Hi guys!
I'm a new member here at girlschase. I have been following this site for about a year and it has changed me a lot for the better. I recently ran into an issue that has me confused on how to best deal with it.
I met this girl during a presentation for a volunteer event. I deep dived her and found out she's an English major and wants to be a lawyer . We joked about how she would be a killer lawyer in a red dress and I could be the judge. I got her number and we decided to meet up at the volunteer event and talk more. We met up and this is when I really deep dived (maybe little too much). I read the article on fractionism and its benefits and decided to use that there so I won't run out of ahit to say as we were there for about 2 and half hours talking. Shewas very receptive overall. During middle of convo we started playing game of confessions and I daid I have never had Crepe before. We made plans to get Crepe next week and then just kept on talking. Before she left aftrr her shift was done, she came by gave me a goodbye hug and said we should get Crepe. Next week I text her on Monday after my class asking her what's ger schedule like for Crepe. She immediately texted back with the time she was available and we made our plans to get it on Thirsday. She texts me back on Wednesday saying she has to prepare for a presentation and asked to reschedule it to next week. I replied back saying its all good and we can figure it out next week. Fast forward to next week we make plans to get Crepe on Friday around 11:30 am. Her schedule was pretty tough that day as she only 40 minutes to meet me before she had to go to work. She works for the assistant to the Dean in our college library and she's taking a fair amount of credit hours. I knew logistics was gonna be a bitch for this one but I saw it as an opportunity to test out my skills. We meet up and she tries to engage me in some small talk but I didn't wanted to talk too much as I knew I had already overdone the deep dive. I just focus on making both of us relax as I felt surprisingly nervous. I dhould have gone outsie in the morning to get some social momentum going as I had a rough week academic-wise. We talk for about 30 mins and then I make some bs excuse that I have never been inside the new dorms where she lives. She invites me over to stop by real quick. I looked at the time and realized we only had 10-15 mins before she has to leave for work. Anyway we go over to her room and I made to thr decision not to escalate as I didn't wanted to half ass it(we had 5 mins left as the walk to her dorms took so much time). She starts walking towards the library and I walk with her as my dorms are in the way anyway. I tell her I had fun and we say bye to each other. That weekend was brutal for me as I went to home football game that Friday which went until 11:30pm. Then on Saturday I had rotc training the whole day until 7:30pm. I was doing scavenger hunt with my clab later that night that went until Sunday morning. I didn't get to text the girl who btw is named Grace, until 9pm on Sunday. I told her I liked our time together on Friday and sent a follow up text asking her we should get lunch or dinner next weekend or after. I followed Chase's advice on trying to get second date. I get no response that night which surprised me as the longest shr took to text me back so far has been about 10 minutes.I remember she told me she was going to be really swamped next week on Friday when we did little chit-chat in the beginning of our date. I didn't think too much about it but now the radio silence had gone for about a week. I know I made a mistake with escalation but I had to make a call. Now my question is how to deal with this properly. If I were to persist ahould I make a phone call or should I text. And if I text, how should I word it so she doesn't feel guilty and it looks as if its nobody's fault. I have looked over girlschase articles and didn't find anythimg on how to deal with radio silence properly. I would love to hear your guys' opinion on this.
I'm a new member here at girlschase. I have been following this site for about a year and it has changed me a lot for the better. I recently ran into an issue that has me confused on how to best deal with it.
I met this girl during a presentation for a volunteer event. I deep dived her and found out she's an English major and wants to be a lawyer . We joked about how she would be a killer lawyer in a red dress and I could be the judge. I got her number and we decided to meet up at the volunteer event and talk more. We met up and this is when I really deep dived (maybe little too much). I read the article on fractionism and its benefits and decided to use that there so I won't run out of ahit to say as we were there for about 2 and half hours talking. Shewas very receptive overall. During middle of convo we started playing game of confessions and I daid I have never had Crepe before. We made plans to get Crepe next week and then just kept on talking. Before she left aftrr her shift was done, she came by gave me a goodbye hug and said we should get Crepe. Next week I text her on Monday after my class asking her what's ger schedule like for Crepe. She immediately texted back with the time she was available and we made our plans to get it on Thirsday. She texts me back on Wednesday saying she has to prepare for a presentation and asked to reschedule it to next week. I replied back saying its all good and we can figure it out next week. Fast forward to next week we make plans to get Crepe on Friday around 11:30 am. Her schedule was pretty tough that day as she only 40 minutes to meet me before she had to go to work. She works for the assistant to the Dean in our college library and she's taking a fair amount of credit hours. I knew logistics was gonna be a bitch for this one but I saw it as an opportunity to test out my skills. We meet up and she tries to engage me in some small talk but I didn't wanted to talk too much as I knew I had already overdone the deep dive. I just focus on making both of us relax as I felt surprisingly nervous. I dhould have gone outsie in the morning to get some social momentum going as I had a rough week academic-wise. We talk for about 30 mins and then I make some bs excuse that I have never been inside the new dorms where she lives. She invites me over to stop by real quick. I looked at the time and realized we only had 10-15 mins before she has to leave for work. Anyway we go over to her room and I made to thr decision not to escalate as I didn't wanted to half ass it(we had 5 mins left as the walk to her dorms took so much time). She starts walking towards the library and I walk with her as my dorms are in the way anyway. I tell her I had fun and we say bye to each other. That weekend was brutal for me as I went to home football game that Friday which went until 11:30pm. Then on Saturday I had rotc training the whole day until 7:30pm. I was doing scavenger hunt with my clab later that night that went until Sunday morning. I didn't get to text the girl who btw is named Grace, until 9pm on Sunday. I told her I liked our time together on Friday and sent a follow up text asking her we should get lunch or dinner next weekend or after. I followed Chase's advice on trying to get second date. I get no response that night which surprised me as the longest shr took to text me back so far has been about 10 minutes.I remember she told me she was going to be really swamped next week on Friday when we did little chit-chat in the beginning of our date. I didn't think too much about it but now the radio silence had gone for about a week. I know I made a mistake with escalation but I had to make a call. Now my question is how to deal with this properly. If I were to persist ahould I make a phone call or should I text. And if I text, how should I word it so she doesn't feel guilty and it looks as if its nobody's fault. I have looked over girlschase articles and didn't find anythimg on how to deal with radio silence properly. I would love to hear your guys' opinion on this.
