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Field report 20/30 - Adventures & non-sexual to sexual
Met 8 sets tonight
2 one sets
5 two sets
1 five set mixed
Also got semi-opened by a 2 set, milfs, on my way back close to the party street. They asked me to go with them.. then offering me to buy me shots to lead them to a bar they were looking to find and then trying to spike me when I declined.. funny shit.
Anyway..
At the start of the night there were sets I should have opened when walking through a party street. Last nights lack of belief in myself has transferred a bit over to tonight. I felt not entitled to even open some of the girls, although I wanted to. A thought popped up.. had I gotten worse with game lately. Am I overtraining?
Anyway..
Focus will be on one of the 2 sets where at first I opened without feeling sexual at all and I realised it was a theme for tonight. Lack of belief in myself and therefore lack of belief in my entitlement for what I can do with a girl.
2 set, hottie, cute blonde & brunette friend
I see this cute, beautiful blonde walk behind her friend about to pass me. I open from her side semi strong. She’s open and smiles. Takes my hand and hold it for 20-30 seconds or so as we talk. I felt 0 sexual. A bit earlier I was thinking what was wrong with me before I opened her. With all the previous sets, why am I feeling nothing. It’s an empty feeling I’ve had before. What helped in the past with this empty feeling was to just meet lots of girls. I’m doing that every day already, so I don’t understand why I felt like this today.
Anyway.. I begin to address her friend standing beside her and her friend is very talkative. I acknowledge the friend and keep focus on my girl. My girl is responding to my questions and also hugs me back a bit. I do a little takeaway and it keeps the interaction alive. Though I still keep doing, doing and doing and rewarding/validating her maybe 1 bit too much. She then says she has to go to her other friends.
I didn’t want her to leave and suddenly something fired up in me. I really meant what I said now
“No, stay here!” purposeful and playful
“I have to gooo..” smiling
“No, stay here! I came here because I saw you and thought you were cute” while I put my arm around her waist and pulled her in a bit. At this point, I felt sexual again. Felt damn good to be alive again. Saying that I wanted to meet her ignited this sexual feeling (I should go even more direct to feel more sexual again onwards)
She’s looking at me..
I put my hand on the back of her head and tried to kiss her but she avoided and I kissed her neck a bit.
She’s like I gotta goo. Trying to think of something smart to say so I give up.. “I’ll find you later”
I give her an expression of that’s bullshit. Then I say something in a retarded way because I was trying to be logical and honest with my words to convince her to stay.
And she left, putting her friend to me.
The friend starts talking and keeps talking like at the start. I reward her for her friendliness and hugs her. She hugs back and then she leaves. Did she just wanted that validation? So strange to me.
So tonight:
Three things I did well:
I noticed another theme for tonight was that lots of the girls I met were less pretty than I thought, once I got close, talking to them. Definitely didn’t help with feeling sexual either. The strangest thing is, all the other nights, I didn’t notice this but tonight it was more noticed
It’s actually refreshing to be a little surprised by a girls character.. but I also would like to understand their blueprints better, in order to game them better
I ignored it and didn’t pause or look back, while I kept talking to her.
I’ve not experienced this level of directed aggression on me in a long time besides from my pops which I, myself often ignite. Although I’ve experienced several times, when I talk with hot, tall blondes, there are Arab guys who’s interfering by saying shit when passing us by. Don’t know why it’s always Arab guys here. Could be the same guys actually since I never bothered to look closely. What was good was I handled the pressure ice-cold, although I don’t know how much the girl got affected by it. Would it be better to address the guy quickly or acknowledge to the girl that there’s a little dog shouting trying to be big and then quickly switch topic and keep talking about whatever I wanted to talk about?
Three things that I will do better next time:
Focus next time open every cutie I notice, I see, I go. What do I say? Use something scripted and if after I say hi, nothing comes up? Then let it be awkward, let them ignore me or move away. It’s practice to feel the same whether they respond positive or negative. Some girls will not like you and some will.. you can’t always have every girl to respond positive even though you open good.
It feels the most hot and fun when there’s sexual intent opening strong and moving things forward fast
Focus next time as recommended some time ago by a really good gamer, try and go very sexual from the start. Like when I went more physical and sexual with the blonde hottie, I felt sexual energy again.
Focus next time use death as a motivator. Remind myself that death is very possible sooner than later. Have it force me into the present moment. From there, we stop thinking and start being more of a baller. Snowballing it.
Leeeeeeeeeet’s fvcking goooooo!
Met 8 sets tonight
2 one sets
5 two sets
1 five set mixed
Also got semi-opened by a 2 set, milfs, on my way back close to the party street. They asked me to go with them.. then offering me to buy me shots to lead them to a bar they were looking to find and then trying to spike me when I declined.. funny shit.
Anyway..
At the start of the night there were sets I should have opened when walking through a party street. Last nights lack of belief in myself has transferred a bit over to tonight. I felt not entitled to even open some of the girls, although I wanted to. A thought popped up.. had I gotten worse with game lately. Am I overtraining?
Anyway..
Focus will be on one of the 2 sets where at first I opened without feeling sexual at all and I realised it was a theme for tonight. Lack of belief in myself and therefore lack of belief in my entitlement for what I can do with a girl.
2 set, hottie, cute blonde & brunette friend
I see this cute, beautiful blonde walk behind her friend about to pass me. I open from her side semi strong. She’s open and smiles. Takes my hand and hold it for 20-30 seconds or so as we talk. I felt 0 sexual. A bit earlier I was thinking what was wrong with me before I opened her. With all the previous sets, why am I feeling nothing. It’s an empty feeling I’ve had before. What helped in the past with this empty feeling was to just meet lots of girls. I’m doing that every day already, so I don’t understand why I felt like this today.
Anyway.. I begin to address her friend standing beside her and her friend is very talkative. I acknowledge the friend and keep focus on my girl. My girl is responding to my questions and also hugs me back a bit. I do a little takeaway and it keeps the interaction alive. Though I still keep doing, doing and doing and rewarding/validating her maybe 1 bit too much. She then says she has to go to her other friends.
I didn’t want her to leave and suddenly something fired up in me. I really meant what I said now
“No, stay here!” purposeful and playful
“I have to gooo..” smiling
“No, stay here! I came here because I saw you and thought you were cute” while I put my arm around her waist and pulled her in a bit. At this point, I felt sexual again. Felt damn good to be alive again. Saying that I wanted to meet her ignited this sexual feeling (I should go even more direct to feel more sexual again onwards)
She’s looking at me..
I put my hand on the back of her head and tried to kiss her but she avoided and I kissed her neck a bit.
She’s like I gotta goo. Trying to think of something smart to say so I give up.. “I’ll find you later”
I give her an expression of that’s bullshit. Then I say something in a retarded way because I was trying to be logical and honest with my words to convince her to stay.
And she left, putting her friend to me.
The friend starts talking and keeps talking like at the start. I reward her for her friendliness and hugs her. She hugs back and then she leaves. Did she just wanted that validation? So strange to me.
So tonight:
Three things I did well:
- When I didn’t approach at the start of the night, I told myself to do a hard set. I see a 5 set with 4 girls and 1 guy at one end by the corner of the bar, sitting around a table. I go in opening one of the girls sitting in the middle between 2 girls.
I noticed another theme for tonight was that lots of the girls I met were less pretty than I thought, once I got close, talking to them. Definitely didn’t help with feeling sexual either. The strangest thing is, all the other nights, I didn’t notice this but tonight it was more noticed
- I went for girls I found attractive. Also I walked back if I passed some to meet them. 90% of the times, I was a little surprised by their character or that they were not as pretty as I thought
It’s actually refreshing to be a little surprised by a girls character.. but I also would like to understand their blueprints better, in order to game them better
- On my way back on the main walking street, I opened a 2 set blondes. One of them was on the phone. I opened the other. She was not so open and not compliant. I stayed and kept doing what I had control over. Talking and trying to have something stick. In the meantime a car drove slowly past us, behind me and some Arab guy was yelling smt like, “Hey YO! Hey fvcker.. that’s my gf you are talking to! YO it’s my gf, stop talking to her!” etc.
I ignored it and didn’t pause or look back, while I kept talking to her.
I’ve not experienced this level of directed aggression on me in a long time besides from my pops which I, myself often ignite. Although I’ve experienced several times, when I talk with hot, tall blondes, there are Arab guys who’s interfering by saying shit when passing us by. Don’t know why it’s always Arab guys here. Could be the same guys actually since I never bothered to look closely. What was good was I handled the pressure ice-cold, although I don’t know how much the girl got affected by it. Would it be better to address the guy quickly or acknowledge to the girl that there’s a little dog shouting trying to be big and then quickly switch topic and keep talking about whatever I wanted to talk about?
Three things that I will do better next time:
- Gotta have more self-belief, drop the ego and just fvcking open cute girls as soon as I see some no matter if she’s walking towards me with her friend or standing with her friends talking
Focus next time open every cutie I notice, I see, I go. What do I say? Use something scripted and if after I say hi, nothing comes up? Then let it be awkward, let them ignore me or move away. It’s practice to feel the same whether they respond positive or negative. Some girls will not like you and some will.. you can’t always have every girl to respond positive even though you open good.
- Gotta feel more sexual. Although I can go in strong, there’s lacking sexual intent
It feels the most hot and fun when there’s sexual intent opening strong and moving things forward fast
Focus next time as recommended some time ago by a really good gamer, try and go very sexual from the start. Like when I went more physical and sexual with the blonde hottie, I felt sexual energy again.
- Build some more self-belief. Not sure why I had the thought popping up that I’m doing worse game lately than when I first started gaming again as seen in the first field reports.
Focus next time use death as a motivator. Remind myself that death is very possible sooner than later. Have it force me into the present moment. From there, we stop thinking and start being more of a baller. Snowballing it.
Leeeeeeeeeet’s fvcking goooooo!
