LR First night out in london

[Slippin' Jimmy]

So i'm in London for a couple of weeks (originally from sydney) and I signed up for a pub crawl organised by the hostel at which i'm staying. I meet the group at a pub at 8 pm and introduce myself to a few people. Theres about 30 people in total in the group, guys slightly outnumbering the girls, but there are a few cute ones.

One girl catches my eye at the bar; she and her friend are ordering shots. I say something along the lines of "wow, big night planned huh?" in a smirking/playful way. She tells me she's from San Francisco but her parents are Egyptian, strict christians, and tonight will be her last night out before she heads home to the U.S in a couple of days. I deep dive her about what shes studying at college, how long shes travelling for etc. It seems very effortless, as she is doing most of the talking, like she was really wanting to tell me all about herself since we met. This suits me as I'm not a big talker.

After this we hop to the next bar. Theres some playful banter between us on the way. Once we arrive she buys me a drink, I put my hand on her lower back and guide her to a spot where we can sit down, but then we bump into one of the friends she's travelling with. The friend is kinda loud and annoying and I didn't have the patience to put up with her talking for long, so i tell my girl that i'm going to chat to some of the other guys and i'll meet up with her later. Maybe not the most productive step but I wasn't overly invested in bedding this girl. And didn't want to listen to the friend go on and on, as i'm not a patient man, lol.

I catch up with some other people at a nearby table and start bantering with a couple of locals. On the table there is a pretty swiss girl. I start talking to her, deep diving and stuff but it is kinda hard to communicate with her due to the language barriers. Some european dude tries to interrupt (I think he may have been wanting to have a shot with the swiss girl) by asking us if we wanna play pool, but his attempts to engage us are dismissed with relative ease.

Eventually the 'merican girl comes back and sees me deep in conversation with my new swiss friend. She didn't try to talk to me, maybe was about to go into auto rejection? Or perhaps this worked in my favour later on, as pre-selection. She leaves eventually to another part of the bar with her friends. Eventually I tell the swiss girl I am going to get another drink and see some people but i'll come back and talk to her later (never happened though). The swiss girl might've been a bit prettier than San Francisco (unfortuatnely I do not know either of their names) but I felt San Fran was more of a sure thing, so made my way over to her where she is dancing with her friends.

We dance a bit, then I tell her to come outside with me because its hot and stuffy in the bar. We make out for a bit (not sure if this was a good move - might've been better to just pull?) and I was gonna come up with a reason for us needing to go back to the hostel, but I couldn't think of any thing so I just took her hand and guided her out of the place into a cab - this was probably better than coming up with some lame reason. She seemed kind of shy and awkward in the cab, i get the feeling she might not be used to One night stands as she mentioned still living with her parents back in the USA. We make small talk about what london is like as a city etc. which lightens the mood.

We get back to my room, which is a private room (hers is a mixed dorm). Physical escalation happens very slow - i have to take all her clothes off and mine. Eventually we are both naked and about to bang but I can't get hard - too drunk -_- So after a while of me trying to get hard I tell her I need to go to the bathroom. I put on my pants and grab some coke in from my drawer (I do it in a way so that she doesn't notice). I don't advocate drug use and am trying to be completely free of this shit but i am only an occasional user. I do a small line because I think it will sober me up somewhat and allow me to get hard. I get back to the bedroom and turns out I was right! I'm trying to drink less on nights out for various reasons, not being able to get it up being one of them. We have sex for about 20 minutes and afterwards she mentions she's "never done this before". I kiss her goodbye before she leaves in the morning. Cool girl - really wish I caught her name!

 

[Howell]

Nice one Jimmy,

Sounds like you were in a more or less flow state through this. I notice that guys' field reports/lay reports change when they start getting more outcome independent, as they stop over-scrutinizing their process. This is good for them, but it makes it harder to find any specific areas for them to improve in, even if they do exist, because these guys are at a point where improvement is becoming truly "self" improvement, and most of what others can say won't have as big of an impact, and this reflects in their writing style.

The challenge for you now is to deconstruct your process and fundamentals more technically and start focusing in on optimization. You've probably got a lot of the bigger issues/fires out of the way that simply had to be dealt with, so now it's about dealing with those secondary ones and raising yourself up to the next stage, which is typically all about shoring up the things that are slightly to moderately detracting from your sexual prowess -- like unchecked self-doubts, unfocused style, lack of networking skills/social networks, figuring out relationship game, etc.

Howell

 

[Slippin' Jimmy]

Nice one Jimmy,

Sounds like you were in a more or less flow state through this. I notice that guys' field reports/lay reports change when they start getting more outcome independent, as they stop over-scrutinizing their process. This is good for them, but it makes it harder to find any specific areas for them to improve in, even if they do exist, because these guys are at a point where improvement is becoming truly "self" improvement, and most of what others can say won't have as big of an impact, and this reflects in their writing style.

The challenge for you now is to deconstruct your process and fundamentals more technically and start focusing in on optimization. You've probably got a lot of the bigger issues/fires out of the way that simply had to be dealt with, so now it's about dealing with those secondary ones and raising yourself up to the next stage, which is typically all about shoring up the things that are slightly to moderately detracting from your sexual prowess -- like unchecked self-doubts, unfocused style, lack of networking skills/social networks, figuring out relationship game, etc.

Howell

Cheers Howell. Yes I agree that there is room for improvement in my game. My fundamentals are kinda hit and miss. Sometimes they are on song, but sometimes i get self conscious and start over-focusing on every little thing instead of staying in the momemnt with my interaction with a girl.