seemed to be absorbed into what they were doing like on the phone, with a group of friends, and headphones in their ears which made it harder to approach women
You absolutely MUST reframe this. This is a belief which held me back for a long time too. Basically, you're being too much of a nice guy and coming from a place of insecurity. You're thinking "Oh I don't want to interrupt them because what they're doing is more important and it would be rude of me to interfere with that" You're also conforming to society's norms...not something dominant men do.
This is committing three fallacies:
1. You should actually give a shit that you're interrupting. (Nice guy mentality)
2. They would all prefer to be doing what they're currently doing over talking to you. (Insecurity)
3. And perhaps also fear of rejection. Not gonna talk about fear of rejection here cause there is a LOT of material which covers that....but lets look at the other two.
Instead, look at it like this:
1.
Even if you are a burden to these women, you will eventually give back to more womankind as a whole. Yes, you're gonna be the creepy guy who
some women don't like for a while. Its gonna feel shitty, and its also going to feel wrong. BUT, once you get better, you're going to give women nights and relationships they'll never forget. If you're truly committed to this, in the end, the net result should be positive (i.e. you'll have given more to women than you've taken).
2. Don't give a shit if you're being an asshole. Yeah, you're interrupting what they're doing. Yeah, they don't really like it. Oh well, sucks for them. They've wronged people before, and life's not always peaches and roses anyways. This is related to my first point. You must take before you can give. Its just the nature of the world.
I know this intuitively makes me seem like kind of an asshole and that its "not cool" to behave this way. But realistically, you have two options. Try it out and see how it suits you, or stay the same and never get better with women. I recommend reading Hector's genuine man series to gain a better understanding of this.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/genui ... rogant-man
3. A lot of these women will be GLAD you approached them. I'm just starting out in Day Game, and I can already tell a lot of women are flattered. Unfortunetely, there's no magic bullet I can give you where you'll all of us sudden buy into this idea on both a logical and
emotional level. I recommend watching pickup footage though. At the very least, it helps your brain physically see that it is possible to cold approach and have women like you for it.
4. Again, related to my first point...how much are you really taking? Think about it. Imagine you're in their shoes. You're doing something of mild importance. And a guy takes 10 seconds out of your life to say hi and pay you a compliment (if you're really that busy, you'll make it very clear very quickly that you don't want to talk to him. Right? So it really will only be 10 seconds!). Is that gonna make your day better or worse?
Finally, for more guidance and so you don't feel as overwhelmed, I recommend doing the newbie assignment. For some reason, I can't link it here. But its a forum post by Chase. Just google "girlschase newbie assignment" if you're interested.
I'm actually in the middle of it atm too!
Hope this helps. Good luck!
