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ramirezs316

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After a year and three months of reading Girls Chase, I finally got laid...and I'm not sure how I feel about it.

I followed procedure perfectly. I met this cute half black/half Puerto Rican girl on plenty of fish. We hit it off in text then set up a date. Even though she lives in another city, I got her to come to me. We met at a coffee shop, I deep dived her, didn't pay for her lol, and after an hour, she asked to come over to my place. I suggested we watch a movie, so we snuggled up. After a makeout, she was a little hesitant about getting more physical so we cooled it. After telling me she doesn't usually sleep with guys on the first date, I tried something I thought would never work: I asked "Can I still kiss you?" She obliged and we made out, which put her in the mood. So after awhile she asked me to take off her clothes. In all fairness, her body wasn't quite as advertised on her page, but I was too in it to get nitpicky. I had my condoms nearby (thankfully two, as the first wouldn't roll down), and I used one of the sex moves Chase wrote about to make her come quicker...which she did. I don't think she guessed for a second that it was my first time.

It was all such an out of body experience, kinda--to use a bad pun--anticlimactic. Would I have preferred it with a girl I had feelings for? Yeah. There are a couple girls in my past I wish could of been the first. But after so many failures, it was refreshing to just get the first out of the way. Now here is where things get weird. I've struggled all my life with the possibility I'm asexual. I started masturbating at a relatively late age, and only until recently have gone for physical stuff with girls (I'm still not sure if I like kissing, believe it or not). It took me awhile to get it up with the girl (I'm also on a lot of medication which can't help) and I barely even felt my orgasm (possibly just because I was concentrating so hard). Yet afterword, my mood plummeted. I felt oddly depressed and anxious.

I feel like I could go either way now. It may have just been the case that I ended up not being that attracted to the girl and I need to find someone who really does it for me. Or it could be that I'm just not comfortable with intimacy that physical. Right now, I'm gonna focus on finding hotter girls, doing it some more and I'll see where I stand. I really appreciate this community for helping me out.
 

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Franco

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ramirez,

I feel like I could go either way now. It may have just been the case that I ended up not being that attracted to the girl and I need to find someone who really does it for me. Or it could be that I'm just not comfortable with intimacy that physical. Right now, I'm gonna focus on finding hotter girls, doing it some more and I'll see where I stand. I really appreciate this community for helping me out.

It's what I always tell guys on here: your first time is never all that special.

That's why it's imperative you just try to get it out of the way as fast as possible so that you can see it, understand it, and then move forward with it. I can almost guarantee you that there were many factors contributing to what you felt, and between nervousness, anxiety, a lack of attraction, a lack of confidence, and a lack of know-how, you probably weren't able to focus on the actual pleasure of sex nearly as much as you should.

I'm glad you've finally made your move though! Keep going out there and start working on bringing more women home with you. I'm sure your opinion will change once you start to bed attractive women with confidence. =)

- Franco
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

Casanovelis

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Franco said:
ramirez,

I feel like I could go either way now. It may have just been the case that I ended up not being that attracted to the girl and I need to find someone who really does it for me. Or it could be that I'm just not comfortable with intimacy that physical. Right now, I'm gonna focus on finding hotter girls, doing it some more and I'll see where I stand. I really appreciate this community for helping me out.

It's what I always tell guys on here: your first time is never all that special.


- Franco

We were sitting on the couch and my first girlfriend said, "You want me to get on it so you aren't a virgin?" Lasted about 5 minutes but her little brother kept going up and down the stairs making us nervous. Nevertheless I felt accomplished that night lol
 

ocantu1987

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ramirezs316 said:
I've struggled all my life with the possibility I'm asexual. I started masturbating at a relatively late age, and only until recently have gone for physical stuff with girls (I'm still not sure if I like kissing, believe it or not). It took me awhile to get it up with the girl

Drop the porn/masturbation after a few weeks you will want to kiss a girl and more :)
 

ramirezs316

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ocantu1987 said:
ramirezs316 said:
I've struggled all my life with the possibility I'm asexual. I started masturbating at a relatively late age, and only until recently have gone for physical stuff with girls (I'm still not sure if I like kissing, believe it or not). It took me awhile to get it up with the girl

Drop the porn/masturbation after a few weeks you will want to kiss a girl and more :)

I dropped porn a long time ago lol. But thanks for the tip.
 

ramirezs316

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Franco said:
ramirez,

I feel like I could go either way now. It may have just been the case that I ended up not being that attracted to the girl and I need to find someone who really does it for me. Or it could be that I'm just not comfortable with intimacy that physical. Right now, I'm gonna focus on finding hotter girls, doing it some more and I'll see where I stand. I really appreciate this community for helping me out.

It's what I always tell guys on here: your first time is never all that special.

That's why it's imperative you just try to get it out of the way as fast as possible so that you can see it, understand it, and then move forward with it. I can almost guarantee you that there were many factors contributing to what you felt, and between nervousness, anxiety, a lack of attraction, a lack of confidence, and a lack of know-how, you probably weren't able to focus on the actual pleasure of sex nearly as much as you should.

I'm glad you've finally made your move though! Keep going out there and start working on bringing more women home with you. I'm sure your opinion will change once you start to bed attractive women with confidence. =)

- Franco

I'm sure it will. I felt better after I cooled off last night. Its funny, I expected to feel completely reborn lol. I did have more confidence when at the gym around other ladies like I finally get how it works. My sex drive came back this morning like normal, so I suspect I just need to explore some more.
 

Verisimilitude

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My first time wasn't special at all. It was a booty call. I don't really think a person's first time is ever really that special. I actually had higher expectations of sex than it really was. I expected it to be the best feeling in the world. With a condom on, it didn't feel like much. Without one, it felt better but not mind blowing.

The thing that really drives me crazy about sex and keeps me going is that I feel empowered when I have sex with a girl, especially if she's into it. I feel like I'm fulfilling a purpose and really in control. That's pretty philosophical, but does anyone else know what I mean?
 

ramirezs316

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Verisimilitude said:
My first time wasn't special at all. It was a booty call. I don't really think a person's first time is ever really that special. I actually had higher expectations of sex than it really was. I expected it to be the best feeling in the world. With a condom on, it didn't feel like much. Without one, it felt better but not mind blowing.

The thing that really drives me crazy about sex and keeps me going is that I feel empowered when I have sex with a girl, especially if she's into it. I feel like I'm fulfilling a purpose and really in control. That's pretty philosophical, but does anyone else know what I mean?

I barely felt anything too...just a little warmth. Maybe it was because I ended up not feeling that attracted to the girl or the fact that we did it on the floor (which was comfortable for her but gave my knees serious rug burn lol) that I wasn't that into it. I kind of wanted it to be over but I could tell she wanted it so that kept me going too.

On a related note, its crazy how aroused women get. I've never been as aroused like how a girl gets aroused. When a woman feels it, its an event. With me, I either let it pass or go to the bathroom and take care of it within five minutes.
 

Masterluver22

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I have been reading girlschase for about a year now too and am still a virgin(22 years of age). I am starting to get serious about it again, but am still struggling to find a bar where there are girls my age. Everyone in my neighborhood are 5-10 years older than me. Anyway, congrats and you inspire me.
 
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