FR First of the month

[Dark_Stallion]

First full day back at my campus, so I decided to do some daygame, not really go out with the intention of meeting women, but more so just be out doing my thing and approaching cute women I see, and there was a lot today.

Approach 1:

Went to get coffee in the morning, and there were two girls right behind me waiting to get coffee, after the girls finished getting coffee I asked them what the best item on the menu is. One of the girls(the one I preferred) said she doesn't drink much coffee, but drinks matcha, which I teased her on, didn't really land though. Did some basic conversation getting to know you, but there wasn't really a vibe, so I just said "nice to meet you" maybe if I see them I can spark convo, but tbh I don't really remember them.

Approach 2:

Saw a girl walking with a dog, almost walked past but called her dog cute to open, she said thanks, we had some light banter, followed by us talking about a bunch of topics, including us being dressed in tank tops and shorts, we both agreed that we have to look good while we can. Eventually broke it off by asking for the insta, not a crazy connection, where it changed though was when we found out we have several mutuals that we're both good friends with, we both instantly gained trust and comfort with one another. I told her I had stories to tell, and she seemed super intrigued, even inviting me to walk with her. I didn't have the time to go with her, but then asked for her number with this trust, and told her we had to meet, sometime during the day tomorrow or at night at the bar, which she agreed to. She responded to my icebreaker text, but not my scheduler text, but I might text her again tomorrow, only because the vibe was so high. She said today she was busy unpacking to move in.

Approach 3:

Talked to three girls in the gym, since I had to wait over 10 minutes for a machine, had nothing to do, one of the three girls was very receptive. Later, I asked her for a spot, which she complied with. I gave out my name and asked for hers, a bit of basic info, but I didn't go for any contact ask just because the vibe wasn't really there, and this was more social circle in the gym.

Approach 4:

Did another street approach with 2 girls this time, one was dressed up, the other not, I asked for some directions, and explained why I was asking for directions, bringing up my study abroad experience, that topic hit since they wanted to study abroad as well. Talked more about that, as well as got to know them more. Eventually I decided to go for both of their instas, since it wasn't the biggest vibe, but one of the girls was really attractive. They both gave it to me but never followed me back, just unfollowed them right back as well after a good 6-7 hours.

Tbh I don't know how to smoothly go for the ask with 2 girls in a daygame situation, I just asked for their insta's, saying we can be friends. They bantered back, saying we can start a book club, I said only if you choose the name.

Approach 5: Was sitting in my apartment lobby when 2 girls walked past, with food. I opened by saying "What food is that?" then trying hard to remember where it was, citing my study abroad experience as a reason. The topic landed again, and started a conversation off of that. Went for the instas again, saying the "we can be friends" line casually, one girl responded "oh I have a bf," I said "not like that right now, I don't even know you, you guys could be serial killers." They refuted that which I said "that's what they all say." They gave me their insta's, but unfollowed me right after for some reason.

Also asked questions hoping to strike up a casual convo with 3 girls sitting outside, they weren't receptive, oh well basically not even an approach.

Tbh today's session wasn't the greatest, good for getting nerves out of the way and continuing to be social, although I don't really know how to daygame close with groups of two or more chicks. Only approach 2 was the single girl, which went very well.

Also, I think I'm having an issue of building trust, so if anyone can recommend GC article's related to that, please send it. Approach 2 only generated massive trust after finding out we have mutuals from different parts of the world, and I went to meet some neighbors(girls) was able to insta close them and possibly plan something in the future, but I think the fact that we're neighbors builds that immediate trust and comfort.

Although I am happy to do daygame again and build one solid lead, and improve off of this. With groups of 2 girls or more, I don't see the point in going direct tbh.

 

[Ratata]

This is you:

You ask them about coffee vs matcha, and then tell her she's such a hipster for doing matcha. Or you ask logical questions about what food she eats, and joke about it. Then you both laugh, and the convo dies, and you go each others way. Because you had no intent, no soul, no sexual tension. Probably because you jerk off too much. Stop that! Jesus sees you!

This is me:

I might do the exact same boring opener tbh. Ha, betcha didn't think that! But I immediately get into close proximity, and shake her hand, and test if she actually likes me sexually with a lingering hand shake. If she keeps holding onto mye hand after the initial shake, after I loosen the grip but I still don't let fully go, then it's on. I've had women cuddle my hand, upon which you can just take her around the corner and make out with her right then and there. OTOH, if she pulls the hand to her fast, or seems closed, I'll just thank her for the convo quick and let her go. But always try for compliance if the convo hooks.

See the difference here? You are the textbook polite, harmless, campus ha-ha guy, releasing tension with your jokes. I'm the exciting, dangerous edge-walking sexual-tension machine. I never crack a joke when she gazes into my eyes. I cut distance. And move closer. And triangulate the gaze. Until we kiss. Or maybe we don't kiss, cuz some friend came along - whereupon I'll give her my insta or something. But yes, also I do a vibe check first. Most girls are cold, and then I just go have a nice day and keep walking.

But if your girl has this spark, then keep stacking. Tell her you like her style, and ask about things she's wearing. Then do some future projections or light qualifications. Tease her with "omg I could never date a girl who wears XYZ colour." This projects that you're already flirting and you're discussing a date. Then if she keeps talking, tell her that you're hungry or thirsty, and say that you know this place right around the corner. Get her compliance. If she's in on that, she'll be in on other things too.

And be the artiste. Be the superstar. Who are you? You are the lover. What do you do? You please women. This is right out of the film Don Juan De Marco. Go watch it, and then mimick that guy all the way. It works!

Quick story to prove the point (inspiration time): I stopped this cute girl next to a park. We walked together for a bit. She asked me "What do you do?" I was about to tell her the boring truth, but then I remembered that movie and told her... "I am an.... artiste!" I could see the wow glisten in her eyes. So I just leaned a bit closer and asked with a lower pitch "And you?" She started babbling hystericaly, but then looked at me again and smile. So the second her friends looked away, we started making out. THen she got really hysterical, and wanted me to come with her in the car - but... I couldn't. So we exchanged numbers. For whatever reason I never met her again, but I think the story still proves the power of being... the artiste, the lover... Don Juan!

Hope this helps!

 

[Dark_Stallion]

This is you:

You ask them about coffee vs matcha, and then tell her she's such a hipster for doing matcha. Or you ask logical questions about what food she eats, and joke about it. Then you both laugh, and the convo dies, and you go each others way. Because you had no intent, no soul, no sexual tension. Probably because you jerk off too much. Stop that! Jesus sees you!

Umm I don’t jerk off that much, 1-2 times a week I could do more but I’m trying to keep motivation high to get laid

This is me:

I might do the exact same boring opener tbh. Ha, betcha didn't think that! But I immediately get into close proximity, and shake her hand, and test if she actually likes me sexually with a lingering hand shake. If she keeps holding onto mye hand after the initial shake, after I loosen the grip but I still don't let fully go, then it's on. I've had women cuddle my hand, upon which you can just take her around the corner and make out with her right then and there. OTOH, if she pulls the hand to her fast, or seems closed, I'll just thank her for the convo quick and let her go. But always try for compliance if the convo hooks.

I could try this, have women done this when their friend is right next to them though? Most of my flat convos involved groups of girls, rather than a single girl, trying to be more social vs seductive

See the difference here? You are the textbook polite, harmless, campus ha-ha guy, releasing tension with your jokes. I'm the exciting, dangerous edge-walking sexual-tension machine. I never crack a joke when she gazes into my eyes. I cut distance. And move closer. And triangulate the gaze. Until we kiss. Or maybe we don't kiss, cuz some friend came along - whereupon I'll give her my insta or something. But yes, also I do a vibe check first. Most girls are cold, and then I just go have a nice day and keep walking.

Yeah, in the past I may have pushed it, but now I check for vibes more than anything, if vibes aren’t there I don’t even bother

But if your girl has this spark, then keep stacking. Tell her you like her style, and ask about things she's wearing. Then do some future projections or light qualifications. Tease her with "omg I could never date a girl who wears XYZ colour." This projects that you're already flirting and you're discussing a date. Then if she keeps talking, tell her that you're hungry or thirsty, and say that you know this place right around the corner. Get her compliance. If she's in on that, she'll be in on other things too.

The only girl I approached that was solo today, the convo went more or less like that

And be the artiste. Be the superstar. Who are you? You are the lover. What do you do? You please women. This is right out of the film Don Juan De Marco. Go watch it, and then mimick that guy all the way. It works!

Quick story to prove the point (inspiration time): I stopped this cute girl next to a park. We walked together for a bit. She asked me "What do you do?" I was about to tell her the boring truth, but then I remembered that movie and told her... "I am an.... artiste!" I could see the wow glisten in her eyes. So I just leaned a bit closer and asked with a lower pitch "And you?" She started babbling hystericaly, but then looked at me again and smile. So the second her friends looked away, we started making out. THen she got really hysterical, and wanted me to come with her in the car - but... I couldn't. So we exchanged numbers. For whatever reason I never met her again, but I think the story still proves the power of being... the artiste, the lover... Don Juan!

Hope this helps!

Yes for sure, my biggest problem is approaching girls in groups of 2 or more, just to see it’s possible is great, rather than being the social guy, I can try to become more of the seductive guy, and hone in on a girl, by being playful and flirtatious. Probably going to crack jokes still, that’s who I am but in a more seductive way, already got ideas to go after a target girl in a group of friends.

Thanks Ratata!