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Background:
Introduced my live-in girlfriend of 3+ years to a younger female friend whom she immediately felt threatened by. My feelings for my gf were in flux at the time: I was applying to graduate school, and she wasn't supportive of me attending school outside of the city we currently lived in; I didn't want to limit my options, however. One night I was on assignment in my female friend's home city. We grabbed drinks, got extremely intoxicated, and she then passed out in my hotel room. Nothing happened: I didn't escalate or make a move, we didn't even pass-out in the same bed.
Perception is everything, though, and upon realizing she had passed out in my hotel room, my female friend called her boyfriend. He was livid and called my gf. I didn't have time to keep dealing with my ex's worst fears, and I didn't feel like I had wronged her, so I just ended the relationship rather than waste anymore time on it. The female friend's bf asked me to stop talking to her, and I respected his wish.
The day after ending my long-term relationship, I moved to a new city and followed Chase's remedy for getting over long-term break-ups and went out 3-5 nights a week for several months. I entered a long-standing competition with my single friends to see who could slay 10 new women and, six months later, I won the bet.
Current Situation:
I still want to remain on good terms with my female friend for professional reasons (objective 1) and because she's attractive (objective 2, admittedly). We haven't spoke in a long time, though, and I just learned two disturbing facts:
1. My ex calls her for weekly complaint sessions, which she's kept up over several months, about me .
2. She travelled to visit my ex and posted pictures on Facebook with my ex and her new bf. This is the same ex that thought she was the satan incarnate only a few months ago.
Question:
Should I shun my female friend, too, or tell her I think she's out of line for talking to my ex and then posting on social media? I had deleted my ex from Facebook and I only learned of the pictures because my friend posted them from her account.
Background:
Introduced my live-in girlfriend of 3+ years to a younger female friend whom she immediately felt threatened by. My feelings for my gf were in flux at the time: I was applying to graduate school, and she wasn't supportive of me attending school outside of the city we currently lived in; I didn't want to limit my options, however. One night I was on assignment in my female friend's home city. We grabbed drinks, got extremely intoxicated, and she then passed out in my hotel room. Nothing happened: I didn't escalate or make a move, we didn't even pass-out in the same bed.
Perception is everything, though, and upon realizing she had passed out in my hotel room, my female friend called her boyfriend. He was livid and called my gf. I didn't have time to keep dealing with my ex's worst fears, and I didn't feel like I had wronged her, so I just ended the relationship rather than waste anymore time on it. The female friend's bf asked me to stop talking to her, and I respected his wish.
The day after ending my long-term relationship, I moved to a new city and followed Chase's remedy for getting over long-term break-ups and went out 3-5 nights a week for several months. I entered a long-standing competition with my single friends to see who could slay 10 new women and, six months later, I won the bet.
Current Situation:
I still want to remain on good terms with my female friend for professional reasons (objective 1) and because she's attractive (objective 2, admittedly). We haven't spoke in a long time, though, and I just learned two disturbing facts:
1. My ex calls her for weekly complaint sessions, which she's kept up over several months, about me .
2. She travelled to visit my ex and posted pictures on Facebook with my ex and her new bf. This is the same ex that thought she was the satan incarnate only a few months ago.
Question:
Should I shun my female friend, too, or tell her I think she's out of line for talking to my ex and then posting on social media? I had deleted my ex from Facebook and I only learned of the pictures because my friend posted them from her account.
