Frame Control: How should I have handled this?

[andersen09]

Just to get clear, my style of game is very under the radar and subtle.
So with that being frame of mind, something small happened that was unexpected today.

I was playfully teasing a girl in my class secretly saying "Teletubby taught you well " because she happened to be wearing all red today and very adorable. Anyways, she told me she had no idea what those were as she was from another country. Long story short, I took out my phone and was showing it to her on my screen, when out of nowhere some girl just randomly interrupts our conversation and goes

"Those things were so fucking creepy when I was young"

Now mind you, she had no idea in what context I was showing her this picture for, and just interrupted as she's one of my friends also.

But the thing was as soon as she framed it as "creepy", our vibe we had of playful and teasing vibe went to a bit of a "shameful" vibe as the girl thought she was being compared to a creepy little doll, which isn't really great.

I recognized this and tried to say "No they were actually pretty adorable"
Which she counters with "No I'm sorry but they're fucking creepy, I can't stand those things" as she also has a very strong personality.

Anyways, what I wanted to ask was, how could this situation have been handled when a girl is framing things unfavorably towards the game i play.

As I believe my weakest point is frame control in a public setting, but I rarely counter them due to such a subtle and discrete style of game I play.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Give her a look of disgust, like this:

The other girl will pick up on it. Also, delay your response for a few seconds or even outright ignore her if the other girl doesn't turn towards her. Only when the girl you're talking to acknowledges someone do you *need* to acknowledge the interruptor.

You can also joke, "well, we know who the buzzkill of the group is now." Or even more confrontationally, "Who asked you?" Your game might be under the radar, but conflict is conflict.

If you let her ruin the vibe, the girl will doubt your ability to handle conflict. There's nothing wrong with temporarily losing your cool to put down someone, as long as it's controlled.

Hector

 

[andersen09]

If you let her ruin the vibe, the girl will doubt your ability to handle conflict. There's nothing wrong with temporarily losing your cool to put down someone, as long as it's controlled.

Hector

Thanks Hector!