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Hey guys, new here, 35 yo male human living in smallish city. Done plenty of night game and a bit of day game in the past. Now "back in field".
Yesterday I broke my shoulder. Actually I messed it up the day before, but yesterday it got so bad I called my boss and said I need a couple of days off.
*
Yesterday
For a week or so I’ve known that I have to start daygame. Daygame has chosen me. So with my newfound free time, I went out. As I was about to leave, it started raining. I waited an hour, now it was past nine. Since it was late, there were few people out.
1. After 20 min or so I approached a girl coming out of a bus. I approached her from behind and did a thing that I believe has been called a Yad stop (not sure). Running up to her, making a semi-circle, ending up in front.
She seemed somewhat flattered, but there was a huge awkwardness. I could not deflate it, so after a few sentences we went separate ways.
2. After a while, a girl appeared before me. Blonde, bubble butt. I walked behind her for a while. Then I went for it. She didn’t stop at all.
When you’re not approaching the world is one way. When you start approaching, and thus know that you can do it, the world is different. This was my goal for the evening’s walk. Got that done.
*
Today
I had to go to the hardware store to buy some varnish. Keeping in mind my ultimate goal (to be a guy who can, when I see a girl I’m interested in, go and approach her), I thought I’d see if there was something I could approach while out on this business, as opposed to going out for daygame specifically. On the other hand, I’m a pretty anxious guy naturally, so I must be careful not to shock my nervous system too much. I’ve caused damage to myself with game before. So I decided, I’ll just go to the hardware store and see how it feels.
I saw a girl waiting for the tram. It was a longish detour to get to her, but I did it. She was genuinely attractive to me: black clothes, tattoos, sunglasses, smoking. So cool. And obviously she was hot too.
1. Normally I’ve stopped moving girls and felt scared of approaching stationary girls. Now walking up to this stationary individual was very natural. I told her she reminded me of my youth, when I too dressed in black and listened to heavy metal. We had a good vibing session. She was constantly looking for her tram though.
Me: “So when’s your tram coming, is it right now or…?”
“There it is”
“Ok, so we should get a beer some time”
“I don’t know what my boyfriend would think about that”
We ended on a good note. I felt very good about this for two reasons:
-I approached a girl while I was out on my business, not on a daygame session. This has been hard for me in the past.
-a hot girl responded positively. After a long enough break, I started to believe maybe everything had changed and this couldn’t happen anymore… tricks your brain plays.
2. Later I tried to stop another girl, she completely ignored me. Very painful. The reason is clear: I ran to her, my voice was hesitant, my face tense and with a begging expression. Pretty upsetting to catch myself like that
But, this will be fixed as I get hardened.
In the evening I went to the grocery store. I thought to myself, maybe I can approach something there. When I got in, I realized everyone is wearing masks. It felt a bit weird. Later, I decided maybe I’ll try anyway at some point. But not too much challenge at once.
3. A very curvy girl was picking out some veggies. I thought she looked at me. Later I saw in the bread area. Finally, I ran into her again by the frozen berries section.
At the cashier, it was her turn and no one behind her. I got in line and thought, if we exit at the same time, I’ll talk to her. Turned out she had a ton of groceries and I had only a few items, mostly beer, so we ended up bagging our stuff simultaneously.
Me: “Your stuff is a lot healthier than mine”
She looked up and picked a headphone from her ear. There was a plastic screen between us, grocery store noises, and I was wearing a mask.
“I said: your stuff is a lot healthier than mine” She laughed. “I have only beer and sugary stuff”
Her: “I’ve been drinking beer for the last two weeks!”
We had a very brief chat. I noticed that her eyes were also unusually beautiful, not just the bottom half of her (which was wrapped in a tight skirt).
Finally she said, have a nice day. The situation was awkward and inconvenient. Future me will answer such things with, “would you like to go and sit by the water with me for a moment?” To which she would have replied, “oh, I have these frozen berries that I need to get home”, to which I would then have said, as leisurely as the situation permitted, “oh yeah… you can’t let those thaw… will you come and chat with me for one minute outside? I promise I’ll let you go after one minute.”
I got a mega load of gratification from this. A remarkably hot girl responded very positively, in an awkward environment. This was a situation I can easily play better in the future.
4. Walking home from the store, I noticed a girl in a yellow top and sunglasses. Her projected path crossed mine, but those paths met in the middle of an open area surrounded by ppl sitting on a ledge in a circle, looking into the area. A bit high pressure for my yet raw and soft daygame spirit. So I just walked on and heard her walking behind me.
I have tried turning around and talking to girls walking behind me. It has always been horrible. But things are different now. This is not a subject attempting to daygame-pickup an object. This is me, doing whatever I please. The world can do what it wants. I have seen enough. I’m a well-meaning person.
So I just turned around, looked at her and said hi. You know that response, when a girls reaction kind of matches, in warmth, the effort you just put in? That happened. Such a beautiful, welcoming smile.
We went and sat on the pier for an hour or so, drinking the beer I just bought. We clicked pretty well. I happened to live a hundred meters away, so I invited her to my place. She wanted to, but no. I sensed it was probably not going to happen, she had also promised to visit a friend who lived nearby.
Later I gently tried again. She asked me if I’m a gentleman. My response was more or less, “well I can’t promise that… actually… I can be bold and insolent, but I’m absolutely a gentleman, always.” It was an honest flow or words. I could feel it affect her. Anyway, it was a no.
We had a great little date. I don’t know if I’ll see her. She was definitely into me, but a cautious type, and with other plans. And she’s here on vacation, with a lot of plans for the coming days.
I have noticed something (not just now, but in previous years). If I feel certain kind of genuine attraction, then the approach tends to go well. If I don’t, it very rarely goes well. However, what if I go out and see 1-3 girls that spark this feeling, and 4-5 girls who are “hot” but I sense that we are from different planets?
Option 1, just approach the genuinely interesting ones. This may mean long walks with very few approaches. Slower learning, not staying in the flow. Option 2, kill… I mean approach’em all. This just doesn’t go so well and it tends to make me in a worse mood. I guess I should expand my game. This is something I hope I’ll figure out in the coming months.
Yesterday I broke my shoulder. Actually I messed it up the day before, but yesterday it got so bad I called my boss and said I need a couple of days off.
*
Yesterday
For a week or so I’ve known that I have to start daygame. Daygame has chosen me. So with my newfound free time, I went out. As I was about to leave, it started raining. I waited an hour, now it was past nine. Since it was late, there were few people out.
1. After 20 min or so I approached a girl coming out of a bus. I approached her from behind and did a thing that I believe has been called a Yad stop (not sure). Running up to her, making a semi-circle, ending up in front.
She seemed somewhat flattered, but there was a huge awkwardness. I could not deflate it, so after a few sentences we went separate ways.
2. After a while, a girl appeared before me. Blonde, bubble butt. I walked behind her for a while. Then I went for it. She didn’t stop at all.
When you’re not approaching the world is one way. When you start approaching, and thus know that you can do it, the world is different. This was my goal for the evening’s walk. Got that done.
*
Today
I had to go to the hardware store to buy some varnish. Keeping in mind my ultimate goal (to be a guy who can, when I see a girl I’m interested in, go and approach her), I thought I’d see if there was something I could approach while out on this business, as opposed to going out for daygame specifically. On the other hand, I’m a pretty anxious guy naturally, so I must be careful not to shock my nervous system too much. I’ve caused damage to myself with game before. So I decided, I’ll just go to the hardware store and see how it feels.
I saw a girl waiting for the tram. It was a longish detour to get to her, but I did it. She was genuinely attractive to me: black clothes, tattoos, sunglasses, smoking. So cool. And obviously she was hot too.
1. Normally I’ve stopped moving girls and felt scared of approaching stationary girls. Now walking up to this stationary individual was very natural. I told her she reminded me of my youth, when I too dressed in black and listened to heavy metal. We had a good vibing session. She was constantly looking for her tram though.
Me: “So when’s your tram coming, is it right now or…?”
“There it is”
“Ok, so we should get a beer some time”
“I don’t know what my boyfriend would think about that”
We ended on a good note. I felt very good about this for two reasons:
-I approached a girl while I was out on my business, not on a daygame session. This has been hard for me in the past.
-a hot girl responded positively. After a long enough break, I started to believe maybe everything had changed and this couldn’t happen anymore… tricks your brain plays.
2. Later I tried to stop another girl, she completely ignored me. Very painful. The reason is clear: I ran to her, my voice was hesitant, my face tense and with a begging expression. Pretty upsetting to catch myself like that
But, this will be fixed as I get hardened.In the evening I went to the grocery store. I thought to myself, maybe I can approach something there. When I got in, I realized everyone is wearing masks. It felt a bit weird. Later, I decided maybe I’ll try anyway at some point. But not too much challenge at once.
3. A very curvy girl was picking out some veggies. I thought she looked at me. Later I saw in the bread area. Finally, I ran into her again by the frozen berries section.
At the cashier, it was her turn and no one behind her. I got in line and thought, if we exit at the same time, I’ll talk to her. Turned out she had a ton of groceries and I had only a few items, mostly beer, so we ended up bagging our stuff simultaneously.
Me: “Your stuff is a lot healthier than mine”
She looked up and picked a headphone from her ear. There was a plastic screen between us, grocery store noises, and I was wearing a mask.
“I said: your stuff is a lot healthier than mine” She laughed. “I have only beer and sugary stuff”
Her: “I’ve been drinking beer for the last two weeks!”
We had a very brief chat. I noticed that her eyes were also unusually beautiful, not just the bottom half of her (which was wrapped in a tight skirt).
Finally she said, have a nice day. The situation was awkward and inconvenient. Future me will answer such things with, “would you like to go and sit by the water with me for a moment?” To which she would have replied, “oh, I have these frozen berries that I need to get home”, to which I would then have said, as leisurely as the situation permitted, “oh yeah… you can’t let those thaw… will you come and chat with me for one minute outside? I promise I’ll let you go after one minute.”
I got a mega load of gratification from this. A remarkably hot girl responded very positively, in an awkward environment. This was a situation I can easily play better in the future.
4. Walking home from the store, I noticed a girl in a yellow top and sunglasses. Her projected path crossed mine, but those paths met in the middle of an open area surrounded by ppl sitting on a ledge in a circle, looking into the area. A bit high pressure for my yet raw and soft daygame spirit. So I just walked on and heard her walking behind me.
I have tried turning around and talking to girls walking behind me. It has always been horrible. But things are different now. This is not a subject attempting to daygame-pickup an object. This is me, doing whatever I please. The world can do what it wants. I have seen enough. I’m a well-meaning person.
So I just turned around, looked at her and said hi. You know that response, when a girls reaction kind of matches, in warmth, the effort you just put in? That happened. Such a beautiful, welcoming smile.
We went and sat on the pier for an hour or so, drinking the beer I just bought. We clicked pretty well. I happened to live a hundred meters away, so I invited her to my place. She wanted to, but no. I sensed it was probably not going to happen, she had also promised to visit a friend who lived nearby.
Later I gently tried again. She asked me if I’m a gentleman. My response was more or less, “well I can’t promise that… actually… I can be bold and insolent, but I’m absolutely a gentleman, always.” It was an honest flow or words. I could feel it affect her. Anyway, it was a no.
We had a great little date. I don’t know if I’ll see her. She was definitely into me, but a cautious type, and with other plans. And she’s here on vacation, with a lot of plans for the coming days.
I have noticed something (not just now, but in previous years). If I feel certain kind of genuine attraction, then the approach tends to go well. If I don’t, it very rarely goes well. However, what if I go out and see 1-3 girls that spark this feeling, and 4-5 girls who are “hot” but I sense that we are from different planets?
Option 1, just approach the genuinely interesting ones. This may mean long walks with very few approaches. Slower learning, not staying in the flow. Option 2, kill… I mean approach’em all. This just doesn’t go so well and it tends to make me in a worse mood. I guess I should expand my game. This is something I hope I’ll figure out in the coming months.
