Fiance's friend comes to my house. She's huge into 'woke' stuff, and I used to be as well(which is why I never spent much time on this site until this week), but things over the months have had an effect on me to make me change my outlook. Things haven't been working out for me like I thought they would.
Anyway, my fiance hasn't seen her since January. We mostly avoid politics and I'm having a decent time. Sexism is brought up a couple of times and, for the sake of peace, I bend over backwards to agree and show that I too am not sexist. We go out and I buy everyone dinner.
Immediately after dinne we go back to my and my partners house, Trump gets brought up. She goes on a rant and I listen without arguing. I am huge into socialism, but listening to her, I discover that we're not ready for socialism, we don't need bernie, we need Joe Biden first, and that his rape allegation is actually a conspiracy. I try to sprinkle in my responses and she's finishing sentences for me multiple times.
Finally, I get a moment and try to explain why I hate Joe Biden and didn't vote for him. My plan was to meander my way through a little bit of Marxist theory to arrive at the conclusion that Joe is better than Trump but still horrible.
After 10 seconds of me explaining my opinions I bring in the one definition from Marxism that I need, I get interrupted with "I don't need you to mansplain me." I'm pretty appalled by this and fire back with, "Look if that's mansplaining to you then I just won't explain anything." Then it goes from 0 to 100 I'm called rude and that I don't care about how I've hurt her feelings. I try to get a word in and am told to stop interrupting. I realize this isn't salvageable and I'm like yeah I'm done and I go upstairs. After a few minutes, I go downstairs and apologize so it doesn't make it weird between my fiance and her (she does apologize back to be fair, but I don't know if I would have gotten that if I didn't initiate it), but she leaves anyway.
I think there will still be some lasting bitterness from her part. What should I do to make amends so that things aren't weird between us and so my fiancee can have a good relationship with her without me dragging it down? I don't want to be the asshole to ruin everything.
Anyway, my fiance hasn't seen her since January. We mostly avoid politics and I'm having a decent time. Sexism is brought up a couple of times and, for the sake of peace, I bend over backwards to agree and show that I too am not sexist. We go out and I buy everyone dinner.
Immediately after dinne we go back to my and my partners house, Trump gets brought up. She goes on a rant and I listen without arguing. I am huge into socialism, but listening to her, I discover that we're not ready for socialism, we don't need bernie, we need Joe Biden first, and that his rape allegation is actually a conspiracy. I try to sprinkle in my responses and she's finishing sentences for me multiple times.
Finally, I get a moment and try to explain why I hate Joe Biden and didn't vote for him. My plan was to meander my way through a little bit of Marxist theory to arrive at the conclusion that Joe is better than Trump but still horrible.
After 10 seconds of me explaining my opinions I bring in the one definition from Marxism that I need, I get interrupted with "I don't need you to mansplain me." I'm pretty appalled by this and fire back with, "Look if that's mansplaining to you then I just won't explain anything." Then it goes from 0 to 100 I'm called rude and that I don't care about how I've hurt her feelings. I try to get a word in and am told to stop interrupting. I realize this isn't salvageable and I'm like yeah I'm done and I go upstairs. After a few minutes, I go downstairs and apologize so it doesn't make it weird between my fiance and her (she does apologize back to be fair, but I don't know if I would have gotten that if I didn't initiate it), but she leaves anyway.
I think there will still be some lasting bitterness from her part. What should I do to make amends so that things aren't weird between us and so my fiancee can have a good relationship with her without me dragging it down? I don't want to be the asshole to ruin everything.
