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I reached a low point. I couldn't keep missing opportunities so I decided to really push myself so I could get over this.
Not sure why, either I'm unlucky or I get burnt out easily, but I usually get an approach every other day; can never get it everyday. It 'll sound mean, but for the first two approaches I made sure not to approach a girl that was too attractive so my body doesn't adrenaline dump so much, I also made sure they were a group of two so I knew they'd also feel calm knowing they had their friend with them.
First week went like this: Monday, approached a girl at the gym waiting for her friend to set up a machine, just a casual conversation asking her how long she has been training and her interests. I froze up after a couple minutes, I asked for her name and gave mine before we shook hands goodbye; Wednesday, approach a similar set waiting for coffe order at a cafe, similar conversation, just about the coffe shop and what they were getting; Friday, first time approaching a really attractive girl at the gym, she was sitting on a machine and I caught her in between sets. She was a little more anxious, but I think she was just mirroring how anxious I was. We still talked about little things like I did my first approach. It finished the same way.
Sunday of this week friends and I sat at a table at a local bar, across from us to my right was another table with like four drunk girls. We were also drunk. They showed some interest in us. I approached the table and just addressed them all. I was lucky the cutest girl at the table acknowledged me more than the others and I just asked her about how she liked the place and If she comes there often. We exchanged numbers .
Me and her went on a date the Friday after. Just drinks at a place I knew was really popular and had fruity stuff girls like. We both downed a few drinks and joked around and just shot the bull for an hour. We also made out a few times after she gave me hints that took me way too long to react too. I suggested we bounce to get ice cream. Then I took her to my car. We would end up spending an hour there together doing lots of crazy stuff. It was a good experience.
As of right now I'm 2.5 weeks in my journey, I still get approach anxiety, but I guess things are a lot better then they used to be.
Not sure why, either I'm unlucky or I get burnt out easily, but I usually get an approach every other day; can never get it everyday. It 'll sound mean, but for the first two approaches I made sure not to approach a girl that was too attractive so my body doesn't adrenaline dump so much, I also made sure they were a group of two so I knew they'd also feel calm knowing they had their friend with them.
First week went like this: Monday, approached a girl at the gym waiting for her friend to set up a machine, just a casual conversation asking her how long she has been training and her interests. I froze up after a couple minutes, I asked for her name and gave mine before we shook hands goodbye; Wednesday, approach a similar set waiting for coffe order at a cafe, similar conversation, just about the coffe shop and what they were getting; Friday, first time approaching a really attractive girl at the gym, she was sitting on a machine and I caught her in between sets. She was a little more anxious, but I think she was just mirroring how anxious I was. We still talked about little things like I did my first approach. It finished the same way.
Sunday of this week friends and I sat at a table at a local bar, across from us to my right was another table with like four drunk girls. We were also drunk. They showed some interest in us. I approached the table and just addressed them all. I was lucky the cutest girl at the table acknowledged me more than the others and I just asked her about how she liked the place and If she comes there often. We exchanged numbers .
Me and her went on a date the Friday after. Just drinks at a place I knew was really popular and had fruity stuff girls like. We both downed a few drinks and joked around and just shot the bull for an hour. We also made out a few times after she gave me hints that took me way too long to react too. I suggested we bounce to get ice cream. Then I took her to my car. We would end up spending an hour there together doing lots of crazy stuff. It was a good experience.
As of right now I'm 2.5 weeks in my journey, I still get approach anxiety, but I guess things are a lot better then they used to be.
