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Girl #2: This one I approached today at the mall while I was looking for summer wear, although it wasn't planned by any means and so, this was totally indirect. It also broke my rule of never hitting on employees, but she was giggling a lot and giving me flirty eye contact, so it would have bothered me forever if I didn't try something.
Her: "Hi! Can I help you find anything?"
Me: "Um, yeah actually, I'm looking for some bright colored shirts for summer!"
Her: "Okay! Were you looking for any style of shirt in particular?"
Me: "Uhh.... No actually. Surprise me
"
Her: "Okay! *proceeds to lead me around the store*"
Me: "Just so you know, I'm being really stingy because I've already bought one thing from Express."
Her: "Express huh? You feelin' fly?"
Me: "Haha, I'm always feelin' fly!"
Her: "Haha, I totally understand... Story of my life actually, I'm always short on funds."
Me: "We're the problematic shoppers. Nobody can ever sell to us because we're always so damn picky."
Her: "Right? Haha!"
Me: "What's your name?"
Her: "Tarisha!"
Me: "AP. Nice to meet you!"
Her: "Nice to meet you too! Haha, I feel so helpful! (I don't think she used "helpful" exactly, all I remember is that she used something like this. Might have been "special")
She lead me around the store a couple times, but it was evident that I wasn't finding anything I wanted to buy. Her and I stood at the corner for a while, both just thinking.
Me: "I like how you're thinking too."
Her: "I know! I could have sworn I saw something more before! I'm sorry I'm not being very helpful..."
Me: "You're fine. I'm the one who's being picky. What about these T-Shirts?"
*We pick out a few T-Shirts for me before I finally ask her to get a fitting room ready for me.*
Me: "Your name is... Tarisha!"
Her: "Yep!"
Me: "What's my name?"
Her: "AP!"
Me: "Cool, you remembered"
Her: "Haha I know, we're so fly!"
*I went in and I changed, but neither of the shirts looked particularly flattering on me. One could have, but was too small, so I went out to ask for the medium.*
Me: "So I tried them both on, but the solid colored one was too small on me, and the striped one sorta made me look like Waldo."
Her: *laughs*
Me: "Do you think I could try on a medium?"
Her: "Sure! Lets *something* before they yell at me."
Me: "Why would they yell at you?"
Her: "There's a certain protocol we have to follow for *something*"
Me: "Oh, sorry then. I'd hate to get you in trouble."
Her: "Nope! You're fine."
I try on the shirt again, but still didn't like it, so I handed it back at the counter and walked back to the front of the store, where she was folding shirts.
Me: "Nope. Sorry."
Her: "That's okay! Bye!"
Me: "See ya!"
I took a few steps out, then went back inside.
Me: "Hang on, one question."
Her: "Sure!"
Me: "Do you have a boyfriend?"
Her: "Umm.... No, I don't"
Me: "I wanted to see if I could have your number"
Her: "Hahaha! Umm... sure! You can have it!"
Me: *Step to the side* "What is it?"
Her: *gives number*
Me: "Sweet! I"ll text you tonight."
Her: "I'm so excited"
This one is first confirmed number close since last summer. As I am typing this, she has just responded with "Hey AP! I just got off of work. And it's Teresa. XD
(Since I had to delete messages from my brick phone, some parts of the conversation were lost... However, I remember that somewhere between this interaction and the last, I mentioned that I only had 3 months of summer to stay in town before I was off to college.)
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Here is where I'm currently at with Teresa:
Her: "Hey AP I'm sorry I didn't respond I had a track meet that ran late and then I went to sleep. How are you?"
Me: "It's fine what are you doing this weekend?"
Her: "Relay for Life on Friday, Feed My Starving Children on Saturday and a movie. Umm,I don't know if I work yet... Why?"
Me: "You guys have relay for life this late??? Lmao I wanted to see if you wanted to meet up"
Her: "Haha, yeah What school do you go to? Hmmm, I'm not really sure about this weekend because I don't know if I work yet."
Me: "We could probably met up after work... Unless of course you plan on going straight to bed after your shift ends lol. I go to tartan"
Her: "Haha maybe. I honestly won't know until tomorrow because that is when they relase our schedules. Awesome, I know some people that go there xD"
Me: "Cool we'll have to talk about the people we both know when we hang out then.. But in the mean time, let me know what your schedule looks like tomorrow"
Her: "Umm, I have NHS in the morning, school, gotta bake cupcakes for a bake sale and then Relay for Life"
Me: "Nooooooooo, I mean let me know about your weekend schedule tomorrow, as in when you find out if you work or not lmao"
(No reply. Two days later I texted her something along the lines of "So are you free with weekend, or nah..?" to which I got no reply again. I decided to give her a week of radio silence, and texted her again in about 10 days.)
We shared a bit of small talk with lots of emoticons being sent by both parties, a lot about school and senior pranks, but soon I offered the date again. There was a long message on her part; a lot of lighthearted bantering in the beginning of it, but at the end, she answered my date question with something along the lines of "I'll have to see... Excuse me for being blunt, but what is it exactly that you want from me? Friendship? Romance?"
"Haha, i'm an 18 year old guy who asked you first if you had a boyfriend and then asked for your number when you said no... You seem like a smart girl, what do you think I'm interested in?" I responded.
(She took a while to respond, and so I figured I'd take a last ditch effort and send one more, "And now it's my turn to be blunt lol. Basically i'm inviting you on a date so you can get a chance to see if you like me, and I can have a chance to see if I like you. You can take it if you're curious, but if not, it's cool too just coffee, nothing too wacky or formal lmao" ...She ended up replying in the middle of my typing the message, and I had already sent it before seeing that she responed... Oops.)
Again paraphrasing her message for lack of a good memory or the real thing "I didn't at the time, but as of last week I do now... And considering you told me up front that you'd be leaving in 3 months, I figured a sort of hook up?"
"Hahaha, if that's what you want, there isn't a single guy my age who wouldn't be down for that! ...But it's still a bit early to tell if we even like each other yet, so let's start with that first before we move onto something else"
She then told me about how she was flattered by the offer, but would feel like that would betray the guy she was already with, and that she really liked him. She ended with an apology of some sorts I think.
"Haha, it's cool keep my number though, in case you want to change your mind for whatever reason. If I don't see you again this summer, good luck being a senior next year. You'll have a blast "
After that, the conversation lost the serious tone and it was back to lots of emoticons with her. She thanked me and said I was a great guy, and that she would "do that." And that if her and I didn't see each other by the end of summer, to have a great time in college.
I left the door open just in case, but I doubt anything will come of it later.
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I call this a FU because I know somewhere along the lines, if I had handled it better, I could have gotten much farther than this... It's all part of learning, but in order to learn from it, I need to not only know that I messed up, but where I messed up. I've got a few ideas in mind of where exactly I could improve in the future.
1) Moving too slowly... Perhaps the 10 day radio silence was too long, and during that time, the new guy made his way in where I did not.
2) Being too bold... Stating overtly that I only had 3 months before we even went on a date. Or not being bold enough... "Not directly agreeing that I'd like to hook up, or saying that we didn't even know if we liked each other yet and we should focus on that first.
3) Perhaps there was a better way to handle the shit test of "what is it exactly that you want from me" and even through text I hadn't yet acquired a good enough response to it.
4) Maybe I should have been more flirty
In any case, I would love any input for this field report because this is the farthest I've gotten so far with number closing minus the one with the athletic girl from last year, and I'll honestly say that was more luck than anything that she was so open to that.
Thanks in advance for any advice
Girl #2: This one I approached today at the mall while I was looking for summer wear, although it wasn't planned by any means and so, this was totally indirect. It also broke my rule of never hitting on employees, but she was giggling a lot and giving me flirty eye contact, so it would have bothered me forever if I didn't try something.
Her: "Hi! Can I help you find anything?"
Me: "Um, yeah actually, I'm looking for some bright colored shirts for summer!"
Her: "Okay! Were you looking for any style of shirt in particular?"
Me: "Uhh.... No actually. Surprise me
"Her: "Okay! *proceeds to lead me around the store*"
Me: "Just so you know, I'm being really stingy because I've already bought one thing from Express."
Her: "Express huh? You feelin' fly?"
Me: "Haha, I'm always feelin' fly!"
Her: "Haha, I totally understand... Story of my life actually, I'm always short on funds."
Me: "We're the problematic shoppers. Nobody can ever sell to us because we're always so damn picky."
Her: "Right? Haha!"
Me: "What's your name?"
Her: "Tarisha!"
Me: "AP. Nice to meet you!"
Her: "Nice to meet you too! Haha, I feel so helpful! (I don't think she used "helpful" exactly, all I remember is that she used something like this. Might have been "special")
She lead me around the store a couple times, but it was evident that I wasn't finding anything I wanted to buy. Her and I stood at the corner for a while, both just thinking.
Me: "I like how you're thinking too."
Her: "I know! I could have sworn I saw something more before! I'm sorry I'm not being very helpful..."
Me: "You're fine. I'm the one who's being picky. What about these T-Shirts?"
*We pick out a few T-Shirts for me before I finally ask her to get a fitting room ready for me.*
Me: "Your name is... Tarisha!"
Her: "Yep!"
Me: "What's my name?"
Her: "AP!"
Me: "Cool, you remembered
"Her: "Haha I know, we're so fly!"
*I went in and I changed, but neither of the shirts looked particularly flattering on me. One could have, but was too small, so I went out to ask for the medium.*
Me: "So I tried them both on, but the solid colored one was too small on me, and the striped one sorta made me look like Waldo."
Her: *laughs*
Me: "Do you think I could try on a medium?"
Her: "Sure! Lets *something* before they yell at me."
Me: "Why would they yell at you?"
Her: "There's a certain protocol we have to follow for *something*"
Me: "Oh, sorry then. I'd hate to get you in trouble."
Her: "Nope! You're fine."
I try on the shirt again, but still didn't like it, so I handed it back at the counter and walked back to the front of the store, where she was folding shirts.
Me: "Nope. Sorry."
Her: "That's okay! Bye!"
Me: "See ya!"
I took a few steps out, then went back inside.
Me: "Hang on, one question."
Her: "Sure!"
Me: "Do you have a boyfriend?"
Her: "Umm.... No, I don't"
Me: "I wanted to see if I could have your number
"Her: "Hahaha! Umm... sure! You can have it!
"Me: *Step to the side* "What is it?"
Her: *gives number*
Me: "Sweet! I"ll text you tonight."
Her: "I'm so excited
"This one is first confirmed number close since last summer. As I am typing this, she has just responded with "Hey AP! I just got off of work. And it's Teresa. XD
(Since I had to delete messages from my brick phone, some parts of the conversation were lost... However, I remember that somewhere between this interaction and the last, I mentioned that I only had 3 months of summer to stay in town before I was off to college.)
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Here is where I'm currently at with Teresa:
Her: "Hey AP
I'm sorry I didn't respond I had a track meet that ran late and then I went to sleep. How are you?"Me: "It's fine
what are you doing this weekend?"Her: "Relay for Life on Friday, Feed My Starving Children on Saturday and a movie. Umm,I don't know if I work yet... Why?
"Me: "You guys have relay for life this late??? Lmao I wanted to see if you wanted to meet up
"Her: "Haha, yeah
What school do you go to? Hmmm, I'm not really sure about this weekend because I don't know if I work yet."Me: "We could probably met up after work... Unless of course you plan on going straight to bed after your shift ends lol. I go to tartan
"Her: "Haha maybe.
I honestly won't know until tomorrow because that is when they relase our schedules. Awesome, I know some people that go there xD"Me: "Cool
we'll have to talk about the people we both know when we hang out then.. But in the mean time, let me know what your schedule looks like tomorrow"Her: "Umm, I have NHS in the morning, school, gotta bake cupcakes for a bake sale and then Relay for Life"
Me: "Nooooooooo, I mean let me know about your weekend schedule tomorrow, as in when you find out if you work or not lmao"
(No reply. Two days later I texted her something along the lines of "So are you free with weekend, or nah..?" to which I got no reply again. I decided to give her a week of radio silence, and texted her again in about 10 days.)
We shared a bit of small talk with lots of emoticons being sent by both parties, a lot about school and senior pranks, but soon I offered the date again. There was a long message on her part; a lot of lighthearted bantering in the beginning of it, but at the end, she answered my date question with something along the lines of "I'll have to see... Excuse me for being blunt, but what is it exactly that you want from me? Friendship? Romance?"
"Haha, i'm an 18 year old guy who asked you first if you had a boyfriend and then asked for your number when you said no... You seem like a smart girl, what do you think I'm interested in?" I responded.
(She took a while to respond, and so I figured I'd take a last ditch effort and send one more, "And now it's my turn to be blunt lol. Basically i'm inviting you on a date so you can get a chance to see if you like me, and I can have a chance to see if I like you. You can take it if you're curious, but if not, it's cool too
just coffee, nothing too wacky or formal lmao" ...She ended up replying in the middle of my typing the message, and I had already sent it before seeing that she responed... Oops.) Again paraphrasing her message for lack of a good memory or the real thing "I didn't at the time, but as of last week I do now... And considering you told me up front that you'd be leaving in 3 months, I figured a sort of hook up?"
"Hahaha, if that's what you want, there isn't a single guy my age who wouldn't be down for that! ...But it's still a bit early to tell if we even like each other yet, so let's start with that first before we move onto something else"
She then told me about how she was flattered by the offer, but would feel like that would betray the guy she was already with, and that she really liked him. She ended with an apology of some sorts I think.
"Haha, it's cool
keep my number though, in case you want to change your mind for whatever reason. If I don't see you again this summer, good luck being a senior next year. You'll have a blast "After that, the conversation lost the serious tone and it was back to lots of emoticons with her. She thanked me and said I was a great guy, and that she would "do that." And that if her and I didn't see each other by the end of summer, to have a great time in college.
I left the door open just in case, but I doubt anything will come of it later.
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I call this a FU because I know somewhere along the lines, if I had handled it better, I could have gotten much farther than this... It's all part of learning, but in order to learn from it, I need to not only know that I messed up, but where I messed up. I've got a few ideas in mind of where exactly I could improve in the future.
1) Moving too slowly... Perhaps the 10 day radio silence was too long, and during that time, the new guy made his way in where I did not.
2) Being too bold... Stating overtly that I only had 3 months before we even went on a date. Or not being bold enough... "Not directly agreeing that I'd like to hook up, or saying that we didn't even know if we liked each other yet and we should focus on that first.
3) Perhaps there was a better way to handle the shit test of "what is it exactly that you want from me" and even through text I hadn't yet acquired a good enough response to it.
4) Maybe I should have been more flirty
In any case, I would love any input for this field report because this is the farthest I've gotten so far with number closing minus the one with the athletic girl from last year, and I'll honestly say that was more luck than anything that she was so open to that.
Thanks in advance for any advice
