LR Finally my first black girl

[mindful]

What's up guys. I haven't posted anything in a while. I've had a FWB going on for a while and that has been keeping me content as I focus on starting up a business amongst a few other things I've been focusing on.

This focuses on a date I got through Tinder. Now, I haven't really been using Tinder that much in the past month or two. I've racked up like 100 matches and barely message the girls lol. Anyways, I ended up matching with this real tall, slim black chick and I just HAD to message her. I actually told her that straight up in my second message to her. After that it was just following my usual Tinder process to get the digits and setup a date.

This chick is still in college and doesn't drive so i had to go pick her up on campus. As soon as she steps outside I knew it was worth it to contact her. she is wearing brown boots with tight fitting jeans and a white glittery sweater.

Anyways, I bring her to a local pub where we stay for only like an hour and have one drink each. I didn't really say anything too sexual since we were having a good convo going about different aspects of college which I could tell she was really into talking about. I let my fundamentals and improved conversation skills handle this one. I did make make a note to tell her that I missed college because of all the women walking around campus and I miss the eye candy and just being a part of that atmosphere. About halfway through the convo I noticed she was turning her body more towards me and hit me a few times. I also noticed her giving me longer eye contact and looking at my lips.

This is where I knew I had to get us out of here and leave on a high note. This girl is feeling me and it's time to move things forward. I proceed to foot the bill for our drinks and ask her if she is ready to go. Once we are in my car, I tell her that it is still early and I would like to continue hanging out with her. I said we can go back to my place and watch a movie. She agrees almost instantly with no hesitation. Once in my apt, we take off our coats and then i go to the bathroom. She waits in the living room and when i return, she then goes as well.

I grab a handful of movies from my TV stand and tell her to pick one out. We narrowed it down to 2 specific movies and she chose the one that I was hoping she wouldn't lol. Anyways, we start the movie up within 2 mins I put my arm around here and she happily snuggles in closer to me. We continue watching the movie and i think 5 or 10 mins in I grab her chin and give her a quick kiss. After this we continue to watch the movie and 5 mins or so later I move in on her again. I go for a heavier kiss which leads to a make out. I start feeling her up and then kissing her neck. Once again I stopped and we started to watch the movie again. Shortly later, I go for the kill and again start passionalty kissing her and then start unbuttoning her pants. I didn't get any resistance with this girl.

After I get her pants and top off, I take her to my bedroom where the rest we say... is history

edit:
I wanted to note a few of the mindsets I have been carrying lately.

One is my intention, I always keep this in the back of my mind and it helps me to stay on track and give off the vibe of a guy that is flirty, confident, and not afraid to show a girl that I desire her.

Along with this, I try to always practice vulnerability and saying things that I really feel and come from a place within. Speaking a lot more in statements and deep diving when necessary. This actually makes me feel way more at ease and comfortable with myself. I'll say shit to challenge a girl if I don't necessarily agree with what she says. Because if I lose her I don't really care.

And lastly, I treat every girl I meet as practice. This really helps to take her off a pedestal and thinking of her as just another person you are trying to get to know and see what type of girl she is.

As always, keep improving yourself and have fun!

 

[NarrowJ]

I simply LOVE black women. Funny too, because I never saw them as all that attractive until I started forcing myself to sleep with them, and then racked up some good experiences. Now, I can't seem to get enough of them! If they're fit and relatively in shape, they have the best body proportion of any race. Can be slim, and still have very large breasts and a killer ass. Whereas skinny Caucasian or Asian women usually have little bony asses and no chest.

Anyhoo,

Anyways, I ended up matching with this real tall, slim black chick and I just HAD to message her. I actually told her that straight up in my second message to her.

I've finally learned, this is how to do Tinder. First message should be something simple for her to respond to, like "Hey [name], how's the crazy Tinder world been treating you?" and then go direct with the second message. Going direct with the first message usually just gets you a short "thanks " and she's not investing anything at all. On the flip side, if you wait too long to go direct, you're not going to grab her attention as quickly as you should be.

I did make make a note to tell her that I missed college because of all the women walking around campus and I miss the eye candy and just being a part of that atmosphere. About halfway through the convo I noticed she was turning her body more towards me and hit me a few times. I also noticed her giving me longer eye contact and looking at my lips.

One, nice job on the explanation of missing college. Most guys are afraid to tell women things like this. What most guys don't realize is that it's perfectly ok to tell girls about how you enjoy picking up women if you're a sexy dude. Not ok if you're a peasant or chump. Then you're just a fucking creeper

Two, good job noticing these things. She was into it, and instead of just sitting there and talking through her pretty-much-obvious signals, you took action.

Anyways, we start the movie up within 2 mins I put my arm around here and she happily snuggles in closer to me. We continue watching the movie and i think 5 or 10 mins in I grab her chin and give her a quick kiss. After this we continue to watch the movie and 5 mins or so later I move in on her again. I go for a heavier kiss which leads to a make out. I start feeling her up and then kissing her neck. Once again I stopped and we started to watch the movie again. Shortly later, I go for the kill and again start passionalty kissing her and then start unbuttoning her pants. I didn't get any resistance with this girl.

Pretty much textbook escalation here. Get her comfortable and settled in, then the kiss, then pull back (removes pressure, builds some comfort; you're not bulldozing through the escalation) and then some additional push-pull just to amp her buying temp. Then the passionate kiss to seal the close. If you can follow this process every time, you'll be golden.


Overall, great job! Look forward to more reports

J.J.

 

[mindful]

Thanks for the reply NarrowJ. I've enjoyed reading your LR on the boards and have learned a great deal from them.

You are so right about Tinder! I got a laugh out of your initial message you send to girls, because that's basically the same one I send lol. Then after that, you hit them with your intention and let them know that you are attracted to them and find them cute, etc. I think there is a huge misconception that Tinder is easy for finding girls to hookup with. Yes they are out there, but most girls usually are not so open and willing to come out and meet you with little investment involved or showing a little of yourself first. Most of the girls I talk to on Tinder need to be laid a little "ground work" and comfort before they even take you seriously. I will admit sometimes I can tell a girl is more open through her pics or profile and then I'll come a in a little more aggressive and push it.

Another one of my favorite openers is just saying "whoa". Girls are curious creatures and usually respond with a "whoa what?" or if they're a little sassy they just say "whoa" back. Then I hit them with an over the top compliment to moisten those panties. Sometimes girls get so frazzled they show it in their message back, like "oh my that was quite the compliment" or "you are making me blush". I only do this to girls that give me something to work with and I can make a genuine over-the-top compliment. Plus it helps to hit her more on an emotional level.

I do like black chicks myself. I still think they give really good blow jobs and I'm not a blow job person. This is the first one I went all the way with but have had BJs from others.

 

[NarrowJ]

Hey mindful,

Another one of my favorite openers is just saying "whoa". Girls are curious creatures and usually respond with a "whoa what?" or if they're a little sassy they just say "whoa" back. Then I hit them with an over the top compliment to moisten those panties. Sometimes girls get so frazzled they show it in their message back, like "oh my that was quite the compliment" or "you are making me blush". I only do this to girls that give me something to work with and I can make a genuine over-the-top compliment. Plus it helps to hit her more on an emotional level.

This is actually pretty brilliant. I will be trying this! I think one of the guys at RSD has a pretty cool Tinder opener to meet process that seems fairly legit as well, if you're interested in it. I'm on my phone or I'd track it down and link it here.

Great stuff, man. You do cold approach too, right? If you're this crafty with tinder, I'm sure you have a mind to do damage on that venue (which is the best way to meet new women as well.

Keep this coming, man. Impressed!


J.J.

 

[mindful]

I think i know what you're talking about.

I do some cold approaching but not as much as I should.