Hey all!
I'm a woman reading this site with great interest, and you guys have given me great advice before! Hence, I want to post about something that happened to me a few days ago where I'm still trying to figure out what really happened.
Here is what happened (my version, of course) I was a tourist in an European city this week and visited a great tourist attraction on my own. To get there, I had to go through a rather desert area, but it didn't bother me, since the time was only about 2.30 pm, and I was busy looking at my cell phone and didn't pay too much attention to the surroundings. When I was close to the entrance, a guy started talking to me. Then I didn’t think much about it and just thought I caught him up because I was walking faster, now I think he stood there waiting for me. Anyway, I like talking to people, especially when travelling, and joined the conversation. There was nothing special or off-putting by the way he talked, was dressed etc, but he gave some strange answers, like he said that he wasn’t interested in this tourist site but just was there on his way to meet a colleague. When he asked me if I wanted to have a cup of coffee with him if I ever came back to this city and asked for my phone number, I thought “why not?” and we exchanged phone numbers when he touched my hands more than really necessary.
When we reached the entrance and I was actually happy to say good-by, so I just said “see you later!” and went into the site, when he all of a sudden said he wanted to join me and paid 10 Euros to get in there too. Inside we had to wait for a guided tour and he repeated that he wasn’t interested in the monument but just wanted to be with me. Then he stared to ask very personal questions, like if I had a boyfriend (I lied and said yes), how old I was (he claimed he was two years younger, but I’m not sure that was true), and if I had children. When I said no, he said he wanted a child with me and that he wanted to move to my country. When I tried to steer the conversation to more neutral subjects, like why I found this tourist attraction interesting, he didn’t answer and continued with the personal questions.
At this time I had started feeling really uncomfortable and started to make plans about how I could get rid of him after the guided tour. Then he got a phone call and I heard him say “I’ll be there in 20 minutes”, before he excused himself and left. Then I didn’t hear anything more before the next morning when he texted me, which I didn’t reply to, and then called me the morning after that, when I unfortunately answered because I didn’t recognize the number and then I said I couldn’t talk to him because I was at work. After this I haven’t heard anything.
So, what happened? Was he outside the monument just waiting to pick up a tourist? Did he understand that his behavior was off-putting? Did he try to “move fast” without understanding that a basis of attraction has to be there first? I’m just curious to hear your thoughts!
I'm a woman reading this site with great interest, and you guys have given me great advice before! Hence, I want to post about something that happened to me a few days ago where I'm still trying to figure out what really happened.
Here is what happened (my version, of course) I was a tourist in an European city this week and visited a great tourist attraction on my own. To get there, I had to go through a rather desert area, but it didn't bother me, since the time was only about 2.30 pm, and I was busy looking at my cell phone and didn't pay too much attention to the surroundings. When I was close to the entrance, a guy started talking to me. Then I didn’t think much about it and just thought I caught him up because I was walking faster, now I think he stood there waiting for me. Anyway, I like talking to people, especially when travelling, and joined the conversation. There was nothing special or off-putting by the way he talked, was dressed etc, but he gave some strange answers, like he said that he wasn’t interested in this tourist site but just was there on his way to meet a colleague. When he asked me if I wanted to have a cup of coffee with him if I ever came back to this city and asked for my phone number, I thought “why not?” and we exchanged phone numbers when he touched my hands more than really necessary.
When we reached the entrance and I was actually happy to say good-by, so I just said “see you later!” and went into the site, when he all of a sudden said he wanted to join me and paid 10 Euros to get in there too. Inside we had to wait for a guided tour and he repeated that he wasn’t interested in the monument but just wanted to be with me. Then he stared to ask very personal questions, like if I had a boyfriend (I lied and said yes), how old I was (he claimed he was two years younger, but I’m not sure that was true), and if I had children. When I said no, he said he wanted a child with me and that he wanted to move to my country. When I tried to steer the conversation to more neutral subjects, like why I found this tourist attraction interesting, he didn’t answer and continued with the personal questions.
At this time I had started feeling really uncomfortable and started to make plans about how I could get rid of him after the guided tour. Then he got a phone call and I heard him say “I’ll be there in 20 minutes”, before he excused himself and left. Then I didn’t hear anything more before the next morning when he texted me, which I didn’t reply to, and then called me the morning after that, when I unfortunately answered because I didn’t recognize the number and then I said I couldn’t talk to him because I was at work. After this I haven’t heard anything.
So, what happened? Was he outside the monument just waiting to pick up a tourist? Did he understand that his behavior was off-putting? Did he try to “move fast” without understanding that a basis of attraction has to be there first? I’m just curious to hear your thoughts!
