Hey guys so this FR is from this Saturday and it taught me an amazing lesson about outcome independence and showing genuine appreciation. I'm gonna start off with my night leading up to meeting her.
The start of the night
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So we are all just creating good vibes and having amazing conversation, after my beer we head out to kings which has bowling, and pool and some pretty since music. We are all joking on the street making innuendo's just really connecting and having a good time. So we go into kings and I make an entrance without meaning to, I'm just ecstatic and when I enter everyone turns to look at me and i just flash a silly grin and keep it moving as I get farther in an old manager of mines calls out to me as I walk by and I give her a hug and exchange pleasantry's then say farewell. My group heads further in an we try to get a table for bowling. 2 fucking hours nahh fuck that, we get pool instead n we are given a buzzer to wait with.
I know the place so I know where the bathroom is so i hit that up, after I get back they both head to the bathrooms and when Max gets back we head over to the bar. I let him know straight up I'm not trying to fuck his bitch, that's just how am with girls and he says he knows it's cool it's much funner that way. I let him get his drink first so he could head back to Tifa and I'm stuck waiting for my drink cause there's one bartender and shes pretty busy. The entire time I'm sitting and even before that , before I even got there with Max there was a lone scorpion bowl just sitting on the counter. This dude and his chick walk up to the bar and I don't remember how it started but me and the dude ended up playing rock paper scissors to see who is gonna drink from the bowl first. I win and he takes a sip then pretends to faint, and we joke about ruffee's and shit. I get my beer take a sip then say peace out to the two of them, it was fun.
I head back to the table with Max and Tifa and we continue joking around and we decide not to wait for pool but instead to head to a different bar. Before we leave Max proposes we just go up to random peoples lane and bowl for them, I'm down and we each bowl down someones lane then just walk out like fucking bosses, it was exciting! So we get to the next bar and this is gonna be the setting for the FR.
Meeting Amy
(The order in which thing's happened may be a bit off but I think I've got everything right.
So we all sit by a table at the door and there's a draft, the group in front of us leaves so I snatch their table and we move over. We all start conversing again and I see this girl walk by light tanned skin asian girl with the most fiery red hair I've ever seen. It looks beautiful and fucking amazing, her face was incredibly cute too. I point out how amazing her hair looks to my group and that I just have to go and tell her. Our group engages in a bit more and then I just get out of my chair and head to the red haired chick's table.
So at her table there are three people before I get there, the red haired girl, her lawyer friend, and some random dude just hanging on to her seat. (She looked very bored and uninterested, I'm guessing the guy tried and nothing panned out so he just stood there idk)
I get back into my group and we start talking again and Tifa gives me an amazing compliment.
I was actually shocked because I wasn't actively focusing on my body language or how I came off I just had to let that girl know what I thought, just give value to her night and Tifa's compliment honestly touched me, means I'm doing something right! So anyway we get back to talking and I notice red haired chick is glancing at me but I'm enjoying my friends company. I stop paying red haired girl attention and just focus on my friends, there was a dude that worked there ( pretty sure he kicked me and max out like three weeks ago) I engage him about a bar with a dance floor ( I want to fucking dance) and he lists off some places and then our group just flows into a conversation with this guy. We eventually let him go and I'm just in a social mode, so even when I go to the bathroom I'm just talking to the dudes next to me making jokes etc. I get back to our table and get back to it with my group.
As I'm sitting I notice out of the corner of my eye that red haired girl is getting ready to leave with her girlfriend. As she and her friend are walking by she stops and her body language is turned toward me but she's looking back at her table pretending like she forgot something. I look at her and motion her to come over. She complies and I talk to her.
This night really showed me how much a genuine compliment can really affect someone and how not going up to game a girl is fun if that makes any sense. My goal was just to open girls that night because I don't feel like I have the ability yet to have one night stands from bars and clubs yet. With her maybe I could of tried that but I didn't think of it at the time, I felt like the appropriate time to of tried something like that would of been when I was grabbing her number, to like get logistics or something. I also think I let an awkward silence ruin the moment when we were parting, I'm still learning and I plan to get muuuuuch better, let me know what you guys think.
p.s Been about 2 or 3 days and no text, So I'm guessing my opportunity was that night. Oh well on the the next one
The start of the night
A
So we are all just creating good vibes and having amazing conversation, after my beer we head out to kings which has bowling, and pool and some pretty since music. We are all joking on the street making innuendo's just really connecting and having a good time. So we go into kings and I make an entrance without meaning to, I'm just ecstatic and when I enter everyone turns to look at me and i just flash a silly grin and keep it moving as I get farther in an old manager of mines calls out to me as I walk by and I give her a hug and exchange pleasantry's then say farewell. My group heads further in an we try to get a table for bowling. 2 fucking hours nahh fuck that, we get pool instead n we are given a buzzer to wait with.
I know the place so I know where the bathroom is so i hit that up, after I get back they both head to the bathrooms and when Max gets back we head over to the bar. I let him know straight up I'm not trying to fuck his bitch, that's just how am with girls and he says he knows it's cool it's much funner that way. I let him get his drink first so he could head back to Tifa and I'm stuck waiting for my drink cause there's one bartender and shes pretty busy. The entire time I'm sitting and even before that , before I even got there with Max there was a lone scorpion bowl just sitting on the counter. This dude and his chick walk up to the bar and I don't remember how it started but me and the dude ended up playing rock paper scissors to see who is gonna drink from the bowl first. I win and he takes a sip then pretends to faint, and we joke about ruffee's and shit. I get my beer take a sip then say peace out to the two of them, it was fun.
I head back to the table with Max and Tifa and we continue joking around and we decide not to wait for pool but instead to head to a different bar. Before we leave Max proposes we just go up to random peoples lane and bowl for them, I'm down and we each bowl down someones lane then just walk out like fucking bosses, it was exciting! So we get to the next bar and this is gonna be the setting for the FR.
Meeting Amy
(The order in which thing's happened may be a bit off but I think I've got everything right.
So we all sit by a table at the door and there's a draft, the group in front of us leaves so I snatch their table and we move over. We all start conversing again and I see this girl walk by light tanned skin asian girl with the most fiery red hair I've ever seen. It looks beautiful and fucking amazing, her face was incredibly cute too. I point out how amazing her hair looks to my group and that I just have to go and tell her. Our group engages in a bit more and then I just get out of my chair and head to the red haired chick's table.
So at her table there are three people before I get there, the red haired girl, her lawyer friend, and some random dude just hanging on to her seat. (She looked very bored and uninterested, I'm guessing the guy tried and nothing panned out so he just stood there idk)
I get back into my group and we start talking again and Tifa gives me an amazing compliment.
I was actually shocked because I wasn't actively focusing on my body language or how I came off I just had to let that girl know what I thought, just give value to her night and Tifa's compliment honestly touched me, means I'm doing something right! So anyway we get back to talking and I notice red haired chick is glancing at me but I'm enjoying my friends company. I stop paying red haired girl attention and just focus on my friends, there was a dude that worked there ( pretty sure he kicked me and max out like three weeks ago) I engage him about a bar with a dance floor ( I want to fucking dance) and he lists off some places and then our group just flows into a conversation with this guy. We eventually let him go and I'm just in a social mode, so even when I go to the bathroom I'm just talking to the dudes next to me making jokes etc. I get back to our table and get back to it with my group.
As I'm sitting I notice out of the corner of my eye that red haired girl is getting ready to leave with her girlfriend. As she and her friend are walking by she stops and her body language is turned toward me but she's looking back at her table pretending like she forgot something. I look at her and motion her to come over. She complies and I talk to her.
This night really showed me how much a genuine compliment can really affect someone and how not going up to game a girl is fun if that makes any sense. My goal was just to open girls that night because I don't feel like I have the ability yet to have one night stands from bars and clubs yet. With her maybe I could of tried that but I didn't think of it at the time, I felt like the appropriate time to of tried something like that would of been when I was grabbing her number, to like get logistics or something. I also think I let an awkward silence ruin the moment when we were parting, I'm still learning and I plan to get muuuuuch better, let me know what you guys think.
p.s Been about 2 or 3 days and no text, So I'm guessing my opportunity was that night. Oh well on the the next one
