FU/10 girls a week with Oh Pry: NYE, slapped, and escalation gone wrong.

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

As you will find in my journals board, I managed to get into a party on NYE and was thinking of calling both the Wisconsin girl (#3) and the French girl(#6). The Wisconsin girl told me she can't come because she is visiting her family a couple states over but the French girl came.

Ended up getting into the party with the French girl by my arm, it was like 9 PM when I got there. Everyone was having a good time it seemed and the Texas girl that called me to the party greeted the two of us. They had alcohol and we talked to some random people, it happened a week ago, don't remember all the details.

Then I started getting aggressive, grabbing her ass and kissing her on the neck, seeing others make out helped. Tried to French kiss her (makes sense right?), she turned away with a pissed off look on her face.

Me: What? Why are you angry?
Her: No, just, no.

I waited some more and we chatted but she didn't seem to be in the mood, seemed angry.

Me: Cheer up its new years
Her: I am not angry (frown on her face)
Me: Okay (leaning in and kissing her on the neck but she leaned away)

Well fuck, I chat with her anyways, she seemed pissed.

Me: So parties are not your thing huh? Wanna head out to see what's happening in Times Square?
Her: I love parties! (shouting and looking at me like I am crazy)
Me: Okay, fine, what drink do you want?
Her: I can get drinks for myself, don't need a butler

WTF?

Okay, so I head over to talk to some other random dudes at the party, thinking I will come back to her later on when she is more chill. Chat with these two MBA grads from NYU who will be going into consulting and ask them about their stories. Both had good stories to tell, and then they decided that they might want to see what is happening in Time Square.

An hour in, it's like 11, and I go back to check on my date. She recently finished talking to two girls and is standing around, approach her again.

Me: So, happier now?
Her: Ya sure
Me: Almost midnight
Her: You did not need to tell me that
Me: Come on, why so mad? (grab her ass again but she rolls her eyes)

I start kissing her on the neck a few time and she didn't put up as much LMR. Then I leaned in for a French kiss, locked lips, and she pushed me back. Slapped me hard across the face and shouted "no no!".

Entire room freezes, looked to see what was going on, and things got nasty.

One girl, fat one, came over and shouted "you have been bothering her the whole fucking night when she was clearly not into you!".

Another one came along and said "you should leave! you should leave!".

The girl that invited me said "you should get out before this gets nasty and they go over to comfort the girl I brought to the party". I have some people yelling at my face, one guy calls me a "sleaze", and I tell them I brought her along. One of the MBA grads comes over and tells them I brought her along as a date and got too cocky, they all seem to calm down but said I still shouldn't have been like that, she wasn't interested.

I decide to stick around to see if maybe I am not getting into trouble or anything, this hasn't been going so well.

Midnight happens, new years comes, and everyone is happy, even the girl I brought along but now she is with some other girls who are trying to protect her from me it seems.

I decide to go over to one of the girls and tell them I am sorry for doing what I did, I thought since she was my date for the night, it would go well. Get a lecture on why it is wrong to do this sort of stuff to women and how I should be a grown up. Apologize to the girl herself with her new friends around and tell her I am leaving her alone, one of her new friends jumps in and says "good leave her alone then!".

I walk away and talk to some more guys but it seems like now the impression of me has been bad. Text the girl, tell her I didn't mean for it to be like that, and I kinda assumed from our encounter at the store that she would be okay with it, wish her a happy new years and get no response. Got one days later saying I shouldn't be so aggressive in the future for my own good and that she just didn't think that's why I was calling her to the party.

Walk around during new years and see other people having a great time.

What do I do?

I decide to approach more random women on the street which you will hear about in an update to my journal!!!

Just hope that the screw up that happened at the party stays at that party.

 

[mindful]

I read your report to get some context on this girl. She said she was lonely in NYC and you invited her to the party. What girl would go with a guy she just met at a grocery store to a NYE party? It is usually spent with friends, obviously something she doesn't have. So with that, I think she was trying to have a good time and you were being way too sexual with her, especially in a public place where people are out to have fun and enjoy themselves. She wasn't comfortable with your aggression and you made her defensive when asking why. I think your expectations and hers were out of alignment or at the very least you weren't really being warm with her and trying to have a good time but instead just trying to get physical with her at the party. I think you should have just had a good time with her and enjoyed the party and worry about escalating later on in the night (or a slower build-up) so that when it's time to leave she would be comfortable with you and you can bring her home.

So in summary, I think you were way too sexual and misread the situation. Each time you made a physical move she kept getting more defensive, which kept burying you even further into a hole. I've never experienced this really but just my opinion. Interested in what others have to say.