Hi GC,
I'm a college student and just started my spring classes two weeks ago. When I walked into one of my classes for the first time, I saw a really cute girl. As I walked to a chair she stared into my eyes. I mean, THE stare. I've only ever seen that from people I've ended up dating and girls at clubs who want to dance dirty. So after class I approached her and we talked, and talked, and talked, for about a 30 minutes. This was a good sign. We added each other on Facebook right then.
A day after that I asked her a question about if she got into a class she wanted (something we were talking about the previous day), and then the conversation just took off and we talked about all sorts of other random stuff--her often having the last word in a sequence of messages. So that night I asked her to coffee the next day and she said yes and that she'd see me tomorrow (with an exclamation point).
The next day she moved seats in two classes we share to sit next to me, and then after class when we went to coffee we talked for 3 hours before we realized it was late. Things seemed to be going well so when we said goodbye, I gave her a hug and told her I had fun and that we should grab lunch or dinner sometime. She hugged back, but it all felt a little awkward.
We didn't share any classes the next day, and didn't text much. And the day after that when we had class she was still sitting next to me and I caught her looking at me out of the corner of her eye quite often during class. We talked some more, but goodbye was weird yet again--I feel like she expected more than just a "Bye, I have to go this way." from me, but after the weird hug, I wanted to play it cool.
I messaged later that night, but the conversation was rather sparse and strange, and the next day I messaged her and apologized for perhaps coming off too forward after coffee. She said she hadn't known how to read that, and "thinks that she sees me as a future best friend." Then our conversation suddenly became easier, and the text messages flowed better.
Since then, when we've seen each other in person, she's continued to do things that unsettle me and make me think there's possibly more to it: she still sits close to me, and just as before, laughs at all my jokes, whispers things in my ear, leans towards me. She also sits close to another of her male friends and she doesn't do any of this for him. Also, when we're not in class, we still talk about random stuff, she teases me in a playful way and when I'm talking she always gives me her full attention. Also, she's very physically and mentally comfortable with me: personal space doesn't matter, touching her arm doesn't phase her, and for someone she just met recently, she always just trusts me with her handbag and other valuables.
My gut tells me she said the thing about friends to slow things down or because there's some external reason why it wouldn't be acceptable for us to date. I have best friends who are girls, and let's just say it's taken years to be half as comfortable with me as this girl I met two weeks ago.
I'd really like to hear some other opinions on this and how I should proceed. I think if she's into me, I have a small window to make my move, otherwise, we will just be friends.
I'm a college student and just started my spring classes two weeks ago. When I walked into one of my classes for the first time, I saw a really cute girl. As I walked to a chair she stared into my eyes. I mean, THE stare. I've only ever seen that from people I've ended up dating and girls at clubs who want to dance dirty. So after class I approached her and we talked, and talked, and talked, for about a 30 minutes. This was a good sign. We added each other on Facebook right then.
A day after that I asked her a question about if she got into a class she wanted (something we were talking about the previous day), and then the conversation just took off and we talked about all sorts of other random stuff--her often having the last word in a sequence of messages. So that night I asked her to coffee the next day and she said yes and that she'd see me tomorrow (with an exclamation point).
The next day she moved seats in two classes we share to sit next to me, and then after class when we went to coffee we talked for 3 hours before we realized it was late. Things seemed to be going well so when we said goodbye, I gave her a hug and told her I had fun and that we should grab lunch or dinner sometime. She hugged back, but it all felt a little awkward.
We didn't share any classes the next day, and didn't text much. And the day after that when we had class she was still sitting next to me and I caught her looking at me out of the corner of her eye quite often during class. We talked some more, but goodbye was weird yet again--I feel like she expected more than just a "Bye, I have to go this way." from me, but after the weird hug, I wanted to play it cool.
I messaged later that night, but the conversation was rather sparse and strange, and the next day I messaged her and apologized for perhaps coming off too forward after coffee. She said she hadn't known how to read that, and "thinks that she sees me as a future best friend." Then our conversation suddenly became easier, and the text messages flowed better.
Since then, when we've seen each other in person, she's continued to do things that unsettle me and make me think there's possibly more to it: she still sits close to me, and just as before, laughs at all my jokes, whispers things in my ear, leans towards me. She also sits close to another of her male friends and she doesn't do any of this for him. Also, when we're not in class, we still talk about random stuff, she teases me in a playful way and when I'm talking she always gives me her full attention. Also, she's very physically and mentally comfortable with me: personal space doesn't matter, touching her arm doesn't phase her, and for someone she just met recently, she always just trusts me with her handbag and other valuables.
My gut tells me she said the thing about friends to slow things down or because there's some external reason why it wouldn't be acceptable for us to date. I have best friends who are girls, and let's just say it's taken years to be half as comfortable with me as this girl I met two weeks ago.
I'd really like to hear some other opinions on this and how I should proceed. I think if she's into me, I have a small window to make my move, otherwise, we will just be friends.
