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Hey guys,
Met this girl through cold approach. The original date we planned to go out there was a blizzard, so that didn't happen (she half flaked, which I expected as I was half way through writing the text that we should reschedule). So after reconnecting with her after a few days and putting the ball in her court because she was slow to respond, she finally responded and we planned on today (Friday night).
Before going into the date, I wrote myself a list of goals. I wanted to work on building sexual tension (letting her talk, using sexual frames, keeping her guessing, etc.) as well as not letting her go if she tried to leave the date early (which I failed the past few times with girls doing). Of course, I also wanted to escalate as far as I could go.
I picked her up on campus (she lives in the dorms). We then drove over to the nearby Starbucks and talked along the way. She did most of the talking and I just listened. She had just moved into her own dorm to get away from a crazy roommate today and had literally just finished moving everything when I picked her up. At Starbucks, we got our drinks and I directed her where to sit.
We talked about different things and I had something I haven't had happen yet happen. Apparently when she told her roommate about me, her roommate pulled up my Instagram and asked if it was me. I had previously approached her roommate and asked her out as well so her roommate told her "good luck with that" and said I was a player. So she brought this up and I played it off saying I'm just a social guy - of course I talk to hundreds and hundreds of girls a day. It worked fine and we moved past it - but it was interesting to hear that her (now past) roommate wasn't my favorite fan.
She didn't seem to mind this though and seemed open to still meeting me. So when continued to talk and I had her watch my things at one point and give me a sip of her drink and some other things. She eventually said we should move to the more comfortable seats and immediately jumped over there to sit. So I just joined her teasing the way she jumped on the seat. We talked more and after a while I said we should go play some pool on campus. She agreed.
We drove over and we had some sex talk. So she had just learned manual and I brought up how girls who learn manual are usually pretty good at hand/blow jobs. She said she wasn't that great at blowjobs and we talked a bit more about it.
At campus, we played pool some more and I saw one of my friends there. He played it chill when he saw her. We played three games - she won two, I won one. We talked throughout and teased and had good eye contact. She had opened up to me on the drive over on some things she's going through and I mostly didn't talk about myself. I made sure to touch her on high points and we shared more stories / had some more sex talk.
I then said we should pop out of there and we cleaned up and headed out. I continued light conversation as we walked to my car, I drove back to her dorm and parked in the lot. She asked if I lived on campus. I said no but that if she wasn't too busy, we should head to her place and watch a movie. She also needed help setting her tv and stuff up so I volunteered. I kept conversation light in the transition and could feel the tension lingering.
Back in her room she showed me all her things and talked through them. I set up the tv and her xbox to watch Netflix. We spent a long time going through her things and I realized this and said forget it the tv stands up by itself (she was looking for the stand) and we went in. She set up her xbox and put on some music in the meantime. We just chilled for a bit and she eventually moved away from me. We talked some more and she just blasted music from her tv once it was set up. She brought up how "quiet hours" weren't until 2 am with a smirk and I took this as a good sign, but when she just blasted music and was on her phone the entire time, I began to get bored and frustrated. I then went and got some cards to play a game after I got bored.
We played a game of old maid and right before I had her stand up and show me her shirt. Once she sat down and starting playing music again, after a while I thought fuck it its been long enough and told her to turn my way and kissed her. She accepted the kiss but then quickly turned her entire body away and said "That's it. No more" and wouldn't move. I literally got flashbacks of the only other time a girl did this to me and omfg it is so frustrating. I figured I'd just tease her a bit and try again later rather. I also moved my body away from her and put a bored look on my face.
She kept blasting music and singing and kept resisting my attempts at compliance. She was wearing her coat and I brought up that she should take it off and relax - it was pretty warm in her dorm. She said no I'm at a good temperature, if I did I would grab a blanket. She had earlier taken off her jacket to show me her shirt when we were playing pool so I thought this was ridiculous. She wouldn't sit close to me and even when we played old maid and I told her she'd have to come over to me to grab her card, she resisted. I eventually told her I could just leave and she told me "that's fine you can leave".
I got seriously bored and frustrated - this was ridiculous. Eventually she told me she needed to go give money to her old roommate and said she'd kick me out at 9:30 so she could sleep. When her roommate got back, she headed over and I followed her out. As we got outside her door I went for a kiss again and she completely turned away and said "Nope!" to the point that she popped her entire back because I put my hand her lower back. I was done. Frustration at 100%.
I followed her over to her roommates and she showed me where the stairs were to get back to my car. She looked at me like she expected me to try to kiss her again but I was so frustrated I just said "bye" and went down the stairs, out to my car, and left.
We met at 6 PM and the date was over around 9:00 - 9:30
On the bright side, I did my best to build up some sexual tension and be nonjudgmental and qualify her to how I wanted her to be. I also handled the transition back to her place a lot better than I have done in the past. However, I obviously missed the small window once we were back at her place to set the dominant frames and escalate quickly and that all backfired when she just keep resisting my compliance and kept blasting music to keep from talking. Omfg it was frustrating and I honestly don't want to deal with her again. Even if it is my fault because I failed her "test" (if you want to call it that) I'm just frustrated.
What would you all have done? Any tips?
Till the next one,
NBW
Met this girl through cold approach. The original date we planned to go out there was a blizzard, so that didn't happen (she half flaked, which I expected as I was half way through writing the text that we should reschedule). So after reconnecting with her after a few days and putting the ball in her court because she was slow to respond, she finally responded and we planned on today (Friday night).
Before going into the date, I wrote myself a list of goals. I wanted to work on building sexual tension (letting her talk, using sexual frames, keeping her guessing, etc.) as well as not letting her go if she tried to leave the date early (which I failed the past few times with girls doing). Of course, I also wanted to escalate as far as I could go.
I picked her up on campus (she lives in the dorms). We then drove over to the nearby Starbucks and talked along the way. She did most of the talking and I just listened. She had just moved into her own dorm to get away from a crazy roommate today and had literally just finished moving everything when I picked her up. At Starbucks, we got our drinks and I directed her where to sit.
We talked about different things and I had something I haven't had happen yet happen. Apparently when she told her roommate about me, her roommate pulled up my Instagram and asked if it was me. I had previously approached her roommate and asked her out as well so her roommate told her "good luck with that" and said I was a player. So she brought this up and I played it off saying I'm just a social guy - of course I talk to hundreds and hundreds of girls a day. It worked fine and we moved past it - but it was interesting to hear that her (now past) roommate wasn't my favorite fan.
She didn't seem to mind this though and seemed open to still meeting me. So when continued to talk and I had her watch my things at one point and give me a sip of her drink and some other things. She eventually said we should move to the more comfortable seats and immediately jumped over there to sit. So I just joined her teasing the way she jumped on the seat. We talked more and after a while I said we should go play some pool on campus. She agreed.
We drove over and we had some sex talk. So she had just learned manual and I brought up how girls who learn manual are usually pretty good at hand/blow jobs. She said she wasn't that great at blowjobs and we talked a bit more about it.
At campus, we played pool some more and I saw one of my friends there. He played it chill when he saw her. We played three games - she won two, I won one. We talked throughout and teased and had good eye contact. She had opened up to me on the drive over on some things she's going through and I mostly didn't talk about myself. I made sure to touch her on high points and we shared more stories / had some more sex talk.
I then said we should pop out of there and we cleaned up and headed out. I continued light conversation as we walked to my car, I drove back to her dorm and parked in the lot. She asked if I lived on campus. I said no but that if she wasn't too busy, we should head to her place and watch a movie. She also needed help setting her tv and stuff up so I volunteered. I kept conversation light in the transition and could feel the tension lingering.
Back in her room she showed me all her things and talked through them. I set up the tv and her xbox to watch Netflix. We spent a long time going through her things and I realized this and said forget it the tv stands up by itself (she was looking for the stand) and we went in. She set up her xbox and put on some music in the meantime. We just chilled for a bit and she eventually moved away from me. We talked some more and she just blasted music from her tv once it was set up. She brought up how "quiet hours" weren't until 2 am with a smirk and I took this as a good sign, but when she just blasted music and was on her phone the entire time, I began to get bored and frustrated. I then went and got some cards to play a game after I got bored.
We played a game of old maid and right before I had her stand up and show me her shirt. Once she sat down and starting playing music again, after a while I thought fuck it its been long enough and told her to turn my way and kissed her. She accepted the kiss but then quickly turned her entire body away and said "That's it. No more" and wouldn't move. I literally got flashbacks of the only other time a girl did this to me and omfg it is so frustrating. I figured I'd just tease her a bit and try again later rather. I also moved my body away from her and put a bored look on my face.
She kept blasting music and singing and kept resisting my attempts at compliance. She was wearing her coat and I brought up that she should take it off and relax - it was pretty warm in her dorm. She said no I'm at a good temperature, if I did I would grab a blanket. She had earlier taken off her jacket to show me her shirt when we were playing pool so I thought this was ridiculous. She wouldn't sit close to me and even when we played old maid and I told her she'd have to come over to me to grab her card, she resisted. I eventually told her I could just leave and she told me "that's fine you can leave".
I got seriously bored and frustrated - this was ridiculous. Eventually she told me she needed to go give money to her old roommate and said she'd kick me out at 9:30 so she could sleep. When her roommate got back, she headed over and I followed her out. As we got outside her door I went for a kiss again and she completely turned away and said "Nope!" to the point that she popped her entire back because I put my hand her lower back. I was done. Frustration at 100%.
I followed her over to her roommates and she showed me where the stairs were to get back to my car. She looked at me like she expected me to try to kiss her again but I was so frustrated I just said "bye" and went down the stairs, out to my car, and left.
We met at 6 PM and the date was over around 9:00 - 9:30
On the bright side, I did my best to build up some sexual tension and be nonjudgmental and qualify her to how I wanted her to be. I also handled the transition back to her place a lot better than I have done in the past. However, I obviously missed the small window once we were back at her place to set the dominant frames and escalate quickly and that all backfired when she just keep resisting my compliance and kept blasting music to keep from talking. Omfg it was frustrating and I honestly don't want to deal with her again. Even if it is my fault because I failed her "test" (if you want to call it that) I'm just frustrated.
What would you all have done? Any tips?
Till the next one,
NBW
