?" (playfully). UNFORTUNATELY, she didn't understand (Spanish) and the other one seemed to try translating, so probably fell flat. To put the cherry on this one, I for some amazing reason said, "Well you're in a relationship (toward the first one I had asked out), (toward single one) would you like to hangout sometime?" *facepalm*. She said we'll see, and with a grin, I just confidently said, "okay, I'll let you think about it," and left.
Thanks all!
P.S. I'm serious about my fitness and am in pretty good shape and usually am clearly affected by pushing hard (sweat, tired, etc.)
Not totally sure what to focus on other than fundamentals. I have the confidence to approach anyone, but triggering sexual interest is just not happening. The reception is always warm, I tease them, get to know basics, try to hint at some of my cooler points, but once I'm asking them out, it seems like they're a bit surprised things led to that.
Let me know if you notice any clues from the following interactions! Also, any details I could add to help diagnose better?
At the gym (as usual) ran into 3 (4) previous girls and had a new one chat me up. I have the contact of 1 who seems warm, the pair where I asked out the not single one, then 1 whose basically a gym bro (tomboy who got engaged a week ago).
The first was glad I wasn't moving away (long story) and had a very warm facial expression with me, I had initiated with touching her shoulder from the side and at some point she touched back. I've asked her out a couple times over text, but she hasn't bitten, didn't spend a ton of time with her, but chatted and made eye contact a couple times throughout the workout (she'd smile/wave first).
With the pair, they were on hip thrust machines, which I needed for my last exercise lol. I'd chat a bit in between their sets, but felt awkward for me to be there with them hip thrusting. The single one seemed warm, but due to the strangeness, I went over to the gym bro chick once I saw her. We chatted for a while, then the pair moved on and I finished my workout.
I rounded back to fill up my bottle and a cute, new worker started talking to me about my workout and her approach to lifting. She stayed for a while and I teased a bit, but I bowed out first for whatever reason (probably should've checked if she was single).
Chatted with the tomboy a while (with the pair just 10 yards away lol), then said bye. The single girl of the pair had removed some layers and looked amazing now, so I went over and said, "You look fantastic! Where were these clothes last time?" (playfully). UNFORTUNATELY, she didn't understand (Spanish) and the other one seemed to try translating, so probably fell flat. To put the cherry on this one, I for some amazing reason said, "Well you're in a relationship (toward the first one I had asked out), (toward single one) would you like to hangout sometime?" *facepalm*. She said we'll see, and with a grin, I just confidently said, "okay, I'll let you think about it," and left.
Thanks all!
P.S. I'm serious about my fitness and am in pretty good shape and usually am clearly affected by pushing hard (sweat, tired, etc.)
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