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There was a breakdance event that happened at my mall a couple days back. I decided to go and it was a great show overall.
There were a couple of girls chilling at the ramp. I decided to plant myself there. I used a situational opener to talk about the break dance. Their energy was lively and chill at the same time. I asked them what they liked about the performance and we talked a bit about it. I asked for their name, they asked for mine (which was the only question they asked), I asked what tea they were having, and mentioned my own preference for passion fruit green tea. She said she doesn't like it, which is okay, fair, not everyone is gonna like the same thing.
However, overall it didn't feel like she's invested enough in the conversation, and I wasn't really invested enough to move it forward so it died down.
At the same day, there was another girl I talked to. Now this one was a stunner. I looked at her and was like "Damn, I'd want to get with her." She was so hot it got me thinking of what it be like to be with her.
So I planted myself near her and I notice we both couldn't get a clear view, so we watched off the guys phone.
I did my recent approach to cold approach by saying "can I asked you a question." And then proceed to ask if she got a good view of she just looked at the camera, and she answered the question. I used that to create an "us" moment. The conversation went back to silence. But honestly, it wasn't even 10 seconds and she decided to move away from me at that moment.
Perhaps she was too into the moment, but it actually wouldn't matter to me. To me, I got her attention, which means she's seen what I looked like. If she felt physical attraction to me, she would be compelled to stay in the conversation with me and maybe try to keep the conversation going (because she wants something to happen between me and her).
The fact that she was caught up in the moment or didn't stick around once i got her attention tells me 2 things (1. She thinks I'm interested in her, she's not interested in me, and therefore moved away from me to signal that disinterest or 2. Maybe it's not her rejecting me, she got caught up in the moment and she didn't really think much of me. I could've used game to win her over, but I'm not in the business of trying to win women through game, therefore this situation doesn't serve me as well. All I see in situation number 2 was she didn't feel attraction for me enough to stick around because her natural attraction compels her to. People will say she's a yellow light, so if i played my cards right, I could win her via strategy. But I'm at a point where I want to be myself and enjoy myself in most interactions. If me being myself leads to those cards falling in place somehow, cool. I tried consciously following tips to use game to keep yellow lights around back in 2019. While I was successful in getting numbers, dates, and even some physical action (not talking about sex here), I didn't enjoy the fact I had to pursue that in the way I did back then. It felt like I was doing the most for least. It also reinforced that no girl would actually like the real me unless I employ those strategies to win yellow lights over. Now a days, if i see a yellow light, and I have to use a lot of game to keep her engaged and be the one leading it, there has to be some incentive for me. I need to find her very attractive to pursue things with her (on some level, she has to make conversation easy for me too to keep it going). Or if I don't feel anything for her at the moment, she's gotta make this easy for me. (I don't mean her showing me signs she's interested and me picking up on it. I mean her actually growing a pair and going after what she wants).
The breakdance event ended and so I just went home.
There were a couple of girls chilling at the ramp. I decided to plant myself there. I used a situational opener to talk about the break dance. Their energy was lively and chill at the same time. I asked them what they liked about the performance and we talked a bit about it. I asked for their name, they asked for mine (which was the only question they asked), I asked what tea they were having, and mentioned my own preference for passion fruit green tea. She said she doesn't like it, which is okay, fair, not everyone is gonna like the same thing.
However, overall it didn't feel like she's invested enough in the conversation, and I wasn't really invested enough to move it forward so it died down.
At the same day, there was another girl I talked to. Now this one was a stunner. I looked at her and was like "Damn, I'd want to get with her." She was so hot it got me thinking of what it be like to be with her.
So I planted myself near her and I notice we both couldn't get a clear view, so we watched off the guys phone.
I did my recent approach to cold approach by saying "can I asked you a question." And then proceed to ask if she got a good view of she just looked at the camera, and she answered the question. I used that to create an "us" moment. The conversation went back to silence. But honestly, it wasn't even 10 seconds and she decided to move away from me at that moment.
Perhaps she was too into the moment, but it actually wouldn't matter to me. To me, I got her attention, which means she's seen what I looked like. If she felt physical attraction to me, she would be compelled to stay in the conversation with me and maybe try to keep the conversation going (because she wants something to happen between me and her).
The fact that she was caught up in the moment or didn't stick around once i got her attention tells me 2 things (1. She thinks I'm interested in her, she's not interested in me, and therefore moved away from me to signal that disinterest or 2. Maybe it's not her rejecting me, she got caught up in the moment and she didn't really think much of me. I could've used game to win her over, but I'm not in the business of trying to win women through game, therefore this situation doesn't serve me as well. All I see in situation number 2 was she didn't feel attraction for me enough to stick around because her natural attraction compels her to. People will say she's a yellow light, so if i played my cards right, I could win her via strategy. But I'm at a point where I want to be myself and enjoy myself in most interactions. If me being myself leads to those cards falling in place somehow, cool. I tried consciously following tips to use game to keep yellow lights around back in 2019. While I was successful in getting numbers, dates, and even some physical action (not talking about sex here), I didn't enjoy the fact I had to pursue that in the way I did back then. It felt like I was doing the most for least. It also reinforced that no girl would actually like the real me unless I employ those strategies to win yellow lights over. Now a days, if i see a yellow light, and I have to use a lot of game to keep her engaged and be the one leading it, there has to be some incentive for me. I need to find her very attractive to pursue things with her (on some level, she has to make conversation easy for me too to keep it going). Or if I don't feel anything for her at the moment, she's gotta make this easy for me. (I don't mean her showing me signs she's interested and me picking up on it. I mean her actually growing a pair and going after what she wants).
The breakdance event ended and so I just went home.
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