Flirty

[Korvager]

Hey guys
I had a quick question about something I've been dealing with a lot more recently as i've been getting better with girls. It's when a girl says something along the lines of, "Why are you such a flirt," or, "I bet you say this to every girl." I've been getting a lot more of these in person as well as over text so I'd like to hear your opinion as to how to respond to this.

 

[Oskar]

Zederer,

When girls say these sorts things I don't really register it anymore. They are basically just testing to see if you are legit or a poser. Best way to deal with it is to just look at it as though they are flirting with you (which they are). Some example responses would be:

1) Girl: "I bet you say this to every girl."
Me: "Naw, it probably wouldn't work... But you were telling me about your job?"

2) Girl: "Why are you such a flirt"
Me: <pretend you didn't hear and move conversation along as it was already progressing>

3) "I bet you say that to every girl."
Me: "Yeah, it's a real problem... I think I might have tourettes... <repeat what you said, grin, then deep dive on a more serious, get to know you front>

Basically you can either 1) deflect it, 2) ignore it, or 3) escalate it into a joke. Just approach it with a dominant and playful attitude and your wit should find itself -- little need to memorize any lines in this situation. Just keep the conversation moving at a good pace, and keep leading the two of you towards greater and greater intimacy. When push comes to shove, she doesn't really care what you say, only how you make her feel.

-Oskar

P.S. Ignoring it is probably your best bet in texting, lest you're apt to go down the wormhole of over-investment/waste-of-time that is most texting outside the purpose of setting up logistics.

 

[Franco]

Just wanted to add one more:

• 4) "I bet you say that to every girl."
  Me: ...and every single girl falls for it.

That one is the "cocky, confident" response. It can get you very polarized results... some girls will be absolutely intrigued by your "I'm the best" attitude, and it can definitely spike attraction. This is probably more of an advanced way of handling a response like this though as it needs to be congruent with your approach and the rest of your attitude.

NOTE: This is best done in person.

- Franco

 

[Korvager]

Thanks Oskar and Franco. I'll definitely be putting these to use.