Focus on Your Strengths, WHAT?

[Alchemist]

I keep coming across this advice from people that are into self-development, such as Gary Vaynerchuk or Tim Ferriss: "Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses."

Game was not my strength, hell I didn't know there was a pickup community while being a virgin years ago. But I had to work my ass of to learn game, and now years later I'm better than all of my friends except those I met after I started learning (even though I'm still in the beginning of my journey and not consistent yet). So had I followed this advice, perhaps I would have gone into professional video games, being a well known meme creator or a virgin sysadmin in an underground floor.

I think I recall an article where Chase said something along the lines of "I didn't think I'd get good with girls until I decided to start going out [...] And this applies to almost everything I've mastered etc" (BTW I can't find this article for the life of me)

Of course I have accepted the fact that I won't be an Olympic athlete or world-class musician at this point, but with enough dedication I think I can get damn good in near anything I wish to pursue. But that needs a almost pathological obsession to that field, like I have to seduction. I think that it's much wiser to try a bunch of stuff out, see what excites you and then dedicate yourself to that until you get great at it.

The concept of strength and weakness is something I completely ignore in terms of game, I may not have the best set of fundamental attributes to facilitate seduction (the analogy would be lung capacity or types of muscle fibers for athletes ) but I believe I can out-work and eventually out-compete someone who is more fundamentally "fit" for seduction, as his natural strength.

Can anyone elaborate on this?

 

[Alchemist]

"Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses."

Are they saying it from a business standpoint? If so It'd make sense. Otherwise I agree with you.

Slay

As far as I know Gary V is saying it from a business point of view but Tim Ferriss mentions any type of skill in terms of enhancing life.

 

[Hue]

Alchemist,

"Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses."

While I'm not familiar with Gary Vaynerchuk or Tim Ferriss, my mentor applies this with many of his severe clients in therapy.

Some individuals that he sees (diagnosed with Borderline Personality and/or Intellectual Developmental Disability [mentally retarded] ) after years of attempting to turn their weakness into strengths see no result from their type of treatment. Especially with those that he sees who are mentally handicap, some simply don't seem to have the capacity for certain types of function. So, rather than try to grow plants in dark rooms, his strategy is to support further development of these individuals strengths to give them better functioning in society.

The idea when applied to more capable individuals to me basically means to specialize.

That rather than waste time putting effort into a skill of yours that wasn't nourished or even previously attempted, put most of your effort towards mastering what you already have.




Personally, I think this can be practical, but can also limit people's actual potential. What if Bo Jackson only did baseball? He'd still probably be a legend, but in my speculation not as legendary as what he became.

With seduction, what if you only tried getting chicks at bars, and became quite good at it, but never did any social circle or day gaming? You'd probably be a hell of a night gamer seducer, but have less opportunities for lays even register to you, feel less comfortable when they did, and less smooth in the seduction.

Thus, my personal preference is to turn weakness into strength, while innovating strengths and apply them to the former when possible.


Hueman

 

[Fuck This]

I'd look at improving areas that aren't strengths, by leveraging those strengths.

There is something about gradually pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone, versus totally jumping out into uncharted water and no swimming lessons.

 

[Byron]

https://www.girlschase.com/content/perfect-just-you-are-if-you-want-results-ditch-egotism

This goes into great detail in answering this question, and I thought of it immediately when seeing this. Focus on your strengths and shore up your weaknesses. Don't limit yourself by focussing on one or the other.