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Field report 14 - Clubbing and going for what I want
Met 10+ sets
3 one set
5 two sets
2 three sets
Tonight was different from other nights because I stayed in one bigger club the whole outing. Usually I go from place to place. I was getting a little tired of going to the same places and I didn’t want to try going to new places yet, so tonight went to a high end club.
Again, I was sitting in my car after work, feeling like just driving home and get some extra sleep. “Just tonight Jay.. you are tired.. you don’t feel like it.. you’ll make mistakes again etc.”
I don’t know if these kind of thoughts will ever go away completely. After sitting for 20 minutes or so, I started the car and off we went to the city.
It’s crazy how much our thoughts can lure us into comfort. It’s the mental version of a delicious cake or fast-food when you haven’t had any sugar for a while.
The two powers above these detrimental things are commitments and focus. I feel a Holy Spirit guiding me along because of my commitment, protecting me while I go through hardship. The focus comes from REALLY wanting to do better in life and squeeze the best out of it every day, knowing what it is I want and keeping my eyes on the ball to my current best abilities.
Anyway..
Three things I did well:
I fvcking love meeting and talking to girls that are just my type.. probably one of the few joys I have in life right now! My challenge with this is that the types of girls I like are limited and often times they are in mixed sets where they are very aware of the guys perception of them talking to someone outside of their group.
Tonight was ok and it was more my lack of reference experiences that ended the interactions.. like in a 3 set, I opened from the side the girl I liked.. when I saw her looking at my lips a few times, I was about to kiss and she stopped me and said that’s her mom right there, standing beside us lol
I tried to be creative with one cute girl I stopped who were the last in a 3-4 set. She told me she gotta go to her friends and I told her to stay for 2 mins and she did
Three things that I will do better next time:
Talking about sex would be one option, another one is to challenge her about sexual things..
Focus next time when a girl is clearly hooked, move and isolate her.. if not possible just go into fun sexual topics and challenge her a bit, then address the obstacles and be creative to try and move and isolate her
Also when I told them my age, the girl had a strong reaction to it, mouth wide open.. like whaaaat. You look 23 etc.
With such a strong reaction, I don’t know if I handled it well enough by saying what I felt. “Yup I know.. I feel like a 20 year old.”
Focus next time talk with the protective mom more, stay with them longer to have her see I’m actually the coolest guy they’ll meet who will treat her daughter well and give her a great experience. More time and getting to know me, I’m sure would have given me more space to try and isolate the daughter.
Focus next time instead of saying why you are there after already being entitled, confident and playful, try move the girls. If possible great, if not challenge them sexually or just tell them to ask me something to keep the interaction flowing
Leeeeeeeeet’s goooooooooo!!!!!
Met 10+ sets
3 one set
5 two sets
2 three sets
Tonight was different from other nights because I stayed in one bigger club the whole outing. Usually I go from place to place. I was getting a little tired of going to the same places and I didn’t want to try going to new places yet, so tonight went to a high end club.
Again, I was sitting in my car after work, feeling like just driving home and get some extra sleep. “Just tonight Jay.. you are tired.. you don’t feel like it.. you’ll make mistakes again etc.”
I don’t know if these kind of thoughts will ever go away completely. After sitting for 20 minutes or so, I started the car and off we went to the city.
It’s crazy how much our thoughts can lure us into comfort. It’s the mental version of a delicious cake or fast-food when you haven’t had any sugar for a while.
The two powers above these detrimental things are commitments and focus. I feel a Holy Spirit guiding me along because of my commitment, protecting me while I go through hardship. The focus comes from REALLY wanting to do better in life and squeeze the best out of it every day, knowing what it is I want and keeping my eyes on the ball to my current best abilities.
Anyway..
Three things I did well:
- Focused 90% of the time on girls I found attractive, my type (and there weren’t so many) and like a sniper, went straight to her and opened. I knew what I wanted and I went for it.
I fvcking love meeting and talking to girls that are just my type.. probably one of the few joys I have in life right now! My challenge with this is that the types of girls I like are limited and often times they are in mixed sets where they are very aware of the guys perception of them talking to someone outside of their group.
Tonight was ok and it was more my lack of reference experiences that ended the interactions.. like in a 3 set, I opened from the side the girl I liked.. when I saw her looking at my lips a few times, I was about to kiss and she stopped me and said that’s her mom right there, standing beside us lol
- I didn’t let things phase me. What turned me on was my own actions and then I just enjoyed interacting with the cute gals. The lack of interest, the interest, the girl walking away etc. didn’t affect my mood. What was important to me was taking action towards what I wanted and once in the interaction, interact with the girl and her friends with playfulness and confidence. It was easy to feel this way because the girls were my types.
- All in all, I did well to be productive tonight. Good energy and body language also good.
I tried to be creative with one cute girl I stopped who were the last in a 3-4 set. She told me she gotta go to her friends and I told her to stay for 2 mins and she did
Three things that I will do better next time:
- I could be more entitled with the girls who were very positive and be more creative to escalate the interaction faster.
Talking about sex would be one option, another one is to challenge her about sexual things..
Focus next time when a girl is clearly hooked, move and isolate her.. if not possible just go into fun sexual topics and challenge her a bit, then address the obstacles and be creative to try and move and isolate her
- Some girls were very positive like the 3 set with the mom. The who was just my type was here with her mom for the weekend, leaving tomorrow. Her mom was very protective of her daughter not sleeping with a guy. When her mom got involved, she was like “what do you think about me?” Asked two or three times. She also said to me that when her daughter was in the toilet, that I’m not getting with her daughter and that she isn’t going to sleep with anyone before marriage lol. I said “ok we’ll get married for the weekend” stupid thing to say hahah.. I somehow thought about her being on my side to solve this obstacle/test.
Also when I told them my age, the girl had a strong reaction to it, mouth wide open.. like whaaaat. You look 23 etc.
With such a strong reaction, I don’t know if I handled it well enough by saying what I felt. “Yup I know.. I feel like a 20 year old.”
Focus next time talk with the protective mom more, stay with them longer to have her see I’m actually the coolest guy they’ll meet who will treat her daughter well and give her a great experience. More time and getting to know me, I’m sure would have given me more space to try and isolate the daughter.
- I validated some of the sets of my type girls.. after a bit of interaction with them saying smt like “I saw you and I wanted to meet you because you looked interesting”. These are young girls who gets lots of attention, so it was a stupid thing to say because I could feel the girls felt validated and felt ok to just leave.
Focus next time instead of saying why you are there after already being entitled, confident and playful, try move the girls. If possible great, if not challenge them sexually or just tell them to ask me something to keep the interaction flowing
Leeeeeeeeet’s goooooooooo!!!!!
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