FR--: Learning Lessons - Advice Welcome

[TheEcho]

Hey gents!

This approach was pretty short, but a ton happened with it (and I was in a really good head-space) so I figured I'd post it incase anyone sees things to tweak (or reinforce, always a good thing ^.^). She said no, which gives me the chance to share how I respond (which I feel could be a million times better). Note: I tried to use Drexel's opener, botched it a little, but it was definitely fun!

I saw this really cute Asian walking on the sidewalk as I was parking to drop off a delivery (Postmates). I took care of the work stuff as fast as I could and caught up to her. During the interaction, I was relatively animated, and tried to keep a closed mouth grin, but occasionally fully smiled (it was an entertaining, lighthearted interaction). I don't recall much about my eye contact, so I don't think a strong, sexy gaze was present. Here we go!

• Me: Excuse me! (she was too entranced in her phone) *gets right to her side* "Hey (pause) I had a question for you, it's kind of random but...how are you with taking compliments from strangers? (<-botched it lol)
  Her: ummm...
  Me: Are you good with it? (redeemed)
  Her: Uhh, yeah I guess haha
  Me: Cool, I am too. You go first, and then I'll say mine...(I held a big grin, like I was about to burst out laughing {which I was}, which eventually opened into a smile)
  Her: (after like 10 seconds of her autopilot dive bombing into the ground) Uhhh haha, you're really friendly? Haha
  Me: Thanks, and I really like your style! What's your name?
  Her: Tiffany, what's yours? (she keeps looking at her phone)
  Me: I'm Josh, I thought you were really cute and I wanted to come say hi. Are you a student at [blank]?
  Tiffany: Uhh, yeah (a little confused)
  Me: Hey, are you meeting someone?
  Tiffany: Uhhh (looks at her phone and shows me a mass of texts), no, but i have a ton going on.
  Me: Ah, well which college are you in?
  Tiffany: [College] (still confused)
  Me: Cool, what year are you?
  Tiffany: Third year
  Me: Ooh...
  Tiffany: (before I could say more) Are you at [blank]?
  Me: Not anymore, I'd be a fourth year, but life took a different path. I was in [college] so I'd pass through [her college] all the time
  Tiffany: Ohhh okay! (suddenly not confused, but keeps looking at her phone)
  (asked about her living on campus or not blah blah blah)
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  Here's where a lot of what I normally do came out, so this is stuff that I use occasionally, so any advice is definitely welcome
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  Me: Yeah, hey you seem really busy, you can go if you have to
  Tiffany: (Doesn't really answer, but stays)
  Me: Since you're so busy right now, how about we hang out some time?
  Tiffany: Uhhh.....ehhh...(antsy in a college Asian girl way)
  Me: Don't worry, you're not on the hot seat haha (definitely feel like this is something that should be changed). I thought you were cute and figured I'd see about getting to know you better.
  Tiffany: Ehhhh...yeah....I have to say no haha (didn't give a reason, but then again I just flopped out with the above...)
  Me: No worries, it was nice meeting you! Tiffany, right? (shakes her hand again)
  Tiffany: Yeah! Jjjoshhhhhh...?
  Me: Yeah, good memory *smiles and walks off to my car*

Any and all tips are fully welcome, especially on those end parts, which I use a lot.

Thanks guys!
Josh

 

[WayOfHand]

Your interaction is relatively short. Are you in a rush or why wont you try to get some more good vibes going on. Like walk a little or something.

You need insane fundamentals to bring the interaction to an end this fast. Or you risk having infernally low number to date rate. Or no numbers at all.

Try creating more warmth and safety. After all you are a guy she just met. If she really doesn't seem too interested after a while just accept it and find more suitable girl.

 

[Ambiance]

erpiaosn-

Drexel is pretty advanced with women. He probably uses that line pretty authoritatively, and almost for sure very smoothly. I wouldn't worry about making your approach so much of a game. Just use something more like Chase's direct opener

Hi there, (slight pause, squint your eyes at her as if you were teasing your younger sister, maybe throw on a mischievious smile) I saw you walking and I just had to come say hi- (now get more serious) you have the most dazzling smile/ a terrific sense of fashion/ this perfect blend of sexy and cute that totally works. (Finally a warm, confident, sexy smile) I'm Josh

If you want to go gamey, try Ricardus' "Are you single", followed by a direct opener after addressing her response. Done right, it's potent. Also, not every girl is going to be into you, no matter how good you get. Just get comfortable being direct without being so overly friendly. Get her to chase you.

Hope that helps.

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