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Field report 7 - Ashamed.. not going for a clearly hooked girl
Had a solid interaction tonight in a 3set where the girl I liked was gaming me a bit. Weird thing was I didn’t feel much sexual although she’s my type, pretty and innocent cute too.
I just didn’t felt the need to lead it somewhere or to something and that’s ok too. Or I could be ashamed of myself. Maybe that’s the best.
Looking from above, I should totally have closed her. We touched each others souls, listening close to each other like lovers do and laughing together and at each other.
It’s so strange to me. I go out and game to have fun, to meet girls and to have sexual experiences with them? Sometimes I don’t think I go out to have sexual experiences with girls. I think I’m lacking some better perspectives to be that man who fvcks girls all the time and give them amazing experiences.
Another thing is, maybe I’m still licking the wounds from previous night of bad calibration and therefore extra focused on not doing too much, resulting in not leading much or try riskier things. I don’t know but I should have been riskier for sure. Field report below…
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3 set walking, young 18yo’s
Three things I did well:
Three things I will do better next time:
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1 set, at the bar inside cocktail bar.
She took a seat beside me when I was standing there to order. There were 2 girls on my right whom I had eye contact with and were open to be opened but I opened 1 set, although she was not hotter than one of the girls in the 2 set, it was more an instinct.
Three things I did well:
Three things I will do better next time:
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3 set, at bar, on my right, overview of the focus of the interaction is at the top of the FR
At a point when the milf was interacting with me and waiting for her drink, the girl closest to us in the 3 set opened her. Now the milf was sort of talking with everyone, also talking a bit to the 1 set. Eventually she got her drink and said her byes.
Three things I did well:
The girl closest to me was really cute and pretty I realised, and she’s talking a lot, would say 60/40 to 70/30. There were lots of laughter and giggling.
What was good was I was real, not seeing myself as above them, being real and not trying too hard. I felt if they left, I would feel just the same although I also liked them.. I just didn’t lead on that…
Three things I will do better next time:
Like try to isolate her by leaning in and whispering to her at a high point, “tell your friend you’ll be back in 2 seconds. There’s something I wanna show you”
Once she stands up and follows me, and I see she’s a half head taller than me, I’ll be surprised. Then think, we better find somewhere else to sit and be close because it feels weird standing up and interacting when she’s taller than me.
Like, an open loop that they don’t get the satisfaction of closing.
Also they kept asking me where I was going and if it’s a good place. They were waiting for me to take charge and tell them, let’s go.. and go this other bigger cocktail, lounge bar with dancefloor.
At the end they decided to go the place they had planned at first because I didn’t lead.
Like, close your eyes for a moment, then lean in and kiss her.
Honestly after writing this, I feel ashamed. I could have given them a much better time and experience… fDAWHDNKWADnj.. What the fvck is wrong with me…
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2 set, walking towards me in the main street
Three things I did well:
It was cold and her sexy clothing probably didn’t help
Three things I will do better next time:
“Hey stop for 2 seconds! Just 2 seconds! 2 seconds! I’m actually on my way to someone right now but I saw you and had to say hi.. vodka or coffee? Ok cool, I’m going that way now. Let’s exchange insta and maybe we’ll have a vodka soon. Give me your phone.” Taking one step at a time.
Walk a little faster to be more in front of them than I was
You actually look like a xyz (when they told me about what they do).. but I can’t put my finger on it..
Leeeeetsss gooooooooo!!!!!
Had a solid interaction tonight in a 3set where the girl I liked was gaming me a bit. Weird thing was I didn’t feel much sexual although she’s my type, pretty and innocent cute too.
I just didn’t felt the need to lead it somewhere or to something and that’s ok too. Or I could be ashamed of myself. Maybe that’s the best.
Looking from above, I should totally have closed her. We touched each others souls, listening close to each other like lovers do and laughing together and at each other.
It’s so strange to me. I go out and game to have fun, to meet girls and to have sexual experiences with them? Sometimes I don’t think I go out to have sexual experiences with girls. I think I’m lacking some better perspectives to be that man who fvcks girls all the time and give them amazing experiences.
Another thing is, maybe I’m still licking the wounds from previous night of bad calibration and therefore extra focused on not doing too much, resulting in not leading much or try riskier things. I don’t know but I should have been riskier for sure. Field report below…
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3 set walking, young 18yo’s
Three things I did well:
- Before opening, I signalled with body language to catch attention first, then I said hey
- Opened them strong and chill and they stopped when walking towards me
- Almost immediately two of them turned their back to me after looking at me and also group of young guys walking by overheard me, repeated what I said, trolling, I didn’t let it phase me and I just talked honest to the girls and that I saw them and wanted to be a little social and warm up a bit, time was 22:30
Three things I will do better next time:
- Cold-read them for more fun, like the one talking with me, you look like you would be a good teacher.. and then address the first with the back towards me, bodyguard! And you, baker
- Got a little awkward at the end and I said bye and bounced. Should either feel more comfortable being there, just talk talk talk or if it gets awkward, feel it in it’s full depths to feel something
- After saying hey, cold-read with, you girls looked so cool, I had to say hi
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1 set, at the bar inside cocktail bar.
She took a seat beside me when I was standing there to order. There were 2 girls on my right whom I had eye contact with and were open to be opened but I opened 1 set, although she was not hotter than one of the girls in the 2 set, it was more an instinct.
Three things I did well:
- Soon after I got my soda, I opened situationally, like a chill cool guy.
- Kept interacting, going for some vibing.. and I put myself out of the interaction when I felt she wasn’t investing at times. She’s still sitting beside me, no rush. She also started to qualify being a bad girl when at first we talked about how everything about her was good girl things
- 7-10 mins in I got opened by a milf on my right. She was loud, open and talkative and that heightened my social standings apparently because I was carefree and bit commanding talking with her, both the 1 set girl but also a 3 set girl, I mentioned at the start of FR, on my right saw it (the 2set had left)
Three things I will do better next time:
- Could practice more physicality. Honestly the thought of going that route I blocked out because she wasn’t much my type but gotta be more icy and practice!! fvck..
- Be more polarising fun with what would you do if questions.. will write 3 down that I find funny to use..
- I was too entitled in the way I talked with her at times, so I came off as arrogant. It made her invest less. Gotta stop myself when I’m forgetting I’m not above her.
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3 set, at bar, on my right, overview of the focus of the interaction is at the top of the FR
At a point when the milf was interacting with me and waiting for her drink, the girl closest to us in the 3 set opened her. Now the milf was sort of talking with everyone, also talking a bit to the 1 set. Eventually she got her drink and said her byes.
Three things I did well:
- I had strong eye contact with them all 3 before opening. After the milf left, I looked to my right and opened the closest girl and also shortest. Around half head shorter than me, where as the two other girls I found was a half head taller than me at the end.
- Talked to the shorter one like it was the most normal thing, the two taller girls chimed in every now and then. Eventually she went to the bathroom and stayed there to count her hair or something. I moved over 5 feet to the two girls and reopened.
The girl closest to me was really cute and pretty I realised, and she’s talking a lot, would say 60/40 to 70/30. There were lots of laughter and giggling.
What was good was I was real, not seeing myself as above them, being real and not trying too hard. I felt if they left, I would feel just the same although I also liked them.. I just didn’t lead on that…
- Kept strong eye contact and didn’t keep the interaction boring by agreeing to everything and saying yeah.. because the train was going that way at times and I stopped it. Tingled a bit with their emotions and they loved it. She asked me if I’m bad, good-bad or good. I took it as if I feel, “I wanna fvck, maybe fvck or not wanna fvck tonight”. I said good-bad. She said she likes that I’m honest. Also said I was cute later at a point.. but I took it as a bad thing like “ohh you cutie”. In hindsight it is not of course. An old habit/reaction from when I was a child every damn person called me so cute and I wanted to rebel against it.
Three things I will do better next time:
- I liked this girl, she’s my type, pretty, cute innocent and fun but I didn’t feel much sexual. Next time I find myself in a situation like that, I will catch myself and do something risky. Just test out something
Like try to isolate her by leaning in and whispering to her at a high point, “tell your friend you’ll be back in 2 seconds. There’s something I wanna show you”
Once she stands up and follows me, and I see she’s a half head taller than me, I’ll be surprised. Then think, we better find somewhere else to sit and be close because it feels weird standing up and interacting when she’s taller than me.
- Do more vibing and tingle some more with their emotions throughout interaction.
Like, an open loop that they don’t get the satisfaction of closing.
Also they kept asking me where I was going and if it’s a good place. They were waiting for me to take charge and tell them, let’s go.. and go this other bigger cocktail, lounge bar with dancefloor.
At the end they decided to go the place they had planned at first because I didn’t lead.
- Try some fun spikes to make it more interesting after I was hooked good. The girls were looking for some fun and cool guys they can trust.
Like, close your eyes for a moment, then lean in and kiss her.
Honestly after writing this, I feel ashamed. I could have given them a much better time and experience… fDAWHDNKWADnj.. What the fvck is wrong with me…
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2 set, walking towards me in the main street
Three things I did well:
- Opened strongly and she complied with the handshake although she kept walking with her friend. Saw her from afar in sexy clothing, standing out.
It was cold and her sexy clothing probably didn’t help
- Kept walking with them. Told her the reason I said hi. Cold-read them and her friend started to qualify with what they were doing, like they were higher educated..
- Didn’t get phased by their lack of interest or at least what it seemed
Three things I will do better next time:
- Have them stop for a moment to do an insta close.
“Hey stop for 2 seconds! Just 2 seconds! 2 seconds! I’m actually on my way to someone right now but I saw you and had to say hi.. vodka or coffee? Ok cool, I’m going that way now. Let’s exchange insta and maybe we’ll have a vodka soon. Give me your phone.” Taking one step at a time.
Walk a little faster to be more in front of them than I was
- Sprinkle a little spiking and open loops in the short interaction
You actually look like a xyz (when they told me about what they do).. but I can’t put my finger on it..
Leeeeetsss gooooooooo!!!!!
