Find Your Own Path

[Richard]

Hey guys,

Today I got back from visiting our beloved Tool in his hometown to check out the campus in the area and naturally we ended up talking about the boards, and seduction, and our respective stories in learning this material. We've both had students from the boards have direct contact with us for our personal advice (much like I did with guys who were far better than me when I started) and we both get questions about our style of game.

I'm writing this post to point out that both Tool and myself have uniquely similar styles that aren't really teachable - what works for us has not worked for other board members who are learning and practicing now, a few examples:
- My pre-date text "Wear something sexy for me " (with the exception of Anatman who has been trying this out)
- The playful and sexual teasing during interactions
- My walk-away compliance test
- Emotional intuition

I've surmised that some of these things are naturally us - because some things I grew up around (like cracking jokes, catching sexual puns with family, etc) simply show up in my style of game - they aren't thing I ever had to work on to get down pact.

Basically, my natural temperament and personality allows me (and subsequently Tool) to pull off what we pull off. A man who didn't grow up cracking jokes won't be able to pull off the jokes that I do with success because it's not natural to that person and it feels forced. Seduction is not about force - it's about being yourself and accentuating your greatest qualities while working on your weakest ones.

Don't copy the style of someone who you have no commonalities with because it won't work for you.

Take the information that you receive and tweak it to fit you: the real you.

Nothing against any members here because all of you have the potential to be great ladies men - I just feel like some of you are slowing up your progress by doing things that are not natural for you: this game is all about finding your own way to play it.

-Richard

 

[Marty]

Well said, Richard.

I realized this long ago and as you know I never seek to imitate you directly, as I recognize that our personalities, vibe and communication style are subtly different. I do however welcome your advice and guidance, because I am aware of your capacity to see matters from another's perspective.

Similarly, I'd never use Tool's "trouble" line, as it would sit ill with me, but many of his personalized recommendations have helped me in the past (e.g. regarding the sunglasses).

It is commendable that you have taken the initiative to "warn off" others who might be under a simplistic impression that if they do exactly the same as you, they'll get similar results!!

-Marty

 

[Richard]

Indeed Marty -

I was actually going to reference your success to taking our advice and applying it in your own way instead of simply copying me, or Franco, etc.

I do however welcome your advice and guidance, because I am aware of your capacity to see matters from another's perspective.

Very well said buddy

-Richard

 

[Estate]

Excellent advice and something I REALLY wish the world of PUA "gurus" would push more.

I did it myself when I began... I wanted those magic words, the magic opener, the magic text message, the Steps 1-10 of getting the dream girl but it doesn't exist.
I hear it lots when guys ask "Well Guru X says to do this... but Guru Y says to do the opposite... this is so confusing and difficult!" And the answer is, that they are two completely different guys... try both, see with works, tweak it to your personality and GO, it can really be that easy.

Like your text message Richard... really great if you have already set a playful and maybe slightly cheeky vibe with the girl.
On the other hand, especially beginners, may not be leaving her with that same impression due to nerves or inexperience or whatever, and then sending the same message just doesn't get the same reaction from the girl.

Some guys like Mystery have their peacocking and weird tricks because it just suits his whole persona. Guys try to copy it and look weird.
One guy can use text messages to get her engaged because he's funny or entertaining, but another guy may be more cold and calculating, therefore using humor goes against how he seemed in person, he should just use messages to set a date, keep to the facts and do the attraction in person.

What attracted me to GC, was that the style I began reading about here seemed to suit me. It wasn't about loud peacocking and routines, which I never felt was "me".

There's no one method, indeed, I wish more people would realise that.

 

[Franco]

To summarize, this post is basically talking about congruency. Everything you do in seduction when you interact with a woman has to be congruent with who you are because the number one thing a girl looks for to see whether or not she thinks you are the man you say you are (or present yourself as) is incongruency in your actions.

If you don't give her a single sexual compliment during your interaction with her in person and suddenly send her a text that says, "so I love spanking bad girls " then don't be surprised when she doesn't reply because she'll think to herself, "what the hell? This guy seemed cool earlier and now he's being all creepy." Because to girls, that's what creepiness actually is: incongruency.

Find your own style and then think about what types of techniques on this board SUIT that style rather than just cycling through them without giving them any thought. Make sure it applies to your game and the way you can see yourself doing things.

- Franco