Finally figured out what I want to get out of this site help (last thread)

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I feel that with my past threads (more like e-therapy sessions) I have been whining a lot without telling you guys what I want to get out of this site. By posting this thread (my last thread) I feel like I can specify what my desires are, what I hope to achieve, and how this site can help. I lack the information needed to achieve these tasks but with some information I believe I can get off the web and get out there and do.

Here are some desires I hope to achieve and I think the information on this site can help me.

1. Get a circle of amazing friends.

Friends I can go out with, have a good time with, can rely on to be my wingmen, and can expect to grow from. Most of my friends have consisted mainly of guys who didn't have any desires to party on the weekends and have not even thought about consuming alcohol before. You can say I have misused the word amazing here but I want to make friends that have connections with the nightlife scene and are likely to be partying and getting laid on the weekends.

2. Get a hot girlfriend.

I guess overtime I have learned that I don't need the high lay count anymore. I want to experience dating and spending time around girls that are hot and preferably White (and blonde). The reason I have my preference is because in the past I have not had any success with girls who were White (never a blonde) but have had a tremendous amount of success with girls that aren't so I guess it is more of wanting what you can't have.

Problem is that I don't have any idea on how to get either and I have some limiting beliefs about both, especially the 2nd one. You see, even though I am better looking than most guys of my race (desi) I have a lot of mental setbacks when it comes to attractive White girls. The reason being that I have never in my life seen a hot white girl (especially a blonde) with a man of my background or one that looks ethnically similar to my background, like ever. I also live in an area that has a sizable population of both groups too (successful men of my race and hot white women). It has created many mental roadblocks in my head and I think a suggestion as to what cities in America can best give me a chance to have that life assuming I make the best out of myself would help.

This will be my last thread on this forum because I do not want to spend too much time online. I will take the suggestions on this thread and try them. A lot of these will be long term investments so I am willing to spend a long time working on them and will check this thread occasionally for advice updates.

 

[Mr.Rob]

First off you use your race as a crutch for why you can't get a certain type of girl. You basically give up all your power and don't even try to land a super hot white blonde (or whatever it is you want) because you've never had much success with that type of girl and you've never seen a man of your race together with that type of girl.

You're responsible for your own success with any type of woman you want.

As far as women goes they're more worried about being in good energy with a cool charismatic guy than they are concerned with what his racial/ethnic background is. You could be a BlueMan ( you know from the Blue man group lol) and as long as you're sexy and able to steer the interaction through the proper array of emotions the girl will be on your blue penis.

Like seriously if you're having problems with women your race is not the issue. It's more likely that you need to work on your fundamentals and adjust how you come off socially just like every other beginner that's ever tried their hand at this stuff.

So what you believe that it's impossible for a guy of your race to get with a sexy white blonde. Go find out for yourself if that's true or not! Approach and talk to 20 hot white women and tell them you think they are cute/sexy. If you get a warm response "hey thanks! =)" from one of them you've just proved your belief wrong.

Take responsibility, don't allow any predisposed element of you (race, income, bad cards dealt in life) control your success with women.

-Rob

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Thanks for your advice and concern Mr Rob.

Well that is something else, the repeated bad experiences with such women has led me to develop these limiting beliefs. Most of the hot blondes I have crushed on have chased after the guy that is tall, white, and above average looking (high status as well). I am not short myself (standing 6"2) and I was born and bred in America. As I have said, I have had a lot of success with women that were from minority groups and even some White girls who were from more open minded groups (international students, friends of a diverse group, etc.). The problem is that when it has come to girls I see at bars, clubs, and run into in daily life the success is never there.

Due to my bad experiences in the past with these kinds of girls I have developed limiting beliefs and I think those might be stopping progress from happening. I have picked up on this but it is like nothing can break the chain here. WiseFool gave me excellent advice that I have read but mentally my issues are still there. For some reason the Hayden Pantierres and Blake Livelys of this world would rather laugh at me even thinking that I have a chance with them than see what I have to offer.

The kind of girls I am having repeated bad experiences with are White, upper middle class, and reasonably attractive. All of them have given me some of the harshest rejections of my life and at one time I got a rejection so bad that these 2 Latinas walked over and tried to make my night better (I was grateful for it). I just don't get why I have so many bad experiences with White girls. It could have to do with the fact that the area I am in doesn't have a reputation of being "open minded" so I think a change of location might work wonders.

 

[Eternity]

I swear u and FujiFollower are the same person...

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I swear u and FujiFollower are the same person...

I've chatted with him before on here and we do seem to have the same struggle but I feel like mines is a lot more severe than his. To mods and members who have contributed on both his threads and mines I am grateful, not here to suck out the life out of this forum or troll. I wrote all I did in the OP to seek advice that would help me in my steps to taking action. You do have my word that this here is my last thread on this forum because I came here to change parts of my social life but feel that I did overstay my welcome and waste time with negative posts which from my side are completely finished. In the case I do get banned for trolling, thank you everyone for adding valuable information to my thread. Thank you Chase for your advice and Wisefool for spending your time writing out all you did.

 

[Marty]

Oh Pry:

1. I have a Desi friend and tennis partner, also about 6'2". A Russian (i.e. ethnically European) woman, whom I had a long and intimate relationship with, once told me that she found him very physically attractive and would sleep with him if he weren't married (she's conservative about stuff like that).

2. Have you seen this site, where heterosexual women of all ethnicities post pictures of their most-craved Desi males?

3. I think Franco gave you excellent advice. May I suggest you keep reading it over until you practically have it from memory.

-Marty

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Marty, thanks for your advice too but I feel like this me making my background a part of me is not going anywhere and was a dumb thing for me to do. I want to approach this with procedures now, I am done with dwelling on the mental aspects of it. Right now I want to take steps and want advice about what I can do physically (join a club? go to bars a lot? get ripped?) and steps I can take to build the lifestyle I want. You could say instead of motivation I want general advice, more like a gameplan or something to get me started on the road to action. Like steps I can take or something I can do to get there.