FR Field report 4/30 - Uncalibrated night

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Field report 4/30 - Uncalibrated night

This field report is bad for brainwashing myself to be more boss and so it will be the last one I make about bad sets seen from an objective view as I can put them

6h sleep, gym, work, ng

Tonight nearly every girl I met did 2 things:

1) Didn’t comply with my opening


2) Soon after opening, felt I was trying too much and ignored me


I was in a very different state and mood than the previous nights.
Because the things I did in the previous nights was good, I tried to do them again tonight.


Most of my sets were without oomph, I tried to force it and I was incongruent and that is why the girls didn’t want to meet or keep talking to me


It’s rare but sometimes I have a night like this where it’s a mixture of I don’t give a fvck mixed with trying something that worked before where my energy was more focused and could cut through. Tonight my energy was more like a huge wave that can’t cut through

Big lesson about incongruence tonight. Question is, how to meet more girls when you feel like you can’t cut through in the bars and clubs. I gotta open but I also know from experience that a opening that doesn’t cut through is making the rest of the interaction


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NG


2 set moving, on their way to club on other side of the street, outside cocktail lounge bar


Three things I did well:

• Stopped the last girl with a confident and grounded hey. She’s so happy and asked if me and my wing would come to the club too

• Noticed and planned to stop them when I saw them go to the bars toilet

• Had relaxed laser eye-contact, body language was relaxed with a smirk. The only set I approached tonight that I felt calibrated

Three things I will do better next time:

• When she walked away towards her friend, be a bit more commanding, tell her to stay for 2 seconds, 2 seconds! while I go towards her a little bit. Once she comes, I move her a bit. Then tell her friend to come and say hi to my wing, and come and guess which celebrity he’s in family with

• Be more physical and keep talking after the open when I saw she was so happy to be talking with me

• When I cold read that they look like someone going to this club, she said yes.

Probably not the best to do even though I notice it. It reminds them that that’s what they were doing before I stopped them and they went towards the club


Instead of that, say you look like party girls











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3 set outside sitting, corner cafe/bar





Three things I did well:

• Approached although at first, I took a seat on the table beside theirs and chatting with wing for a few minutes

• Knew something wasn't right but didn’t let it phase me. Comparing with previous nights. Where girls would at first be blasé and not reactive to test if I was as cool as I presented myself to be. The girls kept being blasé and not reactive. They were more like being nice

• Was self amusing and laughing to myself through interaction

Three things I will do better next time:

• Shortly after I opened, I stood up to say hi to the other girls and it looked like it was a big deal

My back was to one of the girls at first before turning around and saying hey


Next time just keep siting and chatting like that to them instead of making it look like a big deal, although I honestly felt like it was no big deal as my give a fvck meter was low

• When I asked if it’s ok we can sit with them for a moment and one girl said, actually we have to leave soon, I took it as a test. Again the frame of mind I had is everything is a test but this time it was a sign to not sit with them.

• Kept talking to one of the girls, although she was leaning back a little and just being polite interacting with me

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3 set outside smoking, pub/club - 1 girl with 1 guy hooking up and 1 girl by herself





Three things I did well:

• Approached the girl by herself despite having had lots of uncalibrated interactions throughout the night

• Opening was ok and she was the first girl of the night that actually liked it a bit at first (besides the first set of the night)

• When another guy came in and asked for a cigarette and stayed, I d

Three things I will do better next time:

• After opening, soon after I went too fast and uncalibrated

• Soon after that, a head taller guy cames in and asked girl for a cigarette. I was trying too hard in between. Saying some things when she gave him cigarette and lighted his cigarette on hers. It’s so strange because to me I didn’t care but to others, it seems try hard.

The guy then said, she’s with me, I’m her.. and he couldn’t say boyfriend haha.


My body was towards hers and her’s slightly away but still kind of facing mine and the guy is behind my right shoulder. I said, yeah for sure you know her pfft.. and I continued to talk to girl.


I wish I would get angry at that point and tell him to fvck off or confront him but I didn’t get angry I was emotionless. Also I was looking too much for validation I guess, so when I saw the girl was just not reacting to me and just being quiet looking away. I felt I was unwelcome, stood for a 5 seconds and said gotta go bye. Felt shitty for a moment to leave like that

• After opening, be congruent and just say a little, relax and expect the girl to react. I’m the fvcking boss and I’m here talking to you because I want to see if you are cool too

Let’s go!!!!!