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Fetlife's pretty funny. I signed up while traveling, sent the opener to around a dozen women, and got two responses. One panned out. You want HB7-10? This is LSE3-5. I would not recommend this website for most people.
Me: Hello, I am visiting (her city) and recently have been working on a draft agreement to use back home. Let me know if you are interested in meeting for a coffee? I would like to run it by you and get thoughts from a woman's perspective.
Her: Draft agreement ? I would have to know a little about what you are talking about. Also about you as you have a pretty blank profile. Please elaborate. (Signed her name)
Me: Hi (her name),
It is essentially a Master/slave agreement, focused on enforcement of working toward her goals. For example, healthy living, regular routines, etc. It could be literally anything small though... Whatever could benefit from discipline. Let me know what else you'd like to know.
-Francis
Her: You just want a brainstorm session to help you acquire an agreement for a slave?We can meet for coffee. I’d also like to see a photo of you to know what you look like
Me: (sent photo)
Her: Ok
Me: What's your free time like today? Yes I would like you to read it and let me know if anything stands out to you as an area that would not work or needs editing. And of course to spend some time getting to know you. If we click, even better, though I'd like to probe your mind a little.
Her: I am unavailable today my dads birthday
Me: Oh nice. I will still be around tomorrow
Her: Ok
Me: If you are occupied all day and night, I can shoot you a message here in the morning to arrange, or just send me your number to text.
Her: Nice thanks (sent number)
Me: Good morning (her name), I hope you enjoyed the celebration last night. Let me know what your free time's like today and let's get that coffee or something.
Her: Hi Francis, let's meet for coffee.
Me: What area are you around? I can come to your place if that's easier. Then we can talk openly
Her: I prefer not to have people over without meeting first. I can meet you. What area?
Me: Oh ok I understand. I'm staying at (place). How about let's sit in the lounge on the couches. It's very quiet.
Her: I'm trying to think of a place
Me: I am surprised! You seemed quite adventurous
Her: I am. But it's far. Come over. Bring coffee. We can sit outdoors.
Me: Great, send me your address. I will bring iced coffee
Her: Caramel in mine
(sends address)
Me: Since you are being so trusting! I'll indulge you I'll see you in a little over 20
Her: (laugh emoji) Ok
When she said bring coffee I immediately thought of Franco saying she will always test for subservience early. I said yes because my original ask was to meet for coffee, so I saw coming over for coffee as adding to the plausible deniability of the frame of meeting to discuss the draft (which was not for her, which is preselection). I did not see a way to reject it and preserve social decency. When I got there she was drinking her own coffee and did not drink hers, so this was definitely a failed test. I did not acknowledge it whatsoever.
Written fast soon after: Pulled up and she opened the door as I was walking up. Sat and chatted for a while about her experience growing up training to be a minister and how it caused her to rebel from an early age. Still, she lost her virginity in a long marriage. 40 year old widow. Found kink two years ago and now her page is full of videos of her sucking cock at group sex parties. She has a standing order for STD tests and works in a doctor's office. Nice lady. Went through the kink agreement (not for her) and she made some minor handwritten notes. Overall pretty positive.
She randomly went and got her little suitcase and proceeded to show me at least two dozen sex toys one by one that she uses on to peg submissive men, etc. I asked if she was trying to arouse me (by showing her toys... I am not at all into pegging or anything approaching that dynamic whatdoever) and she said if she wanted to arouse me she would "do this" and starting softly kissing my neck. She climbed on top of me and I pulled her shirt up. Her roommates came home (a couple). They made a quick comment about having met other friends of hers that way and went to the backyard. I had gone right into deep diving about her kink awakening upon arrival, and she mentioned around this point that she does not usually open up about herself so much and she purposefully flipped into asking about me to deflect it. She said she was very comfortable opening up to me and that I was very easy to talk to.
Her roommates went out to walk the dog soon after. I proposed we go to her room to keep "talking" so we don't get interrupted again when they return. She said ok and then asked about my work and siblings, which I interpreted as the most basic getting to know me questions since she knew nothing about me whatsoever and clearly needed some level of that, so I indulged her quickly. We went in her room and she kept calling me Master Francis. At one point she said she does not suck dick without reciprocation. After she came a few times she said she wanted to suck my cock and went at it for a while to try to entice me to stay over. This was like 1pm to 4:30pm.
I think a big part of why she came easily was we kissed and cuddled a lot around the middle. Almost every woman I have fucked in the last long while likes to cuddle. It causes a lot of happy bonding chemicals and increases immersion. I do not think you can do this unless you have had hard sex and adapted missionary combines these at once for efficiency! I mostly fucked her from behind though, and actually was not kinky with her.
I am in a terrible emotional space at the moment, and I realized it is essentially low testosterone from things ending with a main partner, majorly cutting back on THC so there is no more continual spike of happy chemicals to now readjust from, severe lack of sleep, and switching to a very clean diet that has made me underweight. I am on my way to squat and deadlift.
I realized this is why I have been letting countless approach opportunities (not just invitations) go by, since I do not have that risk taking spirit flowing through my veins anymore.
Me: Hello, I am visiting (her city) and recently have been working on a draft agreement to use back home. Let me know if you are interested in meeting for a coffee? I would like to run it by you and get thoughts from a woman's perspective.
Her: Draft agreement ? I would have to know a little about what you are talking about. Also about you as you have a pretty blank profile. Please elaborate. (Signed her name)
Me: Hi (her name),
It is essentially a Master/slave agreement, focused on enforcement of working toward her goals. For example, healthy living, regular routines, etc. It could be literally anything small though... Whatever could benefit from discipline. Let me know what else you'd like to know.
-Francis
Her: You just want a brainstorm session to help you acquire an agreement for a slave?We can meet for coffee. I’d also like to see a photo of you to know what you look like
Me: (sent photo)
Her: Ok
Me: What's your free time like today? Yes I would like you to read it and let me know if anything stands out to you as an area that would not work or needs editing. And of course to spend some time getting to know you. If we click, even better, though I'd like to probe your mind a little.
Her: I am unavailable today my dads birthday
Me: Oh nice. I will still be around tomorrow
Her: Ok
Me: If you are occupied all day and night, I can shoot you a message here in the morning to arrange, or just send me your number to text.
Her: Nice thanks (sent number)
Me: Good morning (her name), I hope you enjoyed the celebration last night. Let me know what your free time's like today and let's get that coffee or something.
Her: Hi Francis, let's meet for coffee.
Me: What area are you around? I can come to your place if that's easier. Then we can talk openly
Her: I prefer not to have people over without meeting first. I can meet you. What area?
Me: Oh ok I understand. I'm staying at (place). How about let's sit in the lounge on the couches. It's very quiet.
Her: I'm trying to think of a place
Me: I am surprised! You seemed quite adventurous
Her: I am. But it's far. Come over. Bring coffee. We can sit outdoors.
Me: Great, send me your address. I will bring iced coffee
Her: Caramel in mine
(sends address)Me: Since you are being so trusting! I'll indulge you
I'll see you in a little over 20Her: (laugh emoji) Ok
When she said bring coffee I immediately thought of Franco saying she will always test for subservience early. I said yes because my original ask was to meet for coffee, so I saw coming over for coffee as adding to the plausible deniability of the frame of meeting to discuss the draft (which was not for her, which is preselection). I did not see a way to reject it and preserve social decency. When I got there she was drinking her own coffee and did not drink hers, so this was definitely a failed test. I did not acknowledge it whatsoever.
Written fast soon after: Pulled up and she opened the door as I was walking up. Sat and chatted for a while about her experience growing up training to be a minister and how it caused her to rebel from an early age. Still, she lost her virginity in a long marriage. 40 year old widow. Found kink two years ago and now her page is full of videos of her sucking cock at group sex parties. She has a standing order for STD tests and works in a doctor's office. Nice lady. Went through the kink agreement (not for her) and she made some minor handwritten notes. Overall pretty positive.
She randomly went and got her little suitcase and proceeded to show me at least two dozen sex toys one by one that she uses on to peg submissive men, etc. I asked if she was trying to arouse me (by showing her toys... I am not at all into pegging or anything approaching that dynamic whatdoever) and she said if she wanted to arouse me she would "do this" and starting softly kissing my neck. She climbed on top of me and I pulled her shirt up. Her roommates came home (a couple). They made a quick comment about having met other friends of hers that way and went to the backyard. I had gone right into deep diving about her kink awakening upon arrival, and she mentioned around this point that she does not usually open up about herself so much and she purposefully flipped into asking about me to deflect it. She said she was very comfortable opening up to me and that I was very easy to talk to.
Her roommates went out to walk the dog soon after. I proposed we go to her room to keep "talking" so we don't get interrupted again when they return. She said ok and then asked about my work and siblings, which I interpreted as the most basic getting to know me questions since she knew nothing about me whatsoever and clearly needed some level of that, so I indulged her quickly. We went in her room and she kept calling me Master Francis. At one point she said she does not suck dick without reciprocation. After she came a few times she said she wanted to suck my cock and went at it for a while to try to entice me to stay over. This was like 1pm to 4:30pm.
I think a big part of why she came easily was we kissed and cuddled a lot around the middle. Almost every woman I have fucked in the last long while likes to cuddle. It causes a lot of happy bonding chemicals and increases immersion. I do not think you can do this unless you have had hard sex and adapted missionary combines these at once for efficiency! I mostly fucked her from behind though, and actually was not kinky with her.
I am in a terrible emotional space at the moment, and I realized it is essentially low testosterone from things ending with a main partner, majorly cutting back on THC so there is no more continual spike of happy chemicals to now readjust from, severe lack of sleep, and switching to a very clean diet that has made me underweight. I am on my way to squat and deadlift.
I realized this is why I have been letting countless approach opportunities (not just invitations) go by, since I do not have that risk taking spirit flowing through my veins anymore.
