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Field report 3 - Low energy night with low flow and low purpose
Less sleep, long day, gym, extra work responsibilities
Felt more natural being social tonight but less man to woman / purposeful
Tried to force myself to be more purposeful and man to woman, was very challenging
Late start of night
Writing this report while my brain is overworked and it have the feeling of being nearly empty
2 set, just arrived, waiting in queue to bar, corner cafe/bar
Three things I did well:
Three things I will do better next time:
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2 set hotties 18+19yos, waiting in queue to bar, corner cafe/bar
Three things I did well:
Three things I will do better next time:
Writing this report now, I can think a little more focused. It’s risky as fvck but whispering in one of the girls ears in a playfully commanding way, tell your friend you going outside for 1 minute to call your dad and you’ll be right back. I’ll meet you outside. If she objects, I’ll say, it’s just for two seconds, adventure, or go on and keep living your boring life. All said playfully commanding of course.
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3 set, one petite cutie brunette, sitting at table in front of me, corner cafe/bar
Three things I did well:
I focus on my girl and we get somehow automatically mini isolated from the group.
And yet my wing was like ok bro, go for it, leaving us alone but she’s like, no you stay here too. Fvcking girl haha.
Later, despite the crazy things I would say, with low flow in the interaction, I managed to stay cool enough when the cutie and her friends thought I was saying too weird shit.
Three things I will do better next time:
Should have just opened her with arm out and pull her up and just dance with her, then move her around the crowd so her friends couldn’t see her and then just go more sexual or makeout.
Part of this comes from the lack of interest in me and they were more focused on my wing, didn’t matter if it was a wing or another guy. They just didn’t seem very interested in me at the end
I reapproach and they suddenly all focused on me. I didn’t understand. Just because I left?
Then they suddenly say, you talk local language!! Don’t know why they first talk about that after I left. The whole time I spoke English with them because I wanted to include my wing. I thought for a moment, it might have been the glasses and this extra girl was commenting on them and I also see the cutie holding longer eye contact.
I talk shortly to the extra girl but not purposeful or very engaged.
It was time to go, so I move directly to the cutie and say, you should add me on insta. She’s like yeah, for sure! I’m waiting expecting her to take her phone out but she ignores me. Then I say a little playful and commanding “take your phone out”, she’s like “no. you can add me”
Then I did a little self amusing, I’ll swallow my gum if you don’t take your phone out.
But she wasn’t turned over yet.
So I just left and I could feel her attention and eyes on me while leaving.
There were many possibilities to make it more fun and interesting. Like “I just swallowed it, how does that make you feel?” If she’s still not turned, bye, have fun with your boring life.. all said playful and challenging of course.
Btw. She was pretty good at self-amusing too, not often girls can do that
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1 set blonde, streets outside clubs
Three things I did well:
Three things I will do better next time:
If she’s not going home with him or not sure, then I’ll stay in the interaction. When I left I saw there were 2-3 ok cute girls behind me too who seemed like knew the girl and guy so I would see what’s up with them and have my wing introduced too
Let’s go!
Less sleep, long day, gym, extra work responsibilities
Felt more natural being social tonight but less man to woman / purposeful
Tried to force myself to be more purposeful and man to woman, was very challenging
Late start of night
Writing this report while my brain is overworked and it have the feeling of being nearly empty
2 set, just arrived, waiting in queue to bar, corner cafe/bar
Three things I did well:
- Maintained not being phased by their non-approval of my approach
- Kept talking with the little response I got from them
- Tried to put more self amusement into the interaction despite their little engagement
Three things I will do better next time:
- Be more playfully commanding, if not good reaction, statement of empathy and continue talking
- Stay a little longer in the interaction despite them finally getting to the bar, when I bounced
- Being a warmup set, I think it went ok. Not my types so it was all ok.
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2 set hotties 18+19yos, waiting in queue to bar, corner cafe/bar
Three things I did well:
- Went over to them confident and kept being cool even though they were showing disinterest in their body language. I found this is very common in girls, especially some hotter ones, to weed out the guys who still look at girls for approval to keep talking to them
- Although not having as much energy to be man to woman and purposeful tonight, I still was able to be a boss. They started asking questions when I didn’t get phased by their apparent disinterest and them not talking so much because I was just standing there, looking at them like yup.. you are supposed to elaborate on why you reacted that way to what I said
- They were with 2 guys sitting at a table behind me I found out but I didn’t care in the moment. The girls reacted with big eyes and mouth wide open like.. did you just say that!! when I said I thought they were 16. They kept that expression for what seem like an eternity, so I finally thought about smt I learned recently in situations like that and made a statement of empathy and the interaction got better.
Three things I will do better next time:
- Be more enthusiastic and playful. It’s a recurring theme tonight with the lack of energy and purposefulness that I felt less able to put out this oomph in the interactions I had.
- Stay with them for longer instead of bouncing when we reached the bar, like the last girls. This set I liked the girls. I definitely didn’t have the mental capacity of creativity tonight for different ways to isolate girls
Writing this report now, I can think a little more focused. It’s risky as fvck but whispering in one of the girls ears in a playfully commanding way, tell your friend you going outside for 1 minute to call your dad and you’ll be right back. I’ll meet you outside. If she objects, I’ll say, it’s just for two seconds, adventure, or go on and keep living your boring life. All said playfully commanding of course.
- Try and move them over to the right side of the bar, so the guys behind me wouldn’t be able to see us and engage both of them for some more fun, buying myself some time, exchange contacts. Had a wing who was coming later.
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3 set, one petite cutie brunette, sitting at table in front of me, corner cafe/bar
Three things I did well:
- Said hi confidently to her, not best timing as they were going out, I thought they were leaving. They were having a cigarette. The blonde girl intercepted and asked me if I could look after their jackets. I gave her yeah, ok already set the timer. Skeptically looking at her like why are you even asking me this strange girl
- Wing came and we went outside, I see the girls are talking with a guy. I go around and reopen the cutie. Focused on her, then I realize the guy I had vibed with before and he’s ok.
I focus on my girl and we get somehow automatically mini isolated from the group.
- When my wing came in it looked like cutie very interested in him, asking him questions and being physical with him. Lacking the oomph, I felt a little stuck from time to time and my flow was low. Despite all this, I managed to still do what I wanted, tried to be self amusing and also when the girls was going to go inside, she was last again, and I stopped her physically, assertively with little playfulness and told her to stay 2 seconds with just a little persistency and got her to came back
And yet my wing was like ok bro, go for it, leaving us alone but she’s like, no you stay here too. Fvcking girl haha.
Later, despite the crazy things I would say, with low flow in the interaction, I managed to stay cool enough when the cutie and her friends thought I was saying too weird shit.
Three things I will do better next time:
- The cutie had been looking at me every now and then for some time. She was filled with energy and wanted to party but was held back by no one taking the lead and make it ok for her to let loose. Her whole body language was like YAAY! Party!!
Should have just opened her with arm out and pull her up and just dance with her, then move her around the crowd so her friends couldn’t see her and then just go more sexual or makeout.
- My flow was really bad at times in our interactions outside with the girls. When I would say something crazy and they were finding it strange, I should have made statement of empathy. I just gave less of a fvck and it turned more towards me against the girls direction.
Part of this comes from the lack of interest in me and they were more focused on my wing, didn’t matter if it was a wing or another guy. They just didn’t seem very interested in me at the end
- Wing and I agreed to leave the set, so I walk around the corner, I put on my night glasses on. I wait.. wing doesn’t come. I go back and see he’s in a circle with the 3 girls and 1 extra girl.
I reapproach and they suddenly all focused on me. I didn’t understand. Just because I left?
Then they suddenly say, you talk local language!! Don’t know why they first talk about that after I left. The whole time I spoke English with them because I wanted to include my wing. I thought for a moment, it might have been the glasses and this extra girl was commenting on them and I also see the cutie holding longer eye contact.
I talk shortly to the extra girl but not purposeful or very engaged.
It was time to go, so I move directly to the cutie and say, you should add me on insta. She’s like yeah, for sure! I’m waiting expecting her to take her phone out but she ignores me. Then I say a little playful and commanding “take your phone out”, she’s like “no. you can add me”
Then I did a little self amusing, I’ll swallow my gum if you don’t take your phone out.
But she wasn’t turned over yet.
So I just left and I could feel her attention and eyes on me while leaving.
There were many possibilities to make it more fun and interesting. Like “I just swallowed it, how does that make you feel?” If she’s still not turned, bye, have fun with your boring life.. all said playful and challenging of course.
Btw. She was pretty good at self-amusing too, not often girls can do that
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1 set blonde, streets outside clubs
Three things I did well:
- Said hi confidently to her. She’s open.
- She responds with hi and then, I’m with that person, pointing over to a guy 30 meters away, peeing. I didn’t react and she looks me in the eyes and repeats 2-3 times and I finally look over my shoulder quickly.
- I managed to summon a little fire and purpose and grabbed her face with both of my hands put my face close to hers and said “oookkk!’ In a you little brat! dominant, playful energy.
Three things I will do better next time:
- She looked excited and fine with me grabbing her face and going close in with my face.
Next time, say, kiss, no one will know and make out. Then ask about who’s the guy and if I judge she’s really going with him home, then I say, quick.. number. Quickly make out again and leave.
If she’s not going home with him or not sure, then I’ll stay in the interaction. When I left I saw there were 2-3 ok cute girls behind me too who seemed like knew the girl and guy so I would see what’s up with them and have my wing introduced too
- Address her objection of she’s with that person at the start with it’s okay, no one will know but then again.. if it would make her less resilient about it, I wouldn’t had the transfer of energy of her repeating she’s with that person, to fuel my purpose and energy to grabbing her face
- Be quicker in noticing her openness to physicality. Her words says something but her body language says something very different. Be better at reading these signs to quickly try and push the boundaries
Let’s go!
