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Field report 18/30 - Cute blonde and limiting belief preventing having sex with the girl
Met 8 sets today
2 one set
5 two sets
1 five set
Felt more courageous and pushed myself more today after last nights insights with the limiting beliefs surfacing. My mind was more empty today than it had been for some time, so it felt good to be so present to the moment. A thought popped up, “you become more courageous when you can stop thinking”. The art here is to stop thinking AND ALSO have a goal/intention to carry out as you come by girls.
Also by recommendation from someone I will focus on only one set that lasted the longest or had the most impact on me from now on. In that way there’s more space for feedback and also I’m not adding more time to writing the field reports. Let’s go.
2 set at the bar about to order, just arrived. One is just my type, blonde. The other is brunette. I open situationally and they were open. Visiting city, leaving in two days. I eventually focus more on blonde and still try to include the brunette. Both are hooked, blonde is hooked more and we are more physical. They get their drinks, they stay, open body language towards me and I focus more on blonde but still try include brunette. I noticed brunette was looking around, not engaged in the interaction.
Shortly after brunette suggest blonde to go outside. Blonde agrees but stays a bit and I said “what’s my name”, she remembers, brunette asks, what’s our name? Giving a hint, I remember hers and the blondes I was close and made a joke about it and she laughed and afterwards told her name. They went outside.
After some time I go outside to get some air and see them engaged with two, tall good-looking guys at a table. Blonde seems really into her guy while the brunette sounded like she was fvcking around with the other guy, saying she’s from another country than she’s from.
I had a thought of intercepting the set as a challenge but I also saw the blonde looking deeply into her guy so the thought quickly disappeared.
Went back inside, did an approach, a 1 set, dancing (her friend just nearby in her own world).. you could see she had the drunk, looking to hook up kind of eyes. We hit eyecontact and I went in. We danced a little sexually but I wasn’t believing strongly in myself and believing that she wants me so instead of responding to her very high buying temperature, I half-assed it.
I started speaking and she lost some interest and I spoke a little more and it was dead.
Anyway.. bit later, I notice the blonde and brunette on their way downstairs to the toilet. The brunette was in front and then the blondes guy came from behind and stopped the blonde and after a few seconds of chat, they start making out. I’m like fvck.. He takes her outside and I’m thinking he’s pulling her. At this point I’m like FVCKING SHIT!! I’m supposed to be the one who takes her. I’m purposefully allowing myself to be affected by this thing to learn a lesson of being better next time. Would love to compete with a tall good-looking dude tbh. And get my ego tested more. Anyway, I walk to see from the windows if they are still outside and yes they are.. making out or something. Brunette comes back from toilet, pass by me and goes outside.
I’m distracted by this whole scenario, not meeting any girls, just very much in my head, focused on if the guy will pull the blonde or not. I just want to see it with my own eyes and feel the pain sting. Yet at the same time, I didn’t want the blonde to know I noticed all of these things.
5-10 minutes later, they come back inside, without the guys. They find a table at the end of the other side of the cafe/bar.
At this point I was very much in my head, not feeling loose or very confident after all the observing and my judgment of the blonde kissing with the guy. I couldn’t see her the same way as before.
but I was like, fvck it. Let’s try something. So in this weird state, I opened 3 different guys who were in groups with other guys, asking to wing me. No one.
Then I dropped it and was like fvck it, still in this weird state.
Soon after, I notice the blonde and brunette coming close to the bar from the side of my view. Then blonde goes closer to me at the bar and then even closer 3-5 meters away from me by the sofa where I was standing. There was a window of opportunity right there. She positioned herself to be re-opened but I felt fvcking weird and also couldn’t see her the same as before after seeing her making out with that guy.. I actually disliked her and yet I don’t want to dislike her but my body and mind felt that way. Anyway a tall good-looking guy walks past me and she notices, walks right back to the bar and he opens her.
Fvck me. It’s mind boggling to judge girls because they want to fvck the most attractive man, just like we guys wants to fvck the most attractive woman.. the judgment though.. I feel the root of it is deep. It summons anger and spite. How do I get rid of this limiting belief?
The goal is to have sex with the girl and then decide where to go from there. This judgmental belief is preventing that goal to happen. Could try to plow through and see how I interact with the girl next time. Just gotta be in a different state than this weird, non-confident state after observing for so long.
Anyway.. the new tall good-looking guy was nowhere to be seen a bit later when I saw the blonde and brunette position themselves near the entrance. They got opened by other guys. I went outside to get air. I looked back a bit later and saw blonde and brunette standing there still with no guys.
I decided to leave, thinking nothing good will come from me re-opening them in this state and being judgmental.
Three things I did well:
Three things that I will do better next time:
Focus next time on zero thinking, notice the girl, 3 seconds, fvcking go
Focus next time on when I feel the energy is about to go down after a high, when I don’t say anything, either stay for the awkwardness and feel it OR leave and reopen.
Focus next time on self-belief, opening other sets than observing her so much. Talk to whatever girl is available to get more into the moment and self-amuse. When I notice the blonde and we hit eye-contact, I go straight in, use my anger/spite by transmuting that energy into purposeful, dominant, we are going to fvck each other tonight vibe.
Leeeeeeet’s fvvvcking goooo!
Met 8 sets today
2 one set
5 two sets
1 five set
Felt more courageous and pushed myself more today after last nights insights with the limiting beliefs surfacing. My mind was more empty today than it had been for some time, so it felt good to be so present to the moment. A thought popped up, “you become more courageous when you can stop thinking”. The art here is to stop thinking AND ALSO have a goal/intention to carry out as you come by girls.
Also by recommendation from someone I will focus on only one set that lasted the longest or had the most impact on me from now on. In that way there’s more space for feedback and also I’m not adding more time to writing the field reports. Let’s go.
2 set at the bar about to order, just arrived. One is just my type, blonde. The other is brunette. I open situationally and they were open. Visiting city, leaving in two days. I eventually focus more on blonde and still try to include the brunette. Both are hooked, blonde is hooked more and we are more physical. They get their drinks, they stay, open body language towards me and I focus more on blonde but still try include brunette. I noticed brunette was looking around, not engaged in the interaction.
Shortly after brunette suggest blonde to go outside. Blonde agrees but stays a bit and I said “what’s my name”, she remembers, brunette asks, what’s our name? Giving a hint, I remember hers and the blondes I was close and made a joke about it and she laughed and afterwards told her name. They went outside.
After some time I go outside to get some air and see them engaged with two, tall good-looking guys at a table. Blonde seems really into her guy while the brunette sounded like she was fvcking around with the other guy, saying she’s from another country than she’s from.
I had a thought of intercepting the set as a challenge but I also saw the blonde looking deeply into her guy so the thought quickly disappeared.
Went back inside, did an approach, a 1 set, dancing (her friend just nearby in her own world).. you could see she had the drunk, looking to hook up kind of eyes. We hit eyecontact and I went in. We danced a little sexually but I wasn’t believing strongly in myself and believing that she wants me so instead of responding to her very high buying temperature, I half-assed it.
I started speaking and she lost some interest and I spoke a little more and it was dead.
Anyway.. bit later, I notice the blonde and brunette on their way downstairs to the toilet. The brunette was in front and then the blondes guy came from behind and stopped the blonde and after a few seconds of chat, they start making out. I’m like fvck.. He takes her outside and I’m thinking he’s pulling her. At this point I’m like FVCKING SHIT!! I’m supposed to be the one who takes her. I’m purposefully allowing myself to be affected by this thing to learn a lesson of being better next time. Would love to compete with a tall good-looking dude tbh. And get my ego tested more. Anyway, I walk to see from the windows if they are still outside and yes they are.. making out or something. Brunette comes back from toilet, pass by me and goes outside.
I’m distracted by this whole scenario, not meeting any girls, just very much in my head, focused on if the guy will pull the blonde or not. I just want to see it with my own eyes and feel the pain sting. Yet at the same time, I didn’t want the blonde to know I noticed all of these things.
5-10 minutes later, they come back inside, without the guys. They find a table at the end of the other side of the cafe/bar.
At this point I was very much in my head, not feeling loose or very confident after all the observing and my judgment of the blonde kissing with the guy. I couldn’t see her the same way as before.
but I was like, fvck it. Let’s try something. So in this weird state, I opened 3 different guys who were in groups with other guys, asking to wing me. No one.
Then I dropped it and was like fvck it, still in this weird state.
Soon after, I notice the blonde and brunette coming close to the bar from the side of my view. Then blonde goes closer to me at the bar and then even closer 3-5 meters away from me by the sofa where I was standing. There was a window of opportunity right there. She positioned herself to be re-opened but I felt fvcking weird and also couldn’t see her the same as before after seeing her making out with that guy.. I actually disliked her and yet I don’t want to dislike her but my body and mind felt that way. Anyway a tall good-looking guy walks past me and she notices, walks right back to the bar and he opens her.
Fvck me. It’s mind boggling to judge girls because they want to fvck the most attractive man, just like we guys wants to fvck the most attractive woman.. the judgment though.. I feel the root of it is deep. It summons anger and spite. How do I get rid of this limiting belief?
The goal is to have sex with the girl and then decide where to go from there. This judgmental belief is preventing that goal to happen. Could try to plow through and see how I interact with the girl next time. Just gotta be in a different state than this weird, non-confident state after observing for so long.
Anyway.. the new tall good-looking guy was nowhere to be seen a bit later when I saw the blonde and brunette position themselves near the entrance. They got opened by other guys. I went outside to get air. I looked back a bit later and saw blonde and brunette standing there still with no guys.
I decided to leave, thinking nothing good will come from me re-opening them in this state and being judgmental.
Three things I did well:
- Had more confidence than previous night after noticing I was being too easy on myself, not pushing myself enough
- Did better push-pull balance, hooked sets better and was more in the moment, spiting out magic related to what the girls says
- Stayed in sets longer and cared less about the positive reactions than before
Three things that I will do better next time:
- Although feeling more confident and doing harder things, pushing myself.. I still missed a few sets because I started to think, are they my types, when noticing them from afar.
Focus next time on zero thinking, notice the girl, 3 seconds, fvcking go
- Do more re-approaches. Staying the the sets for long is good. Re-opening makes you a familiar person, not a stranger like the first approach.
Focus next time on when I feel the energy is about to go down after a high, when I don’t say anything, either stay for the awkwardness and feel it OR leave and reopen.
- How could I get with the blonde I liked and disliked?
Focus next time on self-belief, opening other sets than observing her so much. Talk to whatever girl is available to get more into the moment and self-amuse. When I notice the blonde and we hit eye-contact, I go straight in, use my anger/spite by transmuting that energy into purposeful, dominant, we are going to fvck each other tonight vibe.
Leeeeeeet’s fvvvcking goooo!
