Find the right girl

[Bad Johny]

Hello guys,

Iam new on this page, i see that you discuss everything.
So i want to tell you my problem.
Iam 31/32 year old business man i love to date girls, i had some girls in my life but the ones that i wanted it never wanted me and one that i dont want they chase me .
So iam 32 and want to get married and have kids almost all of my freinds are alreday there. But most of my freinds give up and they got married to girls that are not so attratctive im still hoping to find a girl that is for me attratctive and smart but the problem is these girls are already taken or very hard to get, but i dont want to stop fighting to find a girl and fall in love with. Iam a littlie bit teird of chasing girls and going on dates i get two, three dates a month.

So if you have any idea and advice.

Iam sorry for my english if it is bad iam from balkans

Thank you guys.
Johny

 

[ray_zorse]

I think if you are finding all the high value girls to be taken, you are not looking hard enough.

My experience is there are literally millions of late-20s, early-30s girls out there, lonely and frustrated, waiting for a guy to come along who is what GC teaches you to be (confident, dominant, leading) rather than like the guys she is surrounded with (nervous, weak, needy)... and very aware the clock is ticking -- by age of 32 they are desperate to have a baby, yet still remaining somewhat aloof from the guys in their circle as unwilling to "settle" quite yet.

If you internalized GC material you'll have the opposite problem to what you described: you want casual, no-strings sex, she is determined to tie you down and move towards having a baby with you, and becomes confused, angry and worried when you won't do that, eventually screening you out as a tinewaster and going on to date other guys who do have potential to give her a baby.

You're getting 2~3 dates per month, how are you getting these dates? Social circle, online, cold approach...? What's your date plan, are you inviting them home on the first date? If you move fast and give her amazing sex, she will want a r/ship with you. BTW when did you last have a serious girlfriend? If your dates are not going well then maybe you are unintentionally communicating neediness?

Also, what's your question exactly, if it's how to find a high quality girl for LTR and potential babymaking, then I suggest to search for the definition of "absolute abundance" on this site, it means as well as being able to get a new gf anytime with minimal effort (abundance) you can get a wife-quality obe (intelligent, educated, confident, busy, popular, gentle, caring, intuitive, beautiful, physically fit, great body ... are some of the traits I'd look for). It's a long long road, in 2yrs of grinding you can hit abundance, but absolute is much harder!

Ray

 

[Bad Johny]

Beacuse iam 32 iam looking for girls that are from 25 to 33 years old these girls are more serious and want to have family. Iam GC but when i panic i beacome that other.. you are right about GC but iam a little terid of playing games all the time and pretending to not want somthing that i want it.
I want an from 1 to 10 number 8 girl i dont want a supermodel iam not that kind of guy i want a sweet girl wich is above average kind tipe that is for house and kids not party or somthing like that.
Yes i get 2 to 3 dates a month with diffrent girls so about 20 to 30 girls a year i dont count. First date there is no sex normaly beacuse woman dont want to be easy where i live ok i get 2 girls first date sex but normlay it takes couple of dates.Last serious girl was half a year ago but i couldnt be with this girl beacuse of religious and thwre was war so parents dont allow, but she was ok for me.

Ray i normaly get average girls there is no problem but i want more than that like you said its a long long road it has bean m

 

[Chase]

Johny-

Depends how you're meeting women; if it's mostly socially that can be hit or miss and takes time to find the right girl.

If you want a hot, smart, high caliber girl, I'd strongly advise you start doing day game / street pick up... you'll be amazed how quickly you amass a pile of promising leads this way. Really cute girls you're excited about who are everything you want.

Depends on your location too, of course. Many of the larger cities in the Balkans are wonderful for day game, and there are a lot of quite beautiful girls there. If you're not in a large city, you might want to relocate, at least until you find a girl. Maybe that sounds extreme, but only from a "normal people" perspective... if you're trying to choose someone to partner up with long-term and have children with, I think that's worth uprooting for if the selection in your area isn't so grand.

At this point, best advice to you is to up the quantities of women you're meeting. When you're panning for gold, there are really only two strategies to follow, and the best is to follow both:

• 1. Go somewhere you know has lots of gold
  
  2. Get as large a quantity of dirt through the sifter as possible to locate the gold

If you're not in a good town for meeting girls, the first step is relocating to one that is.

Once you're in a good town for girls (or if you already are), the next step is just to meet more of them.

Also, don't neglect improving your fundamentals so you're more attractive to more women - that'll make it easier to get the ones you like liking you back.

Chase

 

[Bad Johny]

Chase

I agree with you completly. I just meet three hot girls in two days and they where pasing by and i froze up when i should said somthing iam so mad at my self, they where my type too but its that minute when you must do somthing or is good bay.
I live in city with 300.000 people and 2.000.000 country not so big but enough to score.
I meet 90 % girls online beacuse my social world has lower almost all my freind are in serouies relastionship or married and they are not interested so much chasing girls i have a couple of freinds that are single but we dont get along. I work with my dad so there are no young coworkers its kind of family business and no school so i meet online before i go out on weekends and meet girls.

Now i have dates that want to meet me but are not my calibre maybe 6.5 not 8 or 9 as i want. But its no problem for me to get a date but i must satisfe with 6 or 6.5 beacuse iam 32 i chose alot i know that i will mary girl or live with, when i was young i didnt choose soo much.
Chase i will do try to go where is lot of gold like you said maybe i will find hope so.
My comunication its not so good i look ok i think lot of girls look at me i dont like to brag also when i go out with realy hot girl it is only 1 or 2 dates it hapens to me all the time

 

[ray_zorse]

Hey mate you are in the prime of your life, 32 is the perfect age to be grabbing girls in their peak childbearing years, I am 39 and after a disastrous orbiter-type friendship with a 24yo who thought I was too old for her (a few years back, pre GC)... I shed this limiting belief and eventually put it together that actually she just wasn't attracted and constructed a plausible-sounding reason, since she isn't consciously aware of how female attraction works. Just concentrate on being a badass attractive mofo (as GC teaches you to be) and you'll have your pick of women any age. My current gf is 27 and although she says she doesn't want a baby yet, she really does (is very keen for LTR and I have just gone exclusive with her, though my love life is still a bit messy and wants tidying up). I recently fucked some much younger women too. So I recommend you get over this limiting belief, if you DO have an issue it's a fundamentals issue. Hit that gym, focus on your posture, walk, not leaning in to conversations, your conversation fundamental, your fashion, jewellery, boots, cologne... you'll be sexy-ass motherfucker in no time. Also for online, get professional photos taken. I personally do not do online b/c I love cold approach, but after I hit my weight target I may spring for professional shots and try it.
Ray