Friends paying for damaging your belongings?

[The Byronic Man]

What's the principle behind this?

Let's say a friend was driving your car while you were in the passenger seat (long story) and told you that he/she would be super careful with your car because he/she knows how much you care for it to keep it looking new. But in the process of parking your car, rubs the wheel against the curb. Would you expect your friend to pay for repairs/replacement? Would it matter if this friend was a FWB?

 

[Ryan]

make her pay you in sex/threesomes/whatever

 

[The Byronic Man]

make her pay you in sex/threesomes/whatever

My frame is that sex with me is something she needs to earn. Instead of sex as something I earn. Her fucking up my wheels is something I do not want to reward with sex. And my frame is so strong that she is always trying to come over and have sex with me. In fact, if she's hanging out with me and I don't initiate sex, she'll ask if she did something wrong.

I guess my question is more for friends in general. And I'd like to treat her like one since she is a FWB. Not a GF.

 

[Photon]

Not everything in life boils down to fairness and perfect restitution.

As a man, you should just let it go. You took on the risk when you let her drive your car. If you're that picky about it (I I wouldn't blame for that), you should simply not allow her to drive it, and feel absolutely no guilt about it.

 

[Knightrain]

If she broke it, she should pay for it in my opinion. Especially if she said she was going to be careful and you let her know that you really care about your car.

I wouldn't want any friends in my life who weren't willing to fix what they had broken.

In fact, if one of my "friends" damaged something I treasure and didn't offer to fix it, that'd be a big sign that they weren't real friends. Even if a stranger broke my car I'd hold them responsible...



But its ultimately your call, you seem to have full control of the relationship so just do whatever you feel like, you owe her nothing (unless of course you promised her something).