FRIENDZONED After Mere 2 Hrs, Would Ignoring It Work?

[perpetualsun]

Hi, I am hoping to get your opinion on how I should respond to a girl who claims she just got out of a relationship and doesn't think she wants to date anyone.

My friend met me at a club and introduced me to this Asian girl from Asia who's studying college in the US. I got too drunk and broke one of the rules regarding dance floor tactics and ended up making out with her. She became really inebriated and so my friend took her home after about 2 hours. I did get her number though and I sent her a text saying "hi, great meeting you, etc". She responded with a emoticon "".

After a few hours I asked her out to dinner and then she didn't respond for a day and a half before I got the following message:

HER: "Hi Jason, sry for late reply, im not sure if Jenny (my friend) told you I was just broke up with my ex last month, so I don't think Im ready for a new relationship now. But I really really glad if i can be your one of your friend."

At this point, I've never actually gotten one of these texts RIGHT after meeting a girl and so I don't know how to respond. I'm not that interested in her and was just trying to know her better to see how I felt about her.

I would like to use this as a learning opportunity on how to text a girl who friendzones you RIGHT after meeting you, instead of the usual cases where you met a girl for weeks before making a move.

My proposed idea is to deftly ignore what she wrote and instead respond:

ME: "hey! just got back from vacation. let me know if u ever drop by xxxxxx (the graduate school I'm studying at) and gluck with classes "

Is this something you guys would agree with? Thanks!

 

[Flames]

Break rapport. It's the only way...

 

[Richard]

NO! Don't use that "vacation" text. You should only send a text like that to a girl who you haven't talked to in a while! like 3 months +

Just send her a cold text, and build some rapport. Don't jump immediately to the date, you have to get her open to the idea first. She is in a bit of auto-reject because of her recent break up, but use that to your advantage.

You can still take her out as a friend, and can gradually warm her up to the idea as you get to know her and are able to decide whether she is compatible with you or not.

In addition, I think you juxtaposed yourself, and she's a little confused right now. You made out with her, so, she's open to a casual sexual relationship (seems like it anyway), and doesn't want to commit, so don't ask her to dinner. Instead, try taking her out casually, slipping in sexual frames (to gauge where her interest is at) and you should be able to still lay her.

Because you made out with her then sent her a dinner text, she assumes you want her as a girlfriend which is what she doesn't want!

-Richard

 

[trashKENNUT]

[erpetualsun,

"hi, great meeting you, etc". She responded with a emoticon "".

She's experienced.

HER: "Hi Jason, sry for late reply, im not sure if Jenny (my friend) told you I was just broke up with my ex last month, so I don't think Im ready for a new relationship now. But I really really glad if i can be your one of your friend."

She wanted you to bed her probably, Thus went auto-rejection. Maintain "friendliness" by insisting about Jenny and ex boyfriend.

I would like to use this as a learning opportunity on how to text a girl who friendzones you RIGHT after meeting you, instead of the usual cases where you met a girl for weeks before making a move.

This is not really about friendzone but rather auto-rejection. She thinks you're a mistake. IT can be hard to turn this around, but it's possible, i presume.

Zac

 

[Flames]

Ok I'm going to explain my previous answer. IF this is friendzone, which TBH isnt that likely after 3hrs then the only way out of that is breaking rapport, because friendzone happens when she's that comfortable she doesn't want to lose your friendship. The only other way is using pre-selection to force her out I it.

It's not really Auto rejection either because if that happens she'd be completely cold to you, and she wouldnt be speaking to you about what she wants. What it's more likely is its exactly what she told you and that she doesn't want a relationship, but when she does you'll more than likely be the first guy she'll be looking to.

So what you still need to do is break rapport BEFORE she friendzones you. And put yourself into less of a boyfriend role and more of a lover/ONS/FWB kind of role by not doing friendy or boyfriends types of things, like going shopping or going out on dates that don't go anywhere.

Breaking rapport a) gives her space b) gives her freedom to be attracted to you without 'consequence'

Also treating her as a friend now is rewarding her for doing something you don't want, which never ends well..

 

[trashKENNUT]

YOu can break rapport or GO the boyfriend route. I cannot say if you would lay her, because i don't have much experiences to back that up, but rather a consistent contact although not much, throughout a period of three months. You can probably get her out early, but breaking rapport is the same as getting out of there altogether.

i suggest just casually dial up things with her.

zac