FR Field Report 11/30 - Insights, distraction and feeling unease

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Field Report 11 - Insights, distraction and feeling unease


Met 4 sets tonight

1 one sets
3 two sets

Also got opened by 2 sets on floor
1 one set
1 four set


The 2 insights I had tonight is:

1. How writing field reports is a form of comfort as well because ultimately the main goal is to have new sexual relationships with more girls that are just my type. I committed to 30 days of writing FR’s so will still do it till then and then decide.

2. Walking through the streets at the start of the night, a thought popped up.. “what is missing James.. something is missing.. you are supposed to be with more girls by now.. you don’t fully believe and fully expect that you are going to have sex with a girl just your type tonight. That’s what is missing! Could you fully believe it? The answer tonight was, no I’m not there yet.”

As much as I’m expecting myself to go out every day, to work out every day, to write a field report every day, I should get to the point of also expecting myself to do all I can every time I go out, to make sexual adventures happen with girls that are just my type.



I’m still too soft, making me not able to put my ego aside and push the boundaries till the bitter end, taking the risks of looking like a complete idiot.


Some guys like to look like a complete idiot for the sake of it or for having fun. I’m hugely interested in it for the sake of getting what you want.


Anyway...


Went out tonight with a distraction. It’s very interesting how a little thought.. a little “be safe” or “fear” kind of thought, you let in, then start thinking about it, can make such a big difference.


It led me to feel a little unease tonight. I was being more slow and less continuously enthusiastic which funnily enough is kind of a way to be more patient in game. This is what I wanted to do better since my last few FR’s.


And it showed off in interesting ways tonight. Explained below.



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Three things I did well:

• Once I got close to the girls, I waited till eyecontact, then spoke chill and authentic with an unease feeling. I felt this but overmanned it by just fvcking opening my mouth. Girls responded well

• Had much more patience than my previous nights and that led to me having higher value from the get go, although the interactions were slower. The girls also got the space to invest in me more than before, verbally, and they did. I enjoyed it a lot actually. Just more chill fun than the fast-paced fun, fun, fun

• The sneaking thought of being above girls are just under the radar, ready to pop up in different situations. I overcame it before it got into my mind by noticing and stopping it just before it would go into action

For example a one set milf opened me on floor. She was very open and getting close to me, pushing a bit with her big titties, dancing. My old habitual instinct would be to be nice to her a bit and bounce while seeing myself as above her. This time I stopped before that old scripted scenario would play out.


I woke up, danced with her a little, spinning her, looked her in the eyes as equals, seeing her for her and I bet she valued it, eventually thinking I’m also losing value in the eyes of the young hotties in the club, if I’m doing too much so I stepped a little away and moved to the music.






Three things that I will do better next time:

• At the beginning of night, there was a 1 set, stunning young blonde 9 in the street, waiting for her friends. I should have stayed longer but going out with that distraction and unease I didn’t believe in myself that I’m worthy to just be there and say nothing, so I bounced when I didn’t feel like saying anything

Bounced sooner than what would have been better reference-experiences on more sets than this set tonight.


Next outing focus on staying longer and looking like an idiot until the girl completely ignores you or moves away

• I’m ashamed I didn’t take more action on the 4 set of young hotties. They opened me on floor, after I had just opened and talked with a 2 set of young hotties.

One of the hotties was like having her arm around her hottie friend, smiling happily and motioning to meet her / dance with her. Her friend was feeling embarrassed and didn’t look my way. I looked at them happily but didn’t go in. Could of course reopen later but this would have been good reference experience because it’s not the first time this exact situation has happened to me with cute hotties who are just my type, opening me in that way!! I’M FVCKING ASHAMED


Next outing focus on moving my fvcking legs and taking one step after another when hotties opens me. See it as, “ahh finally, exactly what is supposed to happen, I feel at home” and move towards girls

• Stay longer in the interactions and if the girls gives me open body language but doesn’t say much or ask anything, like the 2 set hotties on floor I opened first, tell them to ask me. This will keep the interaction flowing instead of only me asking questions.. they are after all only 18/19 yo’s.

Next outing focus on being more of a leader, leading the interaction, especially when they are under 21. Tell them to ask me different things to make the interaction flowing and more fun. Have this in mind as soon as I notice they are younger


Leeeeet’s gooooooo!

 

[mist]

I like that you're consistently going out and writing reports. I haven't read this yet as I'm swamped, but it hasn't gone unnoticed Brody.

I def plan to go back and read some of your shiz. Perhaps add a comment if I have one, but good shit man!

Keep it up. It's not unnoticed.