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Hey guys,
Just had a quick date today with a girl I matched with on FB.
How We Connected
With her, I went through my usual online dating routine and got set up for a date while getting her moved over to regular texting (i.e. "ok great. Let's plan on next Saturday. what's your #? I'll text you details when we get closer"). Got to that point after 4 FB messages back and forth.
On texting, we had planned to meet that following Saturday, but she had to work much longer than she initially anticipated, so she asked if we could reschedule and I said "bummer
" "I understand it but I was looking forward to meeting you". She said "I'm sorry" to which I replied "we'll plan on another time then" "have a great weekend". She said "Yes" "And you too".
Then she texted me later when she got home wanting to go out that same day, but I already had filled my evening with other plans so I didn't get back to her till the next day.
The Coffee Shop
We scheduled for meeting today for coffee and after a bit of texting back and forth on logistics, I got there a minute or two sooner than her (past our planned meeting time) so I went in and ordered my drink. Right after I ordered, I saw her walking towards me.
We hugged and said hey. She talked to me a bit standing right there about her day and things and then we walked over to the counter. She got her order and then we both got our drinks and went looking for a spot to sit (it was super busy).
After a minute or two we found a spot on the couch and sat next to each other. I generally put my arm around the couch and we talked back and forth on our interests and travels and things like that.
She is a big dancer and has been dancing all her life. She also does singing and improv comedy and is an extrovert, which I prefer in women. So that was all fun things.
After a bit of talking, she made it very obvious she was feeling spontaneous and wanted to dance with me so we went outside the coffee shop after finishing our drinks and she showed me how to dance a few moves in front of the store.
It was a lot of fun then I suggested we move somewhere else and suggested my place. She said "OK sure!" and followed me back to my apartment.
At My Place
I had her take off her shoes and help me move the table out of the way so we'd have space to dance. She then showed me some videos of her teachers and her dancing on her social media, where I found out she also does some modeling on the side.
After a few minutes, I took her for a tour around the apartment and tried to kiss her, but she wasn't ready yet and said "It felt like you were trying to kiss me" and I denied it saying "whatever you think, I was just wanting to see your face better" and changed topics.
So we sat on the couch a while and it come up why she was feeling reserved. She had just gotten out of a relationship (one month ago) where the guy completely did her wrong by sending her the wrong expectations. Anyways, it hurt her and made her more reserved to get quickly intimate with people (like she did with that guy). So thanks random dude for ruining women.
Anyways, I told her my take on it blaming the guy and discussing what I expect in a relationship and things like that. I also told her I wouldn't judge her and she could feel comfortable with me and that her comfort is my priority. I also talked about how physical touch is very important to me and how I want to build both physical and emotional intimacy at the same time.
She tried to play the whole "let's be friends first" story first but I just smirked and I think she realized that wasn't going to happen.
But at least now I knew why she was so hesitant. She also said she felt like she didn't know anything about me so I said "OK. Let's talk then". So she asked me a bunch of questions and we had more intimate dialogue, including what I meant by "I like being dominant" on my FB profile and sex and things like that.
She also told me what things she found attractive about me on my profile (which is good to know). And then we spent the next two hours of her showing me different dance moves (she wants to become an instructor) and things.
She really lowered her guard and she talked about it afterwards how that makes her feel more comfortable (being close while dancing). So that pushed things forward and I had tons of fun at the same time.
We then took a break and I gave her some water. We then did a staring contest and I had her stand up at one point to explain how she looked much taller when I first saw her compared to when I'm right next to her. And she tilted her head away from me to block me from kissing her (not that I was trying to).
So I pointed it out. I said "hey I'm not trying to kiss you" and I let her know it was OK to relax and that she didn't have to do anything she didn't want to. But she said she was just flustered and worried about it so I said "well then why not just kiss me and get it over with?" so that made her brain pause for a second.
So while her brain was loading, I went in for the kiss and she kissed back. Then she kissed me again and I said "feel better?" to which she laughed and said she felt so nervous and embarrassed.
She was pretty flustered for a while after and I think continuing the staring contest while not trying to make each other laugh helped a lot.
The Conclusion
Anyways, she said I was a lot of fun to hang out with and that we should hang out again and that she'll teach me more moves and she wants to hear me play the piano.
But then she had to go for plans she had this evening (which I knew about and I have plans this evening too). So she got her shoes on and went in to hug me but I stopped her and dominantly grabbed (pulled her into me, holding her chin with one hand and grabbing her ass with the other) and gently kissed her.
So I told her to let me know how her evening goes (she's going to an improv show) and she said OK and again that we have to hang out again.
Afterwards
A few minutes after she left, I got these texts:
Her - "I had a lot of fun and I think we have some chemistry"
Her - "You are attractive"
Me - "thanks haha I had a lot of fun too. you're fun to be around"
Her - "Thank you, let's hang out again soon and dance again"
Me - "definitely. I'll be in touch ~"
Her - "Sounds good *ok emoji*"
So the whole date lasted 3 hours. She's a single mom (of three) so I'm hesitant on getting really serious with her in the future (if it goes that way). But, she is definitely more of the quality of girl I want to be dating regularly (in terms of looks and personality).
I had a lot of fun today and it was refreshing. I've been going on dates where the girls don't have much personality and it is boring to me.
So I look forward to dancing with her again.
NBW
Just had a quick date today with a girl I matched with on FB.
How We Connected
With her, I went through my usual online dating routine and got set up for a date while getting her moved over to regular texting (i.e. "ok great. Let's plan on next Saturday. what's your #? I'll text you details when we get closer"). Got to that point after 4 FB messages back and forth.
On texting, we had planned to meet that following Saturday, but she had to work much longer than she initially anticipated, so she asked if we could reschedule and I said "bummer
" "I understand it but I was looking forward to meeting you". She said "I'm sorry" to which I replied "we'll plan on another time then" "have a great weekend". She said "Yes" "And you too".Then she texted me later when she got home wanting to go out that same day, but I already had filled my evening with other plans so I didn't get back to her till the next day.
The Coffee Shop
We scheduled for meeting today for coffee and after a bit of texting back and forth on logistics, I got there a minute or two sooner than her (past our planned meeting time) so I went in and ordered my drink. Right after I ordered, I saw her walking towards me.
We hugged and said hey. She talked to me a bit standing right there about her day and things and then we walked over to the counter. She got her order and then we both got our drinks and went looking for a spot to sit (it was super busy).
After a minute or two we found a spot on the couch and sat next to each other. I generally put my arm around the couch and we talked back and forth on our interests and travels and things like that.
She is a big dancer and has been dancing all her life. She also does singing and improv comedy and is an extrovert, which I prefer in women. So that was all fun things.
After a bit of talking, she made it very obvious she was feeling spontaneous and wanted to dance with me so we went outside the coffee shop after finishing our drinks and she showed me how to dance a few moves in front of the store.
It was a lot of fun then I suggested we move somewhere else and suggested my place. She said "OK sure!" and followed me back to my apartment.
At My Place
I had her take off her shoes and help me move the table out of the way so we'd have space to dance. She then showed me some videos of her teachers and her dancing on her social media, where I found out she also does some modeling on the side.
After a few minutes, I took her for a tour around the apartment and tried to kiss her, but she wasn't ready yet and said "It felt like you were trying to kiss me" and I denied it saying "whatever you think, I was just wanting to see your face better" and changed topics.
So we sat on the couch a while and it come up why she was feeling reserved. She had just gotten out of a relationship (one month ago) where the guy completely did her wrong by sending her the wrong expectations. Anyways, it hurt her and made her more reserved to get quickly intimate with people (like she did with that guy). So thanks random dude for ruining women.
Anyways, I told her my take on it blaming the guy and discussing what I expect in a relationship and things like that. I also told her I wouldn't judge her and she could feel comfortable with me and that her comfort is my priority. I also talked about how physical touch is very important to me and how I want to build both physical and emotional intimacy at the same time.
She tried to play the whole "let's be friends first" story first but I just smirked and I think she realized that wasn't going to happen.
But at least now I knew why she was so hesitant. She also said she felt like she didn't know anything about me so I said "OK. Let's talk then". So she asked me a bunch of questions and we had more intimate dialogue, including what I meant by "I like being dominant" on my FB profile and sex and things like that.
She also told me what things she found attractive about me on my profile (which is good to know). And then we spent the next two hours of her showing me different dance moves (she wants to become an instructor) and things.
She really lowered her guard and she talked about it afterwards how that makes her feel more comfortable (being close while dancing). So that pushed things forward and I had tons of fun at the same time.
We then took a break and I gave her some water. We then did a staring contest and I had her stand up at one point to explain how she looked much taller when I first saw her compared to when I'm right next to her. And she tilted her head away from me to block me from kissing her (not that I was trying to).
So I pointed it out. I said "hey I'm not trying to kiss you" and I let her know it was OK to relax and that she didn't have to do anything she didn't want to. But she said she was just flustered and worried about it so I said "well then why not just kiss me and get it over with?" so that made her brain pause for a second.
So while her brain was loading, I went in for the kiss and she kissed back. Then she kissed me again and I said "feel better?" to which she laughed and said she felt so nervous and embarrassed.
She was pretty flustered for a while after and I think continuing the staring contest while not trying to make each other laugh helped a lot.
The Conclusion
Anyways, she said I was a lot of fun to hang out with and that we should hang out again and that she'll teach me more moves and she wants to hear me play the piano.
But then she had to go for plans she had this evening (which I knew about and I have plans this evening too). So she got her shoes on and went in to hug me but I stopped her and dominantly grabbed (pulled her into me, holding her chin with one hand and grabbing her ass with the other) and gently kissed her.
So I told her to let me know how her evening goes (she's going to an improv show) and she said OK and again that we have to hang out again.
Afterwards
A few minutes after she left, I got these texts:
Her - "I had a lot of fun and I think we have some chemistry"
Her - "You are attractive"
Me - "thanks haha I had a lot of fun too. you're fun to be around"
Her - "Thank you, let's hang out again soon and dance again"
Me - "definitely. I'll be in touch ~"
Her - "Sounds good *ok emoji*"
So the whole date lasted 3 hours. She's a single mom (of three) so I'm hesitant on getting really serious with her in the future (if it goes that way). But, she is definitely more of the quality of girl I want to be dating regularly (in terms of looks and personality).
I had a lot of fun today and it was refreshing. I've been going on dates where the girls don't have much personality and it is boring to me.
So I look forward to dancing with her again.
NBW
