the short version:
street stop hot pole dancer. not good interaction but exchanged details. via app she unexpectedly starts sending pics and vids which are not erotic per se, but quite hot nevertheless.
skip to the end - "so my questions are these:"
the long version:
i been away for a long time. had a couple of biggish events this year so haven't really focused at all on girls. i still read the articles but haven't visited the forum for months.i haven't fucked a new girl since january, although haven't really needed to with plenty of repeat customers and a couple of old flames from two years ago recycled into my life. but still it's not like i'm NOT looking. anyway
i've been going through some 'inner game issues" which, i don't really like that term but what i've come to realize is that you have "inner game issues" when you find there's a problem in your life that needs working on, and until you solve it you'll keep feeling bad. therefore you will always have IGIs because you'll always keep growing and assessing where you are in life, judging yourself and pushing yourself
anyway i might flesh that out into an actual post but where it pertains to this FR is that i have been having serious doubts when approaching, due to my advancing age and the majority of cuter girls being "too young for me".
last sunday i was more determined than usual, i went cruising around for a couple of hours but weasled out of talking to any girls i saw. my mindset has started to be what is this child gonna think when this old hairy dude starts flirting with her?
now, i'm fit, well presented, reasonably good looking, etc and look 5+ years younger than 41, but, nevertheless - what is this child gonna think when this old hairy dude starts flirting with her?
so i'm cruising around, finally one girl who is acceptably un-hot and un-young lol i'm doing her a disservice, a beautiful girl but imperfect teeth. she and her friend on the way to see a talk about existentialism and we chatted about stephen hawking and alan watts and christopher hitchens.
then the traffic lights changed and they walked off. i called "hey hang on a sec!" but they took off!
almost back to my home i spot a really cute girl who is just my type. petite, tanned, looks kinda guarded.
i weasled and drove around twice, then i stopped ahead of her and when she walked past i said "excuse me" and started talking to her saying "i just saw a cute girl in the street and wondered why she looked sad."
couple minutes in i moved her further along the pavement and into a more appropriate place for us to talk. this girl is very hot, but probably doesn't think so, but she must get attention from men. she's a dance instructor/student and does pole dancing. great!
so i have a somewhat stilted conversation, i think i shot for an idate which was rejected, bumbled through it and got her details. but when i ended the interaction she had a look on her face like a mixture of WTF? and disappointment.
clearly i'm not on form but the language was a problem.
couple hours later she texts:
" hi lao che. i am very fond of [name] buddha. he said "no matter who you meet, if a man should appear into your life, it is not an accident. he will teach you somewhat"
so i think i'm in like flynn here! i wanna send a gif of master oogway saying "there are no accidents", which i think is perfect but i could only find a still image. no reply. next day
me: gotta love kung fu panda
me: i think buddha also said "a man should appear in your life - buy that man 12 beers and a sandwich"
her: smiley face
me: ha i'm glad we see eye to eye. how's this miserable rainy day treating you?
her: i like rainy days {bla bla}
short convo. later i try to re-initiate, no reply.
next day it rains super hard so i shoot her a message about how she's loving it. smiley face reply and then i send a gif of some dude saying "wanna make out in the rain?" she says, "of course yes but { blabla busy schedule}" but i think she didn't understand it. i reply "yeah i'm at work too! and anyway the rain has stopped"
no reply.
next day i open with "hello" and that little dancer smiley. she responds with a picture which i'm saving and if i ever decide to jerk off again that picture's what i'm gonna be looking at. i almost wanna post it here, words can't do it justice. not a naked pic though.
"class just finished. very tired"
"waking from my map to find sexy pictures on my phone not bad. keep trying "
(i actually was napping. and i actually did write map. so fuck knows what she thinks when her phone app translates "waking from a map.")
her:
me: only a smile? but no smile in your selfie
her: bad mood
me: uhoh! everybody watch out! [name] is in a bad mood!
then i sent some head explosion gifs. she replies with some dude falling on his face so i send this gif of some black dude in a hotel laughing his ass off then he goes to put his foot on a chair so he can lean his elbow on his knee, all cool like, and his foot misses the chair.
it's so funny. every time i see it i laugh out loud.
me: did you fall down in dance class? is that why your mood is bad? you fell on your pretty face
her: many factors
then she says something about sleep and i'm like oh you're going to bed? (8.30 pm) and she doesn't reply. hmm so that was weird
then, after midnight, a selfie and 2 videos get delivered under my christmas tree. WTF?
the vids are of her dancing/acting in the street. in the second vid she's screaming in frustration and then making to leap off a bridge.
next day -
me: don't jump! life is good!
her: can you understand what i said?
me: "if that charming englishman doesn't ask me on a date i shall jump off a bridge!"
(turns out it was a pretty close "guess". she's saying sth like "oh heaven send a handsome man into my life")
again, no response. and again, after midnight, a present waiting for me under the video tree. this time a short vid of she and her dancemates stretching in front of a mirror, waving to the camera hahahaha WTF
so next day, today
me: [her name} and her flexible friends
her: chuckle smileys
me: not bad. need more face pics without the pink hearts (she'd hidden her face behind a pink heart in the still pic she sent)
no reply. and that's that. i guess we'll see after midnight. maybe she's a gremlin.
so my questions are these:
i view sending pictures as a large form of investment. am i wrong? esp just out of the blue without me suggesting it.
is this just how people communicate these days? is this how our culture is becoming?
i say this because it's not the first time a girl has behaved this way with me. it seems almost throw-away now, to just send images and vids of yourself to any rando, like almost worthless. not really an investment at all.
my second question is: i'm forgetting the GC fundamentals. i've gotten super lazy with girls and had to remind myself to have fun more often rather than just expect a girl to be immediately DTF or not
move fast
chase frame
get investment
deep dive
any more?
street stop hot pole dancer. not good interaction but exchanged details. via app she unexpectedly starts sending pics and vids which are not erotic per se, but quite hot nevertheless.
skip to the end - "so my questions are these:"
the long version:
i been away for a long time. had a couple of biggish events this year so haven't really focused at all on girls. i still read the articles but haven't visited the forum for months.i haven't fucked a new girl since january, although haven't really needed to with plenty of repeat customers and a couple of old flames from two years ago recycled into my life. but still it's not like i'm NOT looking. anyway
i've been going through some 'inner game issues" which, i don't really like that term but what i've come to realize is that you have "inner game issues" when you find there's a problem in your life that needs working on, and until you solve it you'll keep feeling bad. therefore you will always have IGIs because you'll always keep growing and assessing where you are in life, judging yourself and pushing yourself
anyway i might flesh that out into an actual post but where it pertains to this FR is that i have been having serious doubts when approaching, due to my advancing age and the majority of cuter girls being "too young for me".
last sunday i was more determined than usual, i went cruising around for a couple of hours but weasled out of talking to any girls i saw. my mindset has started to be what is this child gonna think when this old hairy dude starts flirting with her?
now, i'm fit, well presented, reasonably good looking, etc and look 5+ years younger than 41, but, nevertheless - what is this child gonna think when this old hairy dude starts flirting with her?
so i'm cruising around, finally one girl who is acceptably un-hot and un-young lol i'm doing her a disservice, a beautiful girl but imperfect teeth. she and her friend on the way to see a talk about existentialism and we chatted about stephen hawking and alan watts and christopher hitchens.
then the traffic lights changed and they walked off. i called "hey hang on a sec!" but they took off!
almost back to my home i spot a really cute girl who is just my type. petite, tanned, looks kinda guarded.
i weasled and drove around twice, then i stopped ahead of her and when she walked past i said "excuse me" and started talking to her saying "i just saw a cute girl in the street and wondered why she looked sad."
couple minutes in i moved her further along the pavement and into a more appropriate place for us to talk. this girl is very hot, but probably doesn't think so, but she must get attention from men. she's a dance instructor/student and does pole dancing. great!
so i have a somewhat stilted conversation, i think i shot for an idate which was rejected, bumbled through it and got her details. but when i ended the interaction she had a look on her face like a mixture of WTF? and disappointment.
clearly i'm not on form but the language was a problem.
couple hours later she texts:
" hi lao che. i am very fond of [name] buddha. he said "no matter who you meet, if a man should appear into your life, it is not an accident. he will teach you somewhat"
so i think i'm in like flynn here! i wanna send a gif of master oogway saying "there are no accidents", which i think is perfect but i could only find a still image. no reply. next day
me: gotta love kung fu panda
me: i think buddha also said "a man should appear in your life - buy that man 12 beers and a sandwich"
her: smiley face
me: ha i'm glad we see eye to eye. how's this miserable rainy day treating you?
her: i like rainy days {bla bla}
short convo. later i try to re-initiate, no reply.
next day it rains super hard so i shoot her a message about how she's loving it. smiley face reply and then i send a gif of some dude saying "wanna make out in the rain?" she says, "of course yes but { blabla busy schedule}" but i think she didn't understand it. i reply "yeah i'm at work too! and anyway the rain has stopped"
no reply.
next day i open with "hello" and that little dancer smiley. she responds with a picture which i'm saving and if i ever decide to jerk off again that picture's what i'm gonna be looking at. i almost wanna post it here, words can't do it justice. not a naked pic though.
"class just finished. very tired"
"waking from my map to find sexy pictures on my phone
not bad. keep trying "(i actually was napping. and i actually did write map. so fuck knows what she thinks when her phone app translates "waking from a map.")
her:
me: only a smile? but no smile in your selfie
her: bad mood
me: uhoh! everybody watch out! [name] is in a bad mood!
then i sent some head explosion gifs. she replies with some dude falling on his face so i send this gif of some black dude in a hotel laughing his ass off then he goes to put his foot on a chair so he can lean his elbow on his knee, all cool like, and his foot misses the chair.
it's so funny. every time i see it i laugh out loud.
me: did you fall down in dance class? is that why your mood is bad? you fell on your pretty face
her: many factors
then she says something about sleep and i'm like oh you're going to bed? (8.30 pm) and she doesn't reply. hmm so that was weird
then, after midnight, a selfie and 2 videos get delivered under my christmas tree. WTF?
the vids are of her dancing/acting in the street. in the second vid she's screaming in frustration and then making to leap off a bridge.
next day -
me: don't jump! life is good!
her: can you understand what i said?
me: "if that charming englishman doesn't ask me on a date i shall jump off a bridge!"
(turns out it was a pretty close "guess". she's saying sth like "oh heaven send a handsome man into my life")
again, no response. and again, after midnight, a present waiting for me under the video tree. this time a short vid of she and her dancemates stretching in front of a mirror, waving to the camera hahahaha WTF
so next day, today
me: [her name} and her flexible friends
her: chuckle smileys
me: not bad. need more face pics without the pink hearts (she'd hidden her face behind a pink heart in the still pic she sent)
no reply. and that's that. i guess we'll see after midnight. maybe she's a gremlin.
so my questions are these:
i view sending pictures as a large form of investment. am i wrong? esp just out of the blue without me suggesting it.
is this just how people communicate these days? is this how our culture is becoming?
i say this because it's not the first time a girl has behaved this way with me. it seems almost throw-away now, to just send images and vids of yourself to any rando, like almost worthless. not really an investment at all.
my second question is: i'm forgetting the GC fundamentals. i've gotten super lazy with girls and had to remind myself to have fun more often rather than just expect a girl to be immediately DTF or not
move fast
chase frame
get investment
deep dive
any more?
