Hi, I just came across this website and am still busy reading. My question is simple : when your interacting with a girl what do you need to focus on ? (I don't mean the obvious "focus on what shes telling you"). A piece of advice i used to hear a lot was, make her laugh, but that's not enough. What is your focus, what is your objective when you come up to a girl, what do you think about : creating an emotional bond, testing her, just having a good time with her ?
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Hi leo,
If you're new to the website, I think your question needs to be tweaked a bit. There are a lot of things that need to be focused on when you are first starting out and approaching women, so I think your question needs to be, "what should I focus on first?"
If you try to focus on everything that needs to be done at the same time, you are going to psyche yourself out and not be able to do anything correctly. So instead, you should organize each step of what you need to focus on, master a step, and then move on to the next step.
For example, I would first just practice getting your fundamentals down (sexy voice, sexy walk, sexy style, and sexy eye contact) and approaching women using a direct opener. Once you are comfortable approaching women and getting them to smile and respond warmly to you, then you can focus on deep diving with them and getting phone numbers.
Each step should be the focus of your interaction with girls until you feel like you've mastered that step to the point where you don't have to focus on it because you do it subconsciously! Once you've mastered every step, then you don't have to worry about focusing on anything in particular because you'll go through the motions naturally.
I hope this helps!
- Franco
If you're new to the website, I think your question needs to be tweaked a bit. There are a lot of things that need to be focused on when you are first starting out and approaching women, so I think your question needs to be, "what should I focus on first?"
If you try to focus on everything that needs to be done at the same time, you are going to psyche yourself out and not be able to do anything correctly. So instead, you should organize each step of what you need to focus on, master a step, and then move on to the next step.
For example, I would first just practice getting your fundamentals down (sexy voice, sexy walk, sexy style, and sexy eye contact) and approaching women using a direct opener. Once you are comfortable approaching women and getting them to smile and respond warmly to you, then you can focus on deep diving with them and getting phone numbers.
Each step should be the focus of your interaction with girls until you feel like you've mastered that step to the point where you don't have to focus on it because you do it subconsciously! Once you've mastered every step, then you don't have to worry about focusing on anything in particular because you'll go through the motions naturally.
I hope this helps!
- Franco