Feeling like a giant pussy the days I don't approach. I'm I too hard on myself?

[kristian]

This is for the guys that do direct approach. Do you do this daily or do you do this a couple of times per week? And the days you don't do anything, how do you feel about it?

After a month of approaching nearly every day I am seeing some patterns here and there. It has been easier to see what kind of women are better to approach, and how to approach directly to get the best responses. I am not a master at this as I only got around 80 daygame approaches, but I feel like talking to a woman, and even getting her numbers is becoming more and more regular for me.

But one thing is bothering me. Since I trained myself to talk to women everyday (I approach around 2-4 girls per day) I feel like utter shit the few days I do not approach any girls. Its almost like an internal voice telling me that I am a pussy, and that I will "never get girls if I don't act all the time". As a result of my exhaustion by the large amount of approaches and thinking this way, I just stopped approaching three days ago.

I'm just tired of working my ass of and just getting a date per 40 approaches. It feels like a lot of work for small gains. I feel crappy for this, but I hope this break will give me more energy to approach even more girls in the future. I hope to get my numbers down to 10 approaches per date, that will make it a lot easier.

So my question is, how many girls do you approach per week? And do you feel crappy if you, for whatever reason, don't approach anybody?

 

[Rage]

Re: Feeling like a giant pussy the days I don't approach. I'm I too hard on myse

From a recent article of Chase's: https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-sor ... ne-you-are

Mechanics have the steepest learning curve in seduction, and they’re the guys you’ll most frequently see who’ve done tons of work and made little progress (the stereotypical “I’ve done 5000 approaches and only slept with one girl!” guy). The reason for this is their lacking social intuition plus an overconfidence in the superiority of their own ability to figure things out, which makes them ignore important things others tell them they need to do while getting hung up focusing on less important (sometimes even totally unimportant, in the grand scheme of things) elements of the skill.

The Mechanics who make it past this stage tend to do so by taking a true “I don’t know anything, and I don’t know what I don’t know” humble student’s approach, where they surround themselves with men who know what they’re doing, set pride aside temporarily, and emulate them. Each of the three types of lady-killers will do this to some extent, and it’s important for all of them, but it’s most necessary for Mechanics, due to the difficulty they have picking up social nuance on their own.

40 approaches and one date from them doesn't sound correct man... not that youre doing anything horribly wrong, just what you can work on could be different. Your fundamnetals likely need work and could be brushed up quite a bit. I'd read all the articles on doing that if I were you, and then continue to meet women sure, but also have some female friends or a girl you can see regularly (if you're there) who you can interact and be around regularly.

You learn more about what women talk about how they think how their conversation style is what they worry about what their problems or concerns or jsut daily thoughts on things and life are. You'll be in the ladn of women more and GET (understand) them more.

WIth them I would practice all the little fundmanetals things getting slower, sgetting smoother, walking straighter, how to touch, how to screen and qualify, how to be calibrated and use kino in an appropriate way. All these things are fundamentally important (that's why they're called fundamentals huh? lol) and will help your batting average be loads better.

The advanced guys that might tell you wow thats more approaches than I've done in my whole life; they mean it. Because they have gotten their fudnamentals so tight that women jsut show up or around them randomly in the day they just talk to them a bit get their number hang out wit hthem spend a little time on a date and one or two venues and then take them home.

It is GREAT that you can approach and don't have the fear of it and can be courageous and go for it. But it'll be bringing up weaker chinks in your fundamentals and process and interaction that help your approach to date turnover be better I reckon.

Good luck

-Rage

 

[ray_zorse]

Re: Feeling like a giant pussy the days I don't approach. I'm I too hard on myse

Good article Rage, I am probably part romantic and part mechanic and I am sure that I had a much worse ratio than 1 dare per 40 approaches in the beginning. That sounds fine to me! In 2 sessions of 3hrs each you can talk to 20 women per session and reliably get a date! Awesome! What else would you be doing anyway? Watching TV at home? This sounds much more fun Also I suggest you read the article "How to defeat approach anxiety forever" by Sasha Daygame, I cannot link the article as cut/paste does not work properly on this older smartphone but you can Google it, GREAT article.
Ray

 

[kristian]

Re: Feeling like a giant pussy the days I don't approach. I'm I too hard on myse

Thank you guys. I am reading the article you sent me, Rage, and feel more like a romantic with 20 % percent mechanic.

"Early on in his seduction career, the Romantic will tend to be the most upset with women not liking him (because he wants women to feel about him the same way he feels about them), and his primary focus will frequently be on emotions and emotional connection. He is the most likely to feel empty or dissatisfied with casual sex (though he can certainly learn to enjoy hooking up)."

This is the stage I am in right now. It is the roller coast of emotions that bother me the most doing this. I am making a lot of progress though, and have already some techniques to alleviate the feeling of rejection when a girl doesn't respond the way I want her to. I also tend to fall in love quite easily and have to remind myself of the goal when I am having success with women. And continue to get experiences instead of settling down.

Its difficult to know what I could do differently, I know that my initial reception, after opening a girl is quite good. Meaning that my fundamentals are becoming better. But I usually dont talk to these girls for more than 3 minutes and think the lack of deep diving, chase frame and screening is hurting my numbers. I need to start building more emotional connection with these girls and not fully rely on my opening.

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

Re: Feeling like a giant pussy the days I don't approach. I'm I too hard on myse

Per Ray.

What else would you be doing anyway? Watching TV at home? This sounds much more fun :Ray

This is one of the things most new/newer guys don't understand is that approaching is fun and entertaining. If you have the attitude that meeting women is fun and the outcome of having sex is a bonus then if you make 40 approaches you have had a lot of fun. Also realizing you can make a ladies day by just talking to her adds to the enjoyment. With this attitude it changes how the women perceive you. Instead of being someone trying to get into their pants you are an interesting fun person. A woman will be much more willing to have sex with a guy she is having fun with than one she feels is trying to manipulate her. If she is laughing and enjoying good conversation she is feeling good. You can extend this feeling into a date or a quick pull.

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