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This is a Field report of this gorgeous girl I met at the mall 2 weeks ago.
[Approach} This happened 2 weeks ago so I'm unaware of the details
I currently work at a very popular mall where I do sales. Before my shift I actually walked around talking to a few people I was really cool with. Over the year I've grown to be carefree so I was actually doing subtle dance moves while strolling along the halls. As I'm walking I see this black girl give me a quick glance. She had a great body, attractive eyes, hearth-shaped face and about 5'8". She was wearing black leggings showing off her fat ass and a tight beige jacket hugging her tits. This girl was gorgeous. I should've approached then and there but I made an excuse about me preparing myself for work. So I start my shift and me working at the mall I see tons of hot babes walking all the time. On top of that It's friday and they're out and about showing off their goods. My coworker and I are pretty chill and he sees me stop and approach girls all the time.
So after a few hours of work I spot the black girl again. At the time my bro and I are discussing approaching girls and I say watch how easy it Is. I call to her
I grab her # and continue talking to her, building rapport then we eject conversation.
[Scheduling The Date] Now one of my weaknesses has to be my text game. I've had a series of #'s where I text the girl and she never replied, or she replies to my ice breaker text then when I hit her up again she doesn't respond.
I decided to try something different, waiting until the next moring to text her. I got her # at 8 on friday but didnt text her till noon on saturday
[The Flake] Looking back at it it wasn't really a flake but when she told me I was annoyed as hell. She texted me the day before saying her mom needed to use her car and she couldnt make it. I was super fucking annoyed with my history of getting flakey #'s but I played it cool saying I understand shit happens sometimes. I understand It's apart of the process to getting good so it's something i just need to work on
This happened on Wednesday and I didn't hit her up again until Sunday.
She didn't respod untill the next day and she gave me a shit test lmao
. Took note that she's putting me into the Bf role before we even meet up. This is key later on
[Date Night
]
So I get off work feeling like the shit. I just reached my sales goal for the day and knowing I had a date with a hottie I'm visualizing a grwat night ending in me fucking her brains out. I text her saying i'm gonna be late and she says she just left work and if i still wanted to meet her. I say yeah and tell her where to meet her. So i get to starbuck about 12 minutes late and she's not here. No biggie, ill just chill on my phone abit.
10 minutes later... Her
kay ill come over there rn (response to my previous text)
10 minutes later.... ( At this point i'm about to bounce and chill with this girl i've been dating for a bit but i text her first)
I then proceed to call her and it turns out she went to the wrong starbucks lmao. I text her my location and she gets there. I remain chill and tease her calling her a slowpoke.
Then she finally arrives damn near an hour late to our proposed time of 7 lol. I say fuck it and don't worry too much because she walks in looking like hot shit. She's wearing some nice jacket (can't remember the details) a tight casual skirt and open toed heel shoes. I'm thinking damn I don't remember her looking this bomb. Picture like Gabrielle Union in the face with a thick frame. However i don't let this get to my head, she's just a girl, cute and silly.
So we walk up to the register and she orders then I order on one bill. We look at each other and she expects me to pay lmao. I tell the cashier the situation and he laughs, then I eventually tell him to just split the charges. She looks at me surprised that I didn't pay for her drinks. Then I deliver chase's classic line:
I lead her outside and we sit. It's a bit chilly so i offer us going inside but she says no shes fine.We start conversation and shit is flowing smoothly. I tease her asking her age and then she responds wanting to know mine. I say it after a pause. In the past I would try to make her guess but got pretty bad results with it. I say my age then we proceed to continue. We continue abit with me deep diving about where she would like to live if she had the choice, where she's traveled to etc. At the same time i'm building up my value,yet remaining mysterious with semi-vague answers.
Then I ask her about her past relationships and she tells me Sand then I ask why she agreed to go on a date with me.
I use this dialect to my advantage saying he's super needy and weird and how she needs someone who can be chill yet fun at the same time. She agrees and proceeds to ask if i've been dating. I say i dated a girl and took her birginity but she got super needy so i ended it. Then out of nowhere she says how she was a virgin. This came as a huge shock to me since this girl is very pretty with a nice body so it was hard for me to believe. I say "no way" and she says how it's super true and that she want's to wait till marriage before having sex. I give her a hmm, okk look, not taking what she says at face-value
However, in my head I feel that I can make this work if I push ahead and go for a lay anyways. Next, I try to ask what she's done with other guys to which she doesn't comply. She avoids the subject and tries to switch the topic.
As this Is happening I try to start some Kino by grabbing her hand. I ask if she's ever known that you can track someone's life and love life through the lines on their hands (some bullshit to touch her) and then return it. It was super difficult to escalate tho as she was facing me in patio chairs and If i scooted towards her it would seem abit desperate. Boom, my mind comes up with an idea. Get her inside and sit side-by-side, too which I do and she agrees. We go inside and were talking some more and i initiate some leg touches, a few arm touches, shit of that nature. I feel like things might get a bit bland so I propose we go on an adventure. My plan for the date was Starbucks, park,then escalate so i wanted to follow through on that. Going back to my house wasn't much of an option since were like 15 minutes away and I didn't want to bother driving her back if I didn't get any pussy.
We get in my car, I tell her to put on some music and I head off not telling her where we're going. I was planning on driving to a hill at the top of the city with a spectacular ass view. There she would feel like she was in a romance novel with a sexy lover she just went on a date with. Once We got up there she's super down giving me fuck me eyes. I escalate for a bit and boom i'm fucking her brains out!
Sike... I changed my mind on the way and decide to go to a local park. The park is a bit dark as there's no one around and I tell her we should go for a walk since earlier she mentioned she loved the outdoors. She seems abit suspicious but she complies and follows my lead. We get to the playground and I tell her we should go on the swings. However she's in open toed shoes and doesn't want to walk. I suggest she get on my back and I'll carry her to which she shoots down and walks around. We get to the swings and I play dumb saying she should push me to which she declines (becoming a trend). She ends up sitting in a swing next to me and eventually I get up and push her. As i push her abit my hands feel her soft ass and I comment. I push again and deliberately grab her ass(making progress.)
Then I basically get stuck... Seeing how Cute eyes wasn't complying with my request I figure my attainability is too low. In the past on most of my dates girls thought I was some kind of player and they would auto-reject b/c they couldn't slot me as a boyfriend. In order to not let that happen on this date, I suggest we play 21 questions. She says no at first saying "she doesn't know me" and "she doesn't do 21 questions" (the fuck?) I try re-framing saying that "this is the whole point of the date" and in these 2 hours I guarantee you haven't talked to anyone about these subjects with in the first 2 hours you've met them. Cute eyes agrees and we play 21 question. I ask her why she is closed off and she says that's "who she is" blah blah blah. Things get interesting her:
When I say fuck each other's brains out she kind of gives me a *typical look* in a sense.
We continue playing this game when I figure I should at least try and kiss her since she's starting to be less resistant with me. However unlike what's recommend on the site I tell her what i'm about to do first. I actually forgot the dialougse since this was like 2 weeeks ago, but basically I signaled to her that I wanted to kiss her, too which she rejected. Then I tried pulling her in but she moves her head back lmao. ( I know I should've just went for it but too be honest I was cared of getting rejected. Maybe she would've been down had I jsut went for it outright.) She says she "doesn't kiss on the first date. I act unfased and continue talking. Then eventually I motion for us to leave back to my car. She's not going to do anything with me I figure.
However on the way back I try to save the night:
Then i motion her to come here, that I had to tell her something. She get's closer then I go for the kiss. She moves out of the way but admires it, saying that was a smooth try. We walk back to her car, get in, I drive her back to her car and call it a night. . As she's about to leave I try to get a kiss before she left to which she rejects again for like the 4th time haha.
I didn't text her saying "I had fun
or that other shit. I didn't get anywhere with her so I figure no need.
A few days later I hit her up for a 2nd meet up:
She's on some other shit this time however:
There's some minor details I left ouf but from my analysis I think this girl was interested in me but only as a boyfriend. From the constant qualifying and screening to not meeting up by my place It seemed obvious. Of course I could've done a much better job handling her objections and getting her to invest for, but frankly I didn't have these tools in my seduction arsenal.Also, I should,ve done a better job as qualifying myself as a lover. During the date when we taked about virginity I could've said how I fucked my ex and how much she enjoyed it and maybe get her to become more curious. For most of this date I was just trying shit to see what happens. As far as that text exchange I have no clue what that was about since she went from hot to cold that quickly. I'm assuming she was trying to friend zone me but that shit aint happening.
Key Takeaways:
Be more bold with my moves
Remain mysterious and deflect more questions
Learn better ways to gain investment
Get a clear picture on how to act like a lover not a provider
Screen early in the date (felt like me not screening her about what she really wants screwed me over in the end)
If you guys have some tips, advice, etc. let me know what I can do to fix my sticking points. Still pretty positive about my skills seeing how 3 months ago I wouldn't even have been able to go on a date with a girl like this.
This is a Field report of this gorgeous girl I met at the mall 2 weeks ago.
[Approach} This happened 2 weeks ago so I'm unaware of the details
I currently work at a very popular mall where I do sales. Before my shift I actually walked around talking to a few people I was really cool with. Over the year I've grown to be carefree so I was actually doing subtle dance moves while strolling along the halls. As I'm walking I see this black girl give me a quick glance. She had a great body, attractive eyes, hearth-shaped face and about 5'8". She was wearing black leggings showing off her fat ass and a tight beige jacket hugging her tits. This girl was gorgeous. I should've approached then and there but I made an excuse about me preparing myself for work. So I start my shift and me working at the mall I see tons of hot babes walking all the time. On top of that It's friday and they're out and about showing off their goods. My coworker and I are pretty chill and he sees me stop and approach girls all the time.
So after a few hours of work I spot the black girl again. At the time my bro and I are discussing approaching girls and I say watch how easy it Is. I call to her
We have this great vibe going on where we're both enjoying each other's company, she's laughing at my jokes and I can tell she's into me.I hook her asking about why she's at the mall alone and she says she just got off work. I'm flirting with her teasing and I actually go for an early # grab. Normally i wait 5 minutes or so but I wanted to test out doing it within a minute or two of talking.ME:Miss!
Her: (looks towards me and we meet each other with my eyes)
Me: (use a nonverbal motioning her to come here)(she complies)
I saw you walking earlier and thought you were incredibly cute and I just had to say hi, I'm Brandoan.
Her: Hey im Cute eyes!
Me: You seem super chill, we should get food sometime
Her: (pauses) sure!
Me: great, when are you free?
I grab her # and continue talking to her, building rapport then we eject conversation.
[Scheduling The Date] Now one of my weaknesses has to be my text game. I've had a series of #'s where I text the girl and she never replied, or she replies to my ice breaker text then when I hit her up again she doesn't respond.
I decided to try something different, waiting until the next moring to text her. I got her # at 8 on friday but didnt text her till noon on saturday
I text her 2 days later. Asking her when she's free and we decide to set things up for thursday night do get Tacos.Me:hey its brandoan, (smiling emoji) save my #
Her: Oh hey! I'll make sure to save it
[The Flake] Looking back at it it wasn't really a flake but when she told me I was annoyed as hell. She texted me the day before saying her mom needed to use her car and she couldnt make it. I was super fucking annoyed with my history of getting flakey #'s but I played it cool saying I understand shit happens sometimes. I understand It's apart of the process to getting good so it's something i just need to work on
This happened on Wednesday and I didn't hit her up again until Sunday.
We set up the date for Friday at 7 pretty close to our jobs. I was thinking If I should set it up closer to my house but i just went with this idea. Later That week i send a text to make sure she doesnt flake again but she seems super stoked to meet upYo, Cute Eyes what you been up too?
Her: Noo nothing just working
Me: you and me both (random emoji). Hey you down to get Starbucks this week
Her: I'm always down for starbucks
Me: wasup stranger,seeing if we're still good for tommorow
Her: hey & yes we def Are (great sign here) i'm just going to get off work and go straight there
Me: Alright great & since your so close you cant be late lol
Her: lol what time again? I'll probably beat you there lol
Me: 7 just make sure whoever is late has to buy drinks
Her: lol well im off at 6 so it'll def be you
Me: guess well just have to wait and find out![]()
She didn't respod untill the next day and she gave me a shit test lmao
I like this girlHer: true either way your buying though
[Date Night
So I get off work feeling like the shit. I just reached my sales goal for the day and knowing I had a date with a hottie I'm visualizing a grwat night ending in me fucking her brains out. I text her saying i'm gonna be late and she says she just left work and if i still wanted to meet her. I say yeah and tell her where to meet her. So i get to starbuck about 12 minutes late and she's not here. No biggie, ill just chill on my phone abit.
10 minutes later... Her
10 minutes later.... ( At this point i'm about to bounce and chill with this girl i've been dating for a bit but i text her first)
Me: still coming?
Her: yeah you there
me:yeah
her:kk im walking over
Her:where are you. i'm leaving in like 2 seconds
I then proceed to call her and it turns out she went to the wrong starbucks lmao. I text her my location and she gets there. I remain chill and tease her calling her a slowpoke.
Then she finally arrives damn near an hour late to our proposed time of 7 lol. I say fuck it and don't worry too much because she walks in looking like hot shit. She's wearing some nice jacket (can't remember the details) a tight casual skirt and open toed heel shoes. I'm thinking damn I don't remember her looking this bomb. Picture like Gabrielle Union in the face with a thick frame. However i don't let this get to my head, she's just a girl, cute and silly.
ME: you finally made it, it's a miracle.
Her: shut up, i didn't know where to go!
Me: you know what that means?
Her: i'm not buying drinks!
So we walk up to the register and she orders then I order on one bill. We look at each other and she expects me to pay lmao. I tell the cashier the situation and he laughs, then I eventually tell him to just split the charges. She looks at me surprised that I didn't pay for her drinks. Then I deliver chase's classic line:
That's for girlfriends only, (with a wink
Her: Girlfriend's only? (surprised look) hmmm..
I lead her outside and we sit. It's a bit chilly so i offer us going inside but she says no shes fine.We start conversation and shit is flowing smoothly. I tease her asking her age and then she responds wanting to know mine. I say it after a pause. In the past I would try to make her guess but got pretty bad results with it. I say my age then we proceed to continue. We continue abit with me deep diving about where she would like to live if she had the choice, where she's traveled to etc. At the same time i'm building up my value,yet remaining mysterious with semi-vague answers.
Then I ask her about her past relationships and she tells me Sand then I ask why she agreed to go on a date with me.
She tells me how some guy seemed super cool till he started getting needy. She says he was on all kinds of drugs and she really didn't want to be with him but was being nice. After, she says he tried to hit her up saying he missed her shit like that. It's funny talking to girls how majority of guys cant do anything that is taught on this site.Me: So why did you agree to go out with me?
Her: because, anyone with the balls to approach me like that, I have to at least say yes!
Me: so when was the last time you went on a date?
I use this dialect to my advantage saying he's super needy and weird and how she needs someone who can be chill yet fun at the same time. She agrees and proceeds to ask if i've been dating. I say i dated a girl and took her birginity but she got super needy so i ended it. Then out of nowhere she says how she was a virgin. This came as a huge shock to me since this girl is very pretty with a nice body so it was hard for me to believe. I say "no way" and she says how it's super true and that she want's to wait till marriage before having sex. I give her a hmm, okk look, not taking what she says at face-value
However, in my head I feel that I can make this work if I push ahead and go for a lay anyways. Next, I try to ask what she's done with other guys to which she doesn't comply. She avoids the subject and tries to switch the topic.
As this Is happening I try to start some Kino by grabbing her hand. I ask if she's ever known that you can track someone's life and love life through the lines on their hands (some bullshit to touch her) and then return it. It was super difficult to escalate tho as she was facing me in patio chairs and If i scooted towards her it would seem abit desperate. Boom, my mind comes up with an idea. Get her inside and sit side-by-side, too which I do and she agrees. We go inside and were talking some more and i initiate some leg touches, a few arm touches, shit of that nature. I feel like things might get a bit bland so I propose we go on an adventure. My plan for the date was Starbucks, park,then escalate so i wanted to follow through on that. Going back to my house wasn't much of an option since were like 15 minutes away and I didn't want to bother driving her back if I didn't get any pussy.
We get in my car, I tell her to put on some music and I head off not telling her where we're going. I was planning on driving to a hill at the top of the city with a spectacular ass view. There she would feel like she was in a romance novel with a sexy lover she just went on a date with. Once We got up there she's super down giving me fuck me eyes. I escalate for a bit and boom i'm fucking her brains out!
Sike... I changed my mind on the way and decide to go to a local park. The park is a bit dark as there's no one around and I tell her we should go for a walk since earlier she mentioned she loved the outdoors. She seems abit suspicious but she complies and follows my lead. We get to the playground and I tell her we should go on the swings. However she's in open toed shoes and doesn't want to walk. I suggest she get on my back and I'll carry her to which she shoots down and walks around. We get to the swings and I play dumb saying she should push me to which she declines (becoming a trend). She ends up sitting in a swing next to me and eventually I get up and push her. As i push her abit my hands feel her soft ass and I comment. I push again and deliberately grab her ass(making progress.)
Then I basically get stuck... Seeing how Cute eyes wasn't complying with my request I figure my attainability is too low. In the past on most of my dates girls thought I was some kind of player and they would auto-reject b/c they couldn't slot me as a boyfriend. In order to not let that happen on this date, I suggest we play 21 questions. She says no at first saying "she doesn't know me" and "she doesn't do 21 questions" (the fuck?) I try re-framing saying that "this is the whole point of the date" and in these 2 hours I guarantee you haven't talked to anyone about these subjects with in the first 2 hours you've met them. Cute eyes agrees and we play 21 question. I ask her why she is closed off and she says that's "who she is" blah blah blah. Things get interesting her:
Cute eyes: This question will really let me know where you stand
Me: Go ahead
Her: What Is your idea of a great date? (qualifying me)
ME: First we wake up make breakfast have sex, go out to do something fun, then go on a romantic dinner, go back home, and fuck each other's brains out
When I say fuck each other's brains out she kind of gives me a *typical look* in a sense.
We continue playing this game when I figure I should at least try and kiss her since she's starting to be less resistant with me. However unlike what's recommend on the site I tell her what i'm about to do first. I actually forgot the dialougse since this was like 2 weeeks ago, but basically I signaled to her that I wanted to kiss her, too which she rejected. Then I tried pulling her in but she moves her head back lmao. ( I know I should've just went for it but too be honest I was cared of getting rejected. Maybe she would've been down had I jsut went for it outright.) She says she "doesn't kiss on the first date. I act unfased and continue talking. Then eventually I motion for us to leave back to my car. She's not going to do anything with me I figure.
However on the way back I try to save the night:
ME: you know there's one thing about me I didn't tell you.
Her: what?
Me: I always go for what I want.
Then i motion her to come here, that I had to tell her something. She get's closer then I go for the kiss. She moves out of the way but admires it, saying that was a smooth try. We walk back to her car, get in, I drive her back to her car and call it a night. . As she's about to leave I try to get a kiss before she left to which she rejects again for like the 4th time haha.
I didn't text her saying "I had fun
A few days later I hit her up for a 2nd meet up:
WE have a few more logistics texts and we agree for friday againMe: Hey sweetie, wanted us to get tacos later this week, you down?
Her: yeah sure what day you feelin?
Me: Maybe tomorrow or Thursday. Which one works for you?
Her: I work both days!
Me: wb this weekend then. Friday night or sunday im free. You can buy me tacos then
Her: Keep thinking I;m one of the girls you usually talk to and you dont need to treat this date like a gentleman If you want to & watch me disappear
Me: IT was a joke you got to chill. Which day works for you?
She's on some other shit this time however:
ME: Hey cutenesswere gonna meet at 7 tomorrow, cool
Her: Meet?
ME: yea
Her: where
ME(the city I live in)
Her: Not happening
ME: Y not? didn't we want to get tacos
Her: As friends or something else
ME: Well, I have plenty of friends
Her: same
Me: Just hmu if you change your mind
Her: I wont
There's some minor details I left ouf but from my analysis I think this girl was interested in me but only as a boyfriend. From the constant qualifying and screening to not meeting up by my place It seemed obvious. Of course I could've done a much better job handling her objections and getting her to invest for, but frankly I didn't have these tools in my seduction arsenal.Also, I should,ve done a better job as qualifying myself as a lover. During the date when we taked about virginity I could've said how I fucked my ex and how much she enjoyed it and maybe get her to become more curious. For most of this date I was just trying shit to see what happens. As far as that text exchange I have no clue what that was about since she went from hot to cold that quickly. I'm assuming she was trying to friend zone me but that shit aint happening.
Key Takeaways:
Be more bold with my moves
Remain mysterious and deflect more questions
Learn better ways to gain investment
Get a clear picture on how to act like a lover not a provider
Screen early in the date (felt like me not screening her about what she really wants screwed me over in the end)
If you guys have some tips, advice, etc. let me know what I can do to fix my sticking points. Still pretty positive about my skills seeing how 3 months ago I wouldn't even have been able to go on a date with a girl like this.