- Joined
- Dec 20, 2012
- Messages
- 798
Guys,
Just going to do a little brain dump again this evening... it's been on my mind.
The company you keep has a huge effect on your frame of mind, your own perception of things around you and also others perception of you. Now don't get my wrong, friends are important, but be vigilant of who and when you hang out with.... especially if you are looking to go out to meet women with them.
I went out this weekend to watch the Sox game with 2 friends. Both a good guys but a little down on their luck when it comes to meeting girls. I didn't even know why but I had an AWFUL night when it came to meeting women. I was not feeling it at all, infact it just got to the point where the idea of approaching was just gone from my mind.
This is off the back of an amazing summer, the last 6 months. All Sunday I was thinking... what the heck was that about? Why was I so down on myself about it? Now... I'm not blaming these guys, my own frame of mind is my own fault and under my control, but it does have some impact on your thinking.
This summer, I went out of town a few times by myself and I also went out in Boston by myself... I went on this amazing run, I'd actually LIKE going out alone. I had no idea how or why but I KNEW by the end of the night I'd be in an awesome group of people and having girls approaching ME. It hardly made sense to me, but it was the way it was. I had an epic weekend in Philly at the end of August where I went out alone 3 nights in a row knowing nobody and had the time of my life. But each time I went out KNOWING I'd meet people. It was a totally different frame of mind. I went to bars even WITH friends other nights and I was feeling confident, rolling with it and girls were just gravitating towards me.
But for whatever reason, this weekend I wasn't feeling it. I got to the bar and quickly my friend was telling me about his woahs with this girl he likes. My other friend came along soon after and told us all about the "problems" with a bunch of girls he's been chasing all summer (problems = he's obsesses and they have never displayed any interest despite his insistence they have).
After an hour or so of it, we were standing about, just staring at the TV screens and I knew they just had NO hope of even attempting to talk to a girl that night... and I fell into that line of thinking I guess.
On the other hand, I have another friend who has sadly gone out of town for work for a few months now, who is like a machine. He's no PUA but he just LOVES meeting women, and he's GOOD. And when I go out with him I can't help but get into the frame of mind that I NEED to be meeting every hot girl we cross paths with.
This isn't a post about cutting friends. Friends are important. But when your intention is to go out meeting women. Be wary of your frame of mine, and the people and things around you which effect it. It's totally within your control, just be aware of it.
Just going to do a little brain dump again this evening... it's been on my mind.
The company you keep has a huge effect on your frame of mind, your own perception of things around you and also others perception of you. Now don't get my wrong, friends are important, but be vigilant of who and when you hang out with.... especially if you are looking to go out to meet women with them.
I went out this weekend to watch the Sox game with 2 friends. Both a good guys but a little down on their luck when it comes to meeting girls. I didn't even know why but I had an AWFUL night when it came to meeting women. I was not feeling it at all, infact it just got to the point where the idea of approaching was just gone from my mind.
This is off the back of an amazing summer, the last 6 months. All Sunday I was thinking... what the heck was that about? Why was I so down on myself about it? Now... I'm not blaming these guys, my own frame of mind is my own fault and under my control, but it does have some impact on your thinking.
This summer, I went out of town a few times by myself and I also went out in Boston by myself... I went on this amazing run, I'd actually LIKE going out alone. I had no idea how or why but I KNEW by the end of the night I'd be in an awesome group of people and having girls approaching ME. It hardly made sense to me, but it was the way it was. I had an epic weekend in Philly at the end of August where I went out alone 3 nights in a row knowing nobody and had the time of my life. But each time I went out KNOWING I'd meet people. It was a totally different frame of mind. I went to bars even WITH friends other nights and I was feeling confident, rolling with it and girls were just gravitating towards me.
But for whatever reason, this weekend I wasn't feeling it. I got to the bar and quickly my friend was telling me about his woahs with this girl he likes. My other friend came along soon after and told us all about the "problems" with a bunch of girls he's been chasing all summer (problems = he's obsesses and they have never displayed any interest despite his insistence they have).
After an hour or so of it, we were standing about, just staring at the TV screens and I knew they just had NO hope of even attempting to talk to a girl that night... and I fell into that line of thinking I guess.
On the other hand, I have another friend who has sadly gone out of town for work for a few months now, who is like a machine. He's no PUA but he just LOVES meeting women, and he's GOOD. And when I go out with him I can't help but get into the frame of mind that I NEED to be meeting every hot girl we cross paths with.
This isn't a post about cutting friends. Friends are important. But when your intention is to go out meeting women. Be wary of your frame of mine, and the people and things around you which effect it. It's totally within your control, just be aware of it.
