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Field report 21/30 - Clubbing, wrong analysis and self-love
Some says it takes 21 days to build a habit…
Met 8 sets tonight
I realize I have gotten too objective analysing some of my outings.
Meeting strangers can be rough sometimes. I haven’t taken some time to just really love and appreciate myself in a while.. just go go go and not slowing down to acknowledge my efforts. And instead of constantly looking outwards to the hotties or confident guys to try and learn something, I started appreciating myself tonight.
Also writing these field reports, I can be very objective, which can be bad for game.
Because self-love is a form of brain-washing / programming yourself and objective recollection of the experiences takes the focus away from self-love and positive reinforcement.
Had more self-love tonight than I’ve had for a while. Focus was on loving myself and be physical and sexual from the start. Most of the sets, the girls were hooked.. it felt good to not keep on do, do, do.. all the time.
Anyway..
The apparent downside to this sudden change in focus was, I wasn’t as purposeful and moving less around as before. There was less oomph but it was ok because of the confident sub communications I exhibited, which was a result from really liking myself.
I have a strong feeling that I’m on the right track with this revelation. It’s been a missing piece, although I still had hotties hook and be compliant etc., most of the interactions were not that solid in the end it turned out.
Anyway..
1 set, hotties 8-9 blonde, club, queue to toilet
I’m in front of queue, look back and see the hottest girl in the club. She’s a 9 but her personality was a little off so 8-9.
I walk back in the queue, direct to her and open with, hi I’m James. She’s even more pretty close, like naturally pretty.
We talk, she’s open but I feel she has a little bit of good-girl facade on. Most likely lack of experience with meeting strangers. Also when you are this pretty, it’s real easy to rely on your looks than to develop character. Not judging, just the way nature works.
We talk, I ask her who she’s with.. she says a friend somewhere. That was a good sign. And she was studying to be a nurse. She asked me what I did and also where I was from.
I self-amused with a joke about dogs, with a little spiking and she’s like ok.. like it’s strange but not a big deal. So I validated her for being so open-minded.
She said “I’m open-minded?”
“Yeah, you are”
And she agrees to it.
Our interaction ended soon after, things got quiet because I was about to keep do, do and do.. I also saw her looking at the guy in front of me a few times, so I stopped engaging.
I think the self-amusement thing was too un-relatable for her and the spiking wasn’t hitting the right button and I validated her after that, which makes it even worse.
Noticed her on floor later, in the end, there was a 2 meter tall skinny dude dancing with her close and she liked it and was compliant. I thought about intercepting but when I saw she was into him I couldn’t go in. The club was closing. The girl was talking with her friend and an extra party girl who opened me on floor and squeezed my hand earlier. The tall dude was trying to relax, leaning bent forward in the background. Must be a challenge to stand up for long when you are taller.
Three things I did well:
Three things that I will do better next time:
Focus next time balance self-love with leadership, purposefulness and I’m golden. Extreme self-love with extreme purposefulness = sexiest mf’er girls can’t resist. Experience has proven that. It is a fine art that takes lots of energy to maintain, especially purposefulness.
Focus next time it’s crazy I don’t remember this. It’s so SIMPLE. The guy who’s the boldest, most confident, most entitled will get the cuties. Again.. THE GUY WHO’S THE BOLDEST, MOST CONFIDENT, MOST ENTITLED WILL GET THE CUTIES.
Before the cuties decided to engage more with each of their guys, the cuties moved close to me and looked at me many times and I did nothing. Yaay, self-love… Therefore the point above.
Focus next time only validate/reward a girl when she’s clearly engaged with qualifying or reacting to spikes
Leeeeeeeeeet’s fvcking gooooooo!
Some says it takes 21 days to build a habit…
Met 8 sets tonight
I realize I have gotten too objective analysing some of my outings.
Meeting strangers can be rough sometimes. I haven’t taken some time to just really love and appreciate myself in a while.. just go go go and not slowing down to acknowledge my efforts. And instead of constantly looking outwards to the hotties or confident guys to try and learn something, I started appreciating myself tonight.
Also writing these field reports, I can be very objective, which can be bad for game.
Because self-love is a form of brain-washing / programming yourself and objective recollection of the experiences takes the focus away from self-love and positive reinforcement.
Had more self-love tonight than I’ve had for a while. Focus was on loving myself and be physical and sexual from the start. Most of the sets, the girls were hooked.. it felt good to not keep on do, do, do.. all the time.
Anyway..
The apparent downside to this sudden change in focus was, I wasn’t as purposeful and moving less around as before. There was less oomph but it was ok because of the confident sub communications I exhibited, which was a result from really liking myself.
I have a strong feeling that I’m on the right track with this revelation. It’s been a missing piece, although I still had hotties hook and be compliant etc., most of the interactions were not that solid in the end it turned out.
Anyway..
1 set, hotties 8-9 blonde, club, queue to toilet
I’m in front of queue, look back and see the hottest girl in the club. She’s a 9 but her personality was a little off so 8-9.
I walk back in the queue, direct to her and open with, hi I’m James. She’s even more pretty close, like naturally pretty.
We talk, she’s open but I feel she has a little bit of good-girl facade on. Most likely lack of experience with meeting strangers. Also when you are this pretty, it’s real easy to rely on your looks than to develop character. Not judging, just the way nature works.
We talk, I ask her who she’s with.. she says a friend somewhere. That was a good sign. And she was studying to be a nurse. She asked me what I did and also where I was from.
I self-amused with a joke about dogs, with a little spiking and she’s like ok.. like it’s strange but not a big deal. So I validated her for being so open-minded.
She said “I’m open-minded?”
“Yeah, you are”
And she agrees to it.
Our interaction ended soon after, things got quiet because I was about to keep do, do and do.. I also saw her looking at the guy in front of me a few times, so I stopped engaging.
I think the self-amusement thing was too un-relatable for her and the spiking wasn’t hitting the right button and I validated her after that, which makes it even worse.
Noticed her on floor later, in the end, there was a 2 meter tall skinny dude dancing with her close and she liked it and was compliant. I thought about intercepting but when I saw she was into him I couldn’t go in. The club was closing. The girl was talking with her friend and an extra party girl who opened me on floor and squeezed my hand earlier. The tall dude was trying to relax, leaning bent forward in the background. Must be a challenge to stand up for long when you are taller.
Three things I did well:
- Self-love baby. Big piece I had put in the background and forgotten about
- Felt everything is good whether the girl stays or leaves
- Better passive body language, resulting in more girls noticing me just doing my thing
Three things that I will do better next time:
- Had good self-love but I lacked purposefulness. I lacked some oomph.
Focus next time balance self-love with leadership, purposefulness and I’m golden. Extreme self-love with extreme purposefulness = sexiest mf’er girls can’t resist. Experience has proven that. It is a fine art that takes lots of energy to maintain, especially purposefulness.
- At the end, there were a few cuties on floor. It was crowded and we were dancing with our bodies touching. I missed opening 2-3 of the cuties which got taken by other guys who were just more bold and went for it. One guy pulled. The other guys lacked leadership. The girls were just standing there, waiting while the confident guy was making a scene with other girls.
Focus next time it’s crazy I don’t remember this. It’s so SIMPLE. The guy who’s the boldest, most confident, most entitled will get the cuties. Again.. THE GUY WHO’S THE BOLDEST, MOST CONFIDENT, MOST ENTITLED WILL GET THE CUTIES.
Before the cuties decided to engage more with each of their guys, the cuties moved close to me and looked at me many times and I did nothing. Yaay, self-love… Therefore the point above.
- Validate/Reward girls less. It’s a bad habit from somewhere.
Focus next time only validate/reward a girl when she’s clearly engaged with qualifying or reacting to spikes
Leeeeeeeeeet’s fvcking gooooooo!
