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I got a little detailed in my last report on the black girl I met at the mall so I will try and keep this to a minimum. This is actually the date that we planned for after the meet when I met that same black girl in the mall. https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=3386
Pretty basic start. We meet up and walk to the restaurant. On our walk we pretty much resume the same vibe we had at the mall (semi sexy, and interested in one another) and are walking very magnetically close to one another, though not arm in arm, holding hand, etc. When we cross roads and enter the restaurant I lead her my the small of her back.
After eating we split the bill and decide to take a walk to the end of the pier that the road dead ends into. Once again we walk magnetically close to one another and when she asks me for a piece of gum I make her say please and give me a kiss on the cheek before giving it too her (idk if that's relevant but seemed like good investment at the time). She tells me how she usually swears like a sailor but hasn't said a cuss word since I met her, (is this also good investment? maybe shes trying to impress me?) although to put her at ease and not seem like a goodytwoshoe trying to be bf material I add the occasional well placed curse word. Lastly investment wise when the conversation falls, I don't rush in to try and keep it going and simply basque in the silence. Soon after she would fill these silences by asking me a question (Also good investment I think?).
Anyway we get half way to the end of the pier and I decide its time to gradually start escalating so I hold out my arm for her to hook hers into mine which of course she does. We keep walking and talking. This is the point where I have trouble escalating the vibe from social to sexual I simply don't know what to talk about to go the next step of escalating the vibe. Anyway we're talking about movies and I bring up the fact that since we met earlier the whole interaction has felt like a movie. She agrees and we keep walking and talking. The vibe is the same and I can feel it needs to build. We get to a grassy knoll under a street light and I say
Me: "Here, step up here with me this movie is going to the next scene" I lead her up and hold her close to my body with our bodys facing each other, pressing her pelvis into mine.
Her: Smiling, with her arms around me.
Me: "I think the next scene would look something like this" go in for kiss
Her: Turns cheek so I can't kiss her"
I forget what I said after this but I didn't make it awkward and we resumed interlocked arms and walking/talking with decent vibe.
Heres where I fuck up and start probing her about why she didn't want to kiss in a fairly socially adroit way without killing the vibe. But I think I should have just played it cool like nothing happened. She says she doesn't kiss friends and I tell her I don't think friends walk around arm in arm while getting to intimately know each other. I feel like here I started chasing basically, when I should have just stayed cool and tried to escalate the vibe more. I walk her back to the car and it starts raining so I take off my shirt so she doesn't get here hair wet and were walking in pouring rain. Since I don't have anywhere to touch her without it being awkward I put my hand on her butt and lead her as so while teasing her. We get back to her car and continue me semi chasing her/ probing her for intimacy.
It doesn't end in sex and I can't tell if it was because I was in the boyfriend category and she was playing hard to get, I was in the friendzone and she lets friends grab her ass and walk around arm in arm, or I was in the lover category and simply did a bad job escalating the vibe.
Can anyone help me figure out what category I put myself in? Any advice on where I fucked up, comments, and criticism is greatly appreciated
Pretty basic start. We meet up and walk to the restaurant. On our walk we pretty much resume the same vibe we had at the mall (semi sexy, and interested in one another) and are walking very magnetically close to one another, though not arm in arm, holding hand, etc. When we cross roads and enter the restaurant I lead her my the small of her back.
After eating we split the bill and decide to take a walk to the end of the pier that the road dead ends into. Once again we walk magnetically close to one another and when she asks me for a piece of gum I make her say please and give me a kiss on the cheek before giving it too her (idk if that's relevant but seemed like good investment at the time). She tells me how she usually swears like a sailor but hasn't said a cuss word since I met her, (is this also good investment? maybe shes trying to impress me?) although to put her at ease and not seem like a goodytwoshoe trying to be bf material I add the occasional well placed curse word. Lastly investment wise when the conversation falls, I don't rush in to try and keep it going and simply basque in the silence. Soon after she would fill these silences by asking me a question (Also good investment I think?).
Anyway we get half way to the end of the pier and I decide its time to gradually start escalating so I hold out my arm for her to hook hers into mine which of course she does. We keep walking and talking. This is the point where I have trouble escalating the vibe from social to sexual I simply don't know what to talk about to go the next step of escalating the vibe. Anyway we're talking about movies and I bring up the fact that since we met earlier the whole interaction has felt like a movie. She agrees and we keep walking and talking. The vibe is the same and I can feel it needs to build. We get to a grassy knoll under a street light and I say
Me: "Here, step up here with me this movie is going to the next scene" I lead her up and hold her close to my body with our bodys facing each other, pressing her pelvis into mine.
Her: Smiling, with her arms around me.
Me: "I think the next scene would look something like this" go in for kiss
Her: Turns cheek so I can't kiss her"
I forget what I said after this but I didn't make it awkward and we resumed interlocked arms and walking/talking with decent vibe.
Heres where I fuck up and start probing her about why she didn't want to kiss in a fairly socially adroit way without killing the vibe. But I think I should have just played it cool like nothing happened. She says she doesn't kiss friends and I tell her I don't think friends walk around arm in arm while getting to intimately know each other. I feel like here I started chasing basically, when I should have just stayed cool and tried to escalate the vibe more. I walk her back to the car and it starts raining so I take off my shirt so she doesn't get here hair wet and were walking in pouring rain. Since I don't have anywhere to touch her without it being awkward I put my hand on her butt and lead her as so while teasing her. We get back to her car and continue me semi chasing her/ probing her for intimacy.
It doesn't end in sex and I can't tell if it was because I was in the boyfriend category and she was playing hard to get, I was in the friendzone and she lets friends grab her ass and walk around arm in arm, or I was in the lover category and simply did a bad job escalating the vibe.
Can anyone help me figure out what category I put myself in? Any advice on where I fucked up, comments, and criticism is greatly appreciated
