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Hey guys, I've been inactive for awhile being busy, so I wanted to post only when something significant would happen to me or if I had questions that I can't answer myself. I think its way better than posting about every fail that I've had happen.
To start things off, I would like to say that this isn't a same day date. It more over the span of a few weeks. The school that I'm currently at has everyone so stressed that we don't have much time for ourselves. Don't ask about it. Its just the way that the course it set up.
So I met this girl when she first arrived here and my opener was asking her if anyone has ever told her she looks like Arya Starke from Game of Thrones. And everything goes from there. I don't remember much of our first interaction but it was enough to make a lasting impression on her.
(btw, she looks nothing like Arya, she just has a similar hairstyle)
Our second interaction was her telling me she looked up Arya Starke and she thought she looks nothing like her. "she's ugly!" she said. I clarified what I meant and from then on we've been seeing each other around school talking every once in a while and catching up. Not really friends, not really anything. Just strangers who keep talking to each other.
She mentioned to me how I only talk to her for short periods of time then take off...so then I decided to acknowledge my occasional social awkwardness and use it to my advantage.
The next time I saw her, I approached her and her friends talking (which I usually avoid to avoid interrupting) and said: Hey (her name) and friends!
her: oh! you're finally talking to me?!
me: yea, I decided not to be socially awkward today.
we have more drawn out conversations and small talk for the next times I see her up until I finally get her number. (I would've earlier but trust me, If I can explain why, I would.) I ask her if she likes hookah and invite her to go on a date with me. She agrees and tells me when she's free.
this is the date that I just got back from, nice and fresh from my mind.
I meet her outside our dorms and she's surrounded by her classmates. She immediately shoots up off the bench she's sitting on and says let's get the fuck outta her. She's obviously upset.
I find out that apparently her class is spreading rumors about her fucking 9 guys and she's upset that she's seen as a whore.
(this couldn't be any easier!)
we got in a taxi, blah blah, she paid even though I was about to. We talked on the taxi ride there.
set a nice tone, getting better at finding sexual humor in things girls say, so I set a sexual frame pretty early.
We get to the restaurant/hookah lounge and we sit outside in this nice chill spot. The booth that I wanted to sit at was taken. It would've been perfect for physical escalation, but I still managed.
This girl told me earlier that she's not comfortable with people touching her and from learning my lesson dealing with girls telling me this and taking it at face value, guess what I did?
I ignored that bullshit and touched her whenever the hell I felt like it. Bitch, fuck your feelings. lol
She didn't do anything about it.
touches: lead her by small of back
pulled her by her waist
rubbed her leg on high points in conversation
pulled the hair on the back of her head.
had my hand on her ass when we were sitting down one time.
While we ate and smoked I deep dived/showed her my views on slut shaming and what-not and we had sexual topics rise every once in awhile. Apparently this girl is "the best blow-job giver" on this planet.
And she told me her preferences like she loves to ride. Not gonna lie, the way she talked about this stuff turned me on and I wanted to fuck her right then.
after that, I lead the way for us to take a walk downtown where all these bars, restaurants and clubs are aligned against a river. She had never seen the scenery/ beauty of this city and I didn't want to end our date just yet.
We sat down at one point and talked about a lot of things. Got really deep..
I remember I accidentally set a FWD frame at some point to disqualify myself as a boyfriend.
She was calling me friend but talking about sexual things with me...so I guess I did things right?
remember able part:
We were talking about how she doesn't get along with girls in her class and I told her she should do what the guys in my class do when we hate each other.
I told her that all the guys have this inside joke where we pretend we're gay for each other and do stupid shit like hitting on each other. The girls should just do the same thing instead of taking everything so literally.
Then she tells me there's this one girl in her class who she "fake flirts" with and they hit on each other all the time. I asked her to show me what they do. She got in close to me and pushed me into a wall all seductive like, looked me in the eyes like she wanted to kiss me and said something. I didn't hear because I immediately grabbed her waist and said: ooh! and she laughed mid-sentence. She couldn't finish doing it with a straight face so she walked away.
I said many bold sexual things during this date that made her blush and she told me I'm going to "get her in trouble"
And then finally when we were taking a taxi back to school, I pulled her in aggressively like I was going to manhandle kiss her, though that wasn't my intention. (I only want to kiss if we're in a private place where I can escalate) She immediately said: nooo (nooo, I can't, don't do this, not ready)
and I smoothly wrapped her arms around me and made her hug me instead.
she apologized and brought up how she's not a hugger and she really doesn't like being touched. Which I ignored but told her I was just showing her affection now because I knew it would be a bad idea to do it around people at school who talk and spread rumors. Then I promised her that I am a person who keeps my mouth shut and wouldn't tell anyone about our date. (except for GC, hahaha)
then we parted ways and here I am now, typing this.
okay, so I'm aware that I left a lot of things out which is a big part of whether or not people will comment or not. I intentionally left out things I messed up on because I KNOW what I messed up on. I'm here to get certain questions answered to observations I've made. Particularly answers from the more experienced but anyone is welcome because "every man is my senior in some way". If you have insight for me, please do tell.
My question: every time me and her talked about anything sexual, I changed the subject after she would blush or if I sensed she was possibly uncomfortable. This is a habit that I've noticed that I do. Should I just keep lead the sexual conversation until I'm getting her wet or should I wait until we're alone? I'm finding out that I'm getting pretty good at innuendos and turning girls on and I can full on get her aroused with my words if I wanted to. I just felt like the restaurant was not the place. But then I also felt like those times WERE my escalation windows and It would be stupid to keep changing the subject to more platonic conversations.
Like the title says, this was my first "date" with a girl that I cold approached because all the other girls were girls I had previously been friends with for long periods of time. I took this as a learning experience and I'm not too upset that I didn't get a lay at the end. I was very awkward at points, but she seemed fine with it and told me it was okay.
If anyone wants to anything in more detail, feel free to message me with any questions or concerns.
I hope my experience helps someone in some way and I hope someone can help me. I'm very close.
Peace.
Wes
To start things off, I would like to say that this isn't a same day date. It more over the span of a few weeks. The school that I'm currently at has everyone so stressed that we don't have much time for ourselves. Don't ask about it. Its just the way that the course it set up.
So I met this girl when she first arrived here and my opener was asking her if anyone has ever told her she looks like Arya Starke from Game of Thrones. And everything goes from there. I don't remember much of our first interaction but it was enough to make a lasting impression on her.
(btw, she looks nothing like Arya, she just has a similar hairstyle)
Our second interaction was her telling me she looked up Arya Starke and she thought she looks nothing like her. "she's ugly!" she said. I clarified what I meant and from then on we've been seeing each other around school talking every once in a while and catching up. Not really friends, not really anything. Just strangers who keep talking to each other.
She mentioned to me how I only talk to her for short periods of time then take off...so then I decided to acknowledge my occasional social awkwardness and use it to my advantage.
The next time I saw her, I approached her and her friends talking (which I usually avoid to avoid interrupting) and said: Hey (her name) and friends!
her: oh! you're finally talking to me?!
me: yea, I decided not to be socially awkward today.
we have more drawn out conversations and small talk for the next times I see her up until I finally get her number. (I would've earlier but trust me, If I can explain why, I would.) I ask her if she likes hookah and invite her to go on a date with me. She agrees and tells me when she's free.
this is the date that I just got back from, nice and fresh from my mind.
I meet her outside our dorms and she's surrounded by her classmates. She immediately shoots up off the bench she's sitting on and says let's get the fuck outta her. She's obviously upset.
I find out that apparently her class is spreading rumors about her fucking 9 guys and she's upset that she's seen as a whore.
(this couldn't be any easier!)
we got in a taxi, blah blah, she paid even though I was about to. We talked on the taxi ride there.
set a nice tone, getting better at finding sexual humor in things girls say, so I set a sexual frame pretty early.
We get to the restaurant/hookah lounge and we sit outside in this nice chill spot. The booth that I wanted to sit at was taken. It would've been perfect for physical escalation, but I still managed.
This girl told me earlier that she's not comfortable with people touching her and from learning my lesson dealing with girls telling me this and taking it at face value, guess what I did?
I ignored that bullshit and touched her whenever the hell I felt like it. Bitch, fuck your feelings. lol
She didn't do anything about it.
touches: lead her by small of back
pulled her by her waist
rubbed her leg on high points in conversation
pulled the hair on the back of her head.
had my hand on her ass when we were sitting down one time.
While we ate and smoked I deep dived/showed her my views on slut shaming and what-not and we had sexual topics rise every once in awhile. Apparently this girl is "the best blow-job giver" on this planet.
And she told me her preferences like she loves to ride. Not gonna lie, the way she talked about this stuff turned me on and I wanted to fuck her right then.
after that, I lead the way for us to take a walk downtown where all these bars, restaurants and clubs are aligned against a river. She had never seen the scenery/ beauty of this city and I didn't want to end our date just yet.
We sat down at one point and talked about a lot of things. Got really deep..
I remember I accidentally set a FWD frame at some point to disqualify myself as a boyfriend.
She was calling me friend but talking about sexual things with me...so I guess I did things right?
remember able part:
We were talking about how she doesn't get along with girls in her class and I told her she should do what the guys in my class do when we hate each other.
I told her that all the guys have this inside joke where we pretend we're gay for each other and do stupid shit like hitting on each other. The girls should just do the same thing instead of taking everything so literally.
Then she tells me there's this one girl in her class who she "fake flirts" with and they hit on each other all the time. I asked her to show me what they do. She got in close to me and pushed me into a wall all seductive like, looked me in the eyes like she wanted to kiss me and said something. I didn't hear because I immediately grabbed her waist and said: ooh! and she laughed mid-sentence. She couldn't finish doing it with a straight face so she walked away.
I said many bold sexual things during this date that made her blush and she told me I'm going to "get her in trouble"
And then finally when we were taking a taxi back to school, I pulled her in aggressively like I was going to manhandle kiss her, though that wasn't my intention. (I only want to kiss if we're in a private place where I can escalate) She immediately said: nooo (nooo, I can't, don't do this, not ready)
and I smoothly wrapped her arms around me and made her hug me instead.
she apologized and brought up how she's not a hugger and she really doesn't like being touched. Which I ignored but told her I was just showing her affection now because I knew it would be a bad idea to do it around people at school who talk and spread rumors. Then I promised her that I am a person who keeps my mouth shut and wouldn't tell anyone about our date. (except for GC, hahaha)
then we parted ways and here I am now, typing this.
okay, so I'm aware that I left a lot of things out which is a big part of whether or not people will comment or not. I intentionally left out things I messed up on because I KNOW what I messed up on. I'm here to get certain questions answered to observations I've made. Particularly answers from the more experienced but anyone is welcome because "every man is my senior in some way". If you have insight for me, please do tell.
My question: every time me and her talked about anything sexual, I changed the subject after she would blush or if I sensed she was possibly uncomfortable. This is a habit that I've noticed that I do. Should I just keep lead the sexual conversation until I'm getting her wet or should I wait until we're alone? I'm finding out that I'm getting pretty good at innuendos and turning girls on and I can full on get her aroused with my words if I wanted to. I just felt like the restaurant was not the place. But then I also felt like those times WERE my escalation windows and It would be stupid to keep changing the subject to more platonic conversations.
Like the title says, this was my first "date" with a girl that I cold approached because all the other girls were girls I had previously been friends with for long periods of time. I took this as a learning experience and I'm not too upset that I didn't get a lay at the end. I was very awkward at points, but she seemed fine with it and told me it was okay.
If anyone wants to anything in more detail, feel free to message me with any questions or concerns.
I hope my experience helps someone in some way and I hope someone can help me. I'm very close.
Peace.
Wes
